Need positive thoughts y'all

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

I am very sorry that you and your family are going through such a nightmare.

Sending you a ton of positive thoughts & cyberhugs.

Take it one minute at a time & keep hanging in there.

Merra

>

>

> Hey Aspires list friends,

>

> I have been away having survived swine flu, then a minor head injury

> that has quickly turned into post concussion syndrome (not good news).

> My brain is continuing to swell, and I am seeing a neurologist tomorrow

> afternoon to figure this out.

>

> My 28 yr old daughter had a car accident 3 wks ago and the CT scan

> showed a brain tumor. She will need brain surgery in the next 7-14 days.

> This is on top of my separating from hubby who is now homeless and

> sleeping in the family minivan. ( I relented temporarily because of the

> cold temps outside and he is on the couch. This is untenable and must

> stop soon for my children's sake.)

>

> Second born daughter (24) who is probably AS, is drinking, in multiple

> dangerous casual sexual relationships...as a a single mom we had to

> confront her and convince her to willingly give her 2 toddler girls to

> their dad for safety's sake.

>

> How do I spell crisis? M-Y- F-A-M-I-L-Y...

>

> Please pray, chant, obsess, burn candles on our behalf right now,

> whatever you do and believe in will be heartfelt, I'm sure.

>

> I am overwhelmed with this situation and wondering how to survive with a

> little peace and serenity, recently considering driving into the sunset

> and running away without a forwarding address.

>

> It doesn't seem to stop at my address, but I do know that I am capable

> and willing to trust that all will work out.

>

> Sharon - AS and crazy in Alabama

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,I will definitely keep praying for you. At least they found the brain tumor early! Thank God everyone has lived through all this! You are meant to survive, I think. At least, you are one ASpie who will let us know who you are and let us care together. I think that is a real strength- caring together makes a burden lighter, I think. Online, you will never be alone. I will be praying for protection for your daughter- that she stay alive and safe-- too. That would be so scary for me. If your computer is not tactile defensive, I am sending many firm cyber-hugs. I would yell at your husband that he should be sending $$ and working, but I don't think he would hear me--if you yell at him, know that I

agree.To: aspires-relationships Sent: Tue, October 13, 2009 7:24:10 PMSubject: Re: Need positive thoughts y'all

Sharon,

I am very sorry that you and your family are going through such a nightmare.

Sending you a ton of positive thoughts & cyberhugs.

Take it one minute at a time & keep hanging in there.

Merra

>

>

> Hey Aspires list friends,

>

> I have been away having survived swine flu, then a minor head injury

> that has quickly turned into post concussion syndrome (not good news).

> My brain is continuing to swell, and I am seeing a neurologist tomorrow

> afternoon to figure this out.

>

> My 28 yr old daughter had a car accident 3 wks ago and the CT scan

> showed a brain tumor. She will need brain surgery in the next 7-14 days.

> This is on top of my separating from hubby who is now homeless and

> sleeping in the family minivan. ( I relented temporarily because of the

> cold temps outside and he is on the couch. This is untenable and must

> stop soon for my children's sake.)

>

> Second born daughter (24) who is probably AS, is drinking, in multiple

> dangerous casual sexual relationships. ..as a a single mom we had to

> confront her and convince her to willingly give her 2 toddler girls to

> their dad for safety's sake.

>

> How do I spell crisis? M-Y- F-A-M-I-L-Y. ..

>

> Please pray, chant, obsess, burn candles on our behalf right now,

> whatever you do and believe in will be heartfelt, I'm sure.

>

> I am overwhelmed with this situation and wondering how to survive with a

> little peace and serenity, recently considering driving into the sunset

> and running away without a forwarding address.

>

> It doesn't seem to stop at my address, but I do know that I am capable

> and willing to trust that all will work out.

>

> Sharon - AS and crazy in Alabama

>

[Guest guest]

Sharon wrote:

> Hey Aspires list friends,

>

> I have been away having survived swine flu, then a minor head injury

> that has quickly turned into post concussion syndrome (not good news).

> My brain is continuing to swell, and I am seeing a neurologist tomorrow

> afternoon to figure this out.

>

> My 28 yr old daughter had a car accident 3 wks ago and the CT scan

> showed a brain tumor. She will need brain surgery in the next 7-14 days.

> This is on top of my separating from hubby who is now homeless and

> sleeping in the family minivan. ( I relented temporarily because of the

> cold temps outside and he is on the couch. This is untenable and must

> stop soon for my children's sake.)

>

> Second born daughter (24) who is probably AS, is drinking, in multiple

> dangerous casual sexual relationships...as a a single mom we had to

> confront her and convince her to willingly give her 2 toddler girls to

> their dad for safety's sake.

[ snip ]

Whooo! Oof! Bad; very bad. My sympathies. Really!

Do like in airplanes: " Put on your own mask FIRST! " That is, ...

Please Sharon, _take care of yourself_ FIRST.

