Re: Hi Everybody Happy Mothers Day! -- Lizzy

[Guest guest]

Lizzy,

Welcome back. Thanks for the beautiful sharing, thoughts and ideas.

Happy Mother's Day!

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- lizzyboo81 wrote:

> Hello All,

> I feel like I have not been on here forever but so much has been

> happening that I have not had much time. We went on 2 out of state

> trips had house guests and it was my birthday and my sons birthday.

> Beside that I think I had mentioned that my grandma has breast

> cancer so I have going to her surgerys and mettings. We also have a

> new home that needs landscaping! And I started to teach myself

> piano! I am doing good at it I can already play about 10 songs. (not

> to bad since I can't read music) Today my father-in-law comes for a

> visit from over seas and then in a week and a half we leave on

> another trip with him. I need a breather break!

>

> So anyway I just wanted to read up a little on some of the postings.

> Congrads to the new babys that are on the way! I am confident that

> they will be joy to your lives. I have 2 boys and I do like one

> poster said live backwards. When we go to the waterpark or zoo or

> even the sandbox and walking I enjoy every second of it. It is like

> therepy to me. They really are my sunshines. My oldest son comes

> home from school with finger paintings and I frame them and hang

> them in my room or his room. He feels special. I spend time reading

> with them and build their brains. Things my parents never did for

> me. We make a fuss over birthdays and blow ballons and make a cake.

> I think having kids is a great. It is not for everybody but it can

> be alot of fun!

>

> For my birthday I got 2 books I got the eggshells book and I hate

> you dont leave me book. I started to read the eggshells book out

> loud too my husband and we both really enjoy it so far. I really

> think my dad would benifit from this book. I tried to tell him of it

> but he won't listen. I even feel bad for him because he has it 2

> times over, his boss also has a personality disorder but is seeking

> treatment unlike my mother. so weather he is at home or work he

> deals with bull.

>

> Today they are having a mothers day tea at my church. Last year I

> went but it was hard on me so this year I decided to not go. I

> almost got guilted into going but I stuck my guns and am staying at

> home. I will go to church tomorow not because I want to but because

> we have missed 3 weeks now from all trips and guest so I feel

> guilty. I still don't care for mothers day. It was exactly 4 years

> ago on May 9 that my n/c with my mom started. The only thing I like

> to do on mothers day is hang out at home with the boys and bbq some

> burgers.

>

> I was glad to hear to that I was not the only one who has feeling of

> rage at times. Dealing with moms like that can be so stressful and

> sometimes when I would say something outloud in the heat of the

> moment to my husband or grandma they would scold me like the

> thoughts I had were wrong. But I read the ubm book and for the first

> time felt kind of normal and to hear real people posting these same

> feeling really puts things into prespective. No we are not rageful

> just because we had a thought of rage. Very good to hear that thank

> you! There are times I wish she would have a stroke or go into a

> coma just anything to slow her down. I just don't know how much more

> of her I can take. If only she would be a normal mother.

>

> I hope you all (*men and women, we all had a mohter*) can suround

> yourself with positive people on mohters day weather it be a small

> child to hold your hand, a woman who touched your life in a positive

> way, the stong backbone that you can always rely on, And the soft

> arms that can hold you when you cry. I hope you all have a happy

> mothers day and do something kind for the woman in your life who

> does matter! Lizzy

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