Re: Re: Where I could have been -- Lizzy

[Guest guest]

lizzy,

That's great. Thanks for sharing these inspiring things. Keep coming

back.

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- smhtrain2 wrote:

> Drumroll and cymbals, please! This is so great! Thank you for

> posting about all the great things that can happen when we can step

> away from all the dysfunction.

>

> Sylvia

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> >

> > Well in the last 4 years of n/c my life I can say with confidence

> > has changed for the better. After paying all the court fees off

> from

> > my parents taking my to court, (which were over ten grand) we are

> > finaly able to buy a home. At the same time my parents are

> > refinancing their home because nada has out of control spending.

> > When I left her cc dept was about fifteen grand but I am sure she

> > has more than doubled it by now.

> >

> > I am much healthier now. I learned to cook and I exercise. I go to

> > the Dr. every year for a check up and the Dentist every 6 months.

> I

> > see my nueurologist every 3 months. I vaccation to destress! Since

> I

> > have left I also lost all my baby weight and any additional weight

> I

> > was carrying for a grand total of 40lb lighter! I did this by

> eating

> > right and walking alot! I have not seen my mom but a family friend

> > did just a few days ago and told me she got REALLY fat! And he

> told

> > me she had ugly lipstick on lol.

> >

> > Another change I am proud of is that I have been able to build

> > relationships. I know all she does is tear them down. She typicaly

> > can't keep a friend unless she buys their love. I am able to keep

> my

> > children, husband, other family and friends loving me without

> > manipulation, and I manage to maintain friendships.

> >

> > The thing that makes me the most proud is that my husband tells me

> > he is proud of all the thing I have accomplished! I did not pick

> up

> > her bad habbits. I don't hurt people like she does. I do good

> things

> > because I want to. I do things how and when I want and I don't

> like

> > to be bossed. I look back at her and I see where I could have been

> > and I am thankful for my freedom, I want to keep it even if I have

> > to run, fight, I don't care. Now that I have it I will never give

> it

> > up. I have fears but not today. Today I feel good, today I feel

> > powerful. I will take it while I can.

> >

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