- Bill, dx AS

--

WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA

http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm

[Guest guest]

Sharon, I'm thinking positive thoughts for U!

- Helen

[Guest guest]

Sharon,That's intense.  What can I say.  I hope your spirit and love for your kids will carry you through these challenging times.  You're successful every day you persevere. 

 

Hey Aspires list friends,

I have been away having survived swine flu, then a minor head injury

that has quickly turned into post concussion syndrome (not good news).

My brain is continuing to swell, and I am seeing a neurologist tomorrow

afternoon to figure this out.

My 28 yr old daughter had a car accident 3 wks ago and the CT scan

showed a brain tumor. She will need brain surgery in the next 7-14 days.

This is on top of my separating from hubby who is now homeless and

sleeping in the family minivan. ( I relented temporarily because of the

cold temps outside and he is on the couch. This is untenable and must

stop soon for my children's sake.)

Second born daughter (24) who is probably AS, is drinking, in multiple

dangerous casual sexual relationships...as a a single mom we had to

confront her and convince her to willingly give her 2 toddler girls to

their dad for safety's sake.

How do I spell crisis? M-Y- F-A-M-I-L-Y...

Please pray, chant, obsess, burn candles on our behalf right now,

whatever you do and believe in will be heartfelt, I'm sure.

I am overwhelmed with this situation and wondering how to survive with a

little peace and serenity, recently considering driving into the sunset

and running away without a forwarding address.

It doesn't seem to stop at my address, but I do know that I am capable

and willing to trust that all will work out.

Sharon - AS and crazy in Alabama

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon:

I feel your pain and am sending you cyber hugs. A partner and I had to do an audio tape for a counseling session in school. We had to redo our 1st session as I sounded like Robin on cocaine on a bad day. lol

We re did it and nailed it. I was a parent who just discovered drugs in my daughters room. My factious daughter was named Lacey after my daughters best friend. I told my partner in class that is all you need to know and we winged it. It worked for both of us.

She is a recovering addict and clean for 8 years. This was perfect for us as I play a concerned parent like I breath air.

This audio tape is a combination of my real life and one I made up as I was talking.

One thing that came out of our session was MY role in enabling her. Now the spot light is on me. She has already given me resources and strategies for my daughter, but the real issue is me and the role I have played in her life that brings us to this moment.

This is real in my life: I just discovered my nephew who is 20 is in a rehab. facility in California for alcohol and has been there for over 120 days. My sister is just now talking about it. She says he is doing good but has a lot of issues to work out. Like autism, addiction can be a family affair. It runs in "my" family.

She has recommended a book for me titled: "When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us : Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and Getting on with Our Lives." She totally recommends this book for me. It was recommended by one of her groups. I have not read it.

One thing my sister and I agree on is we are both fixers and how that has played out as a mother and when to let go.

I hope you can find the support YOU need on this path in your journey.

Cyber Hugs!

[Guest guest]

Dear wise and wondrous Aspires friends,

Wow! You all are really great...thank you,thank you for the warm and

encouraging wishes.

My heart is truly touched and I do not feel alone knowing all of you out

there in cyberland!

Good thoughts, all-- I will put *my* mask on first Bill, thanks for

that...yes I am working to amend my fixing and enabling tendencies

(hard work that, but honest work indeed), and you are a good example for

me to emulate there ( I often think about you and your family and your

successes in moving forward, as I blunder through my current

day-to-day)..., thank you for approving of my temporary insanity

as I have yelled many, many times trying to be heard ( you made me laugh

out loud--a much needed humor break)...thanks for the cyber-hugs too,

neither my computer or myself are tactile defensive...and thanks all for

your thoughts toward my family members, especially daughter Jessie with

the brain tumor.

Wierd backstory, she had a car accident nine years ago, when the

radiologist found this tumor on a CT scan and then the neurosurgeon

later said " not a tumor, just a vacuous space in the brain " .

Apparently, he was wrong...she has lived, given birth four years ago,

struggled with what we thought was bi-polar (now brain tumor effects

instead?), and voila! another car accident and they find the tumor in

the same place.

They say it is now calcified and must come out, but her family doctor is

dragging his feet on the referrals...aaargh!

It's not like this is elective plastic surgery right? Anyway, it's a

miracle she has had functionality for these nine years and it's probably

not cancer because she would be dead by now if it were (strangely dark

comfort, yet it is a reassurance).

And then there's my accidental journey into brain injury--though

temporary, this has been very disturbing. I have lost the ability to

tolerate sounds/music/noise/conversation/movement/crowds of people...as

a musician I have temporarily not been able to work/play piano or sing

at my jobs.

It's almost like this upset the AS neurology inside me and I've suddenly

become very sensory overloaded, in addition to being super-slow

thinking.

There may be a bit of progress in the last two days...the fact that I

can write again today without any pain in my head and type more easily

is super-spiffy folks ;-). Woo-hoo!

