Re: memory--Katrina

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Katrina, I don't know if my way of dealing with it is healthy, but

it's how I do it. When I was about 6 or 7, I had some things I

desperately want to forget/put behind me. I remember being sad and

frustrated at first because they were the things I thought of when I

woke up in the morning, because random, everyday things would remind

me at any time, and because I couldn't stop thinking about it all.

Eventually, however, these thoughts were not the first thing in my

head each morning. At times, I was suprised to find my mind on

something else and soon, I forgot altogether. (not that forgetting

totally is wise, because I did have to come back and grieve later).

But, when something happens to me now, I remember that once I do

grieve, I can just take comfort in the fact that some day it won't

be the first thing on my mind when I wake up or keep me awake at

night. It won't pop into my head at random times.

That probably sounds so obvious, but there were times when I

remember really feeling like I was going to relive painful memories

for the rest of my life, but that didn't turn out to be true. I

haven't forgotten them, but I don't relive them all the time, if you

know what I mean.

Does that help??????? Trish

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> I know the painful memories of the past too. They

> creep up out of nowhere sometimes when you're going

> about your day. Another KO reminded me they try to

> think of the good memories and hold on to them as much

> as possible.

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