Thanks for your compassionate and caring concern sent my way these last

few days...wow, I just can't tell you how much this means.

Sharon- AS and experimenting with the positive serotonin effects of dark

chocolate and good friends!

>

> Hi Sharon:

>

> I feel your pain and am sending you cyber hugs. A partner and I had to

do an audio tape for a counseling session in school. We had to redo our

1st session as I sounded like Robin on cocaine on a bad day.

lol

>

> We re did it and nailed it. I was a parent who just discovered drugs

in my daughters room. My factious daughter was named Lacey after my

daughters best friend. I told my partner in class that is all you need

to know and we winged it. It worked for both of us.

>

> She is a recovering addict and clean for 8 years. This was perfect for

us as I play a concerned parent like I breath air.

>

> This audio tape is a combination of my real life and one I made up as

I was talking.

>

> One thing that came out of our session was MY role in enabling her.

Now the spot light is on me. She has already given me resources and

strategies for my daughter, but the real issue is me and the role I have

played in her life that brings us to this moment.

>

> This is real in my life: I just discovered my nephew who is 20 is in a

rehab. facility in California for alcohol and has been there for over

120 days. My sister is just now talking about it. She says he is doing

good but has a lot of issues to work out. Like autism, addiction can be

a family affair. It runs in " my " family.

>

> She has recommended a book for me titled: " When Our Grown Kids

Disappoint Us : Letting Go of Their Problems, Loving Them Anyway, and

Getting on with Our Lives. " She totally recommends this book for me. It

was recommended by one of her groups. I have not read it.

>

> One thing my sister and I agree on is we are both fixers and how that

has played out as a mother and when to let go.

>

> I hope you can find the support YOU need on this path in your journey.

>

> Cyber Hugs!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

To: aspires-relationships Sent: Sun, October 18, 2009 12:41:38 AMSubject: Re: Need positive thoughts y'all

Dear wise and wondrous Aspires friends,

Wow! You all are really great...thank you,thank you for the warm and

encouraging wishes.

My heart is truly touched and I do not feel alone knowing all of you out

there in cyberland!

Good thoughts, all-- I will put *my* mask on first Bill, thanks for

that...yes I am working to amend my fixing and enabling tendencies

(hard work that, but honest work indeed), and you are a good example for

me to emulate there ( I often think about you and your family and your

successes in moving forward, as I blunder through my current

day-to-day). .., thank you for approving of my temporary insanity

as I have yelled many, many times trying to be heard ( you made me laugh

out loud--a much needed humor break)...thanks for the cyber-hugs too,

neither my computer or myself are tactile defensive... and thanks all for

your thoughts toward my family members, especially daughter Jessie with

the brain tumor.Thank you for your kind words. I pray that everything comes out OK for your daughter- hey, I am AS, and mean this literally about the tumor as well as figuratively : ~ )

Wierd backstory, she had a car accident nine years ago, when the

radiologist found this tumor on a CT scan and then the neurosurgeon

later said "not a tumor, just a vacuous space in the brain".I am glad she is still alive and well- I agree with you that it is a miracle! And, they found it a second time! I think Someone wants her to live and be well!

Apparently, he was wrong...she has lived, given birth four years ago,

struggled with what we thought was bi-polar (now brain tumor effects

instead?), and voila! another car accident and they find the tumor in

the same place.

They say it is now calcified and must come out, but her family doctor is

dragging his feet on the referrals... aaargh!

It's not like this is elective plastic surgery right? Anyway, it's a

miracle she has had functionality for these nine years and it's probably

not cancer because she would be dead by now if it were (strangely dark

comfort, yet it is a reassurance) .

And then there's my accidental journey into brain injury--though

temporary, this has been very disturbing. I have lost the ability to

tolerate sounds/music/ noise/conversati on/movement/ crowds of people...as

a musician I have temporarily not been able to work/play piano or sing

at my jobs.

It's almost like this upset the AS neurology inside me and I've suddenly

become very sensory overloaded, in addition to being super-slow

thinking.So, you now have sensory issues- are you even more ASpie for a few days, till they go away? As a child, I was really sensitive to certain foods, and certain types of clothing. May you return to what you are used to, soon- "return to normal" is what I went to say, and then reflected on the fact that neither you nor I would qualify. Kind of like the war in the Middle East, when Churchill was in office, and (I think it was he) asked why they all did not sit down like "good Christians" and settle it????...So

There may be a bit of progress in the last two days...the fact that I

can write again today without any pain in my head and type more easily

is super-spiffy folks ;-). Woo-hoo!Yipppeeeeee

Thanks for your compassionate and caring concern sent my way these last

few days...wow, I just can't tell you how much this means.

Sharon- AS and experimenting with the positive serotonin effects of dark

chocolate and good friends!I think that serotonin is a great answer to the question of why I love dark chocolate so much. I just eat it, and don't think too hard !