Guest guest Posted March 2, 2010 Report Share Posted March 2, 2010 Hello, My bf is an adoptee. Since we do not know who his biological parents are, I wonder if he has Asperger's due to heredity. What are your experiences with Asperger's and heredity? Any of you have parents who have it? Or children? Also, any advice for us as we both just found this Asperger's out and he is going to go for testing soon. He actually took the online test and scored way above the mark for Asperger's. In terms of relating and relationships, who here is married to someone, or in a relatonship with an Aspie? I am patient and would like the tools to approach this relationship to encourage growth. Thanks. EVL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 > What are your experiences with Asperger's and heredity? Any of you have parents who have it? Or children? I and my brothers show definite signs of AS, though none of us have been officially diagnosed. I can't remember any sign of AS in my parents. My husband has a high likelihood of being Aspie, and his father is, to my eyes, undiagnosed but obviously AS. We have two kids -- one has been labelled PDD-NOS. All of us are very high functioning and have led relatively normal lives. Yeah, I'd say I think there's a genetic component! > Also, any advice for us as we both just found this Asperger's out and he is going to go for testing soon. He actually took the online test and scored way above the mark for Asperger's. In terms of relating and relationships, who here is married to someone, or in a relatonship with an Aspie? I am patient and would like the tools to approach this relationship to encourage growth. I think awareness is the key here ... from both partners. The AS person needs to know how s/he is affected, and how the effects can affect the relationship. [Apology for the tongue twister sentence.] The non-AS person needs to fully understand how their partner will differ from the norm, and how that will affect things. You also need to know yourself well enough to know what you *need* in a relationship. You may not be able to get it from an AS partner, in which case the relationship is, sad to say, doomed. For example, if you need your partner to note when you come home from work upset, and to comfort you without your saying a word, and also to know when you need alone time instead of comforting, you won't get this from an Aspie -- we just can't read body language that well. But if you can tell us that your continued happiness requires a box of chocolates on Valentine's Day ... we may need to write it on our calendars, but it will get done. --Liz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Evl, I personally think there is genetics involved. I am dx'd AS, I have a nephew who is beyond doubt AS though I do not know if his parents have gotten him dx'd as my brother in in some denial. I see AS in my mother, my brother, a niece, and my own kids. Jennie Asperger's and adoptee > Hello, > > My bf is an adoptee. Since we do not know who his biological parents are, > I wonder if he has Asperger's due to heredity. > > What are your experiences with Asperger's and heredity? Any of you have > parents who have it? Or children? > > Also, any advice for us as we both just found this Asperger's out and he > is going to go for testing soon. He actually took the online test and > scored way above the mark for Asperger's. In terms of relating and > relationships, who here is married to someone, or in a relatonship with an > Aspie? I am patient and would like the tools to approach this > relationship to encourage growth. > > Thanks. > EVL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 eastvillagelady wrote: > What are your experiences with Asperger's and heredity? > Any of you have parents who have it? Or children? I would seem to have it, as does my one sibling (a sister). She is more seriously affected than me. Whereas I can lead a pretty typical life, she was not quite as fortunate. I suspect that mom was also on the spectrum to the extreme. She definitely could not 'pass' in the NS world. Whenever people (even her family) spoke of her, it was always within the context of how " odd " she was. (Thus, how much of my AS behaviors are attributable to my wiring, and how much to being raised by a very bizarre 'role model' (quotes intentional) will probably never be known.) Not sure about dad, as he divorced my mom (and his children) while we were still toddlers. While a teen, I attempted to forge a relationship with my dad, yet that effort was only partially successful as his heart really wasn't in it. However, based on what I remember of him, he too could have been on the 'passing' end of the spectrum (like me). No official diagnoses for any of us. We're just a family of " odd ducks " . Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2010 Report Share Posted March 3, 2010 Jennie Unknown wrote: > Evl, > > I personally think there is genetics involved. I am dx'd AS, I have a nephew > who is beyond doubt AS though I do not know if his parents have gotten him > dx'd as my brother in in some denial. I see AS in my mother, my brother, a > niece, and my own kids. > > Jennie There is *no doubt* the bulk of the autism-spectrum *is genetic*. Since there is no *objective test* for autism, there's always some question as to *exactly who* is autistic in any degree. That said, Formally dx'd: me; and a 1st cousin (long institutionalized). Plus, as Jennie puts it, " I see AS " in one son (probably also my daughter), my mother and a grandson. The latter was formally dx'd Tourette's way before AS was on anyone's mind. I believe he was mis-diagnosed, actually is AS. > > Asperger's and adoptee >> Hello, >> >> My bf is an adoptee. Since we do not know who his biological parents are, >> I wonder if he has Asperger's due to heredity. >> >> What are your experiences with Asperger's and heredity? Any of you have >> parents who have it? Or children? [ snip ] - Bill, dx AS; ...professional clinical geneticist, retired -- WD " Bill " Loughman - Berkeley, California USA http://home.earthlink.net/~wdloughman/wdl.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2010 Report Share Posted March 4, 2010 I believe there is much evidence that spectrum membership is a genetic club. That said, how functional you are is also definitely influenced by environmental insults--which is true for spectrum and non spectrum alike. However, it shows more in spectrum members because we are already having trouble fitting in. Those environmental insults are varied and many. My son, myself, my mother, my uncle, nieces and nephews all on the spectrum. > > There is *no doubt* the bulk of the autism-spectrum *is genetic*. > > Since there is no *objective test* for autism, there's always some > question as to *exactly who* is autistic in any degree. > > That said, Formally dx'd: me; and a 1st cousin (long > institutionalized). > Plus, as Jennie puts it, " I see AS " in one son (probably also my > daughter), my mother and a grandson. > The latter was formally dx'd Tourette's way before AS was on anyone's > mind. I believe he was mis-diagnosed, actually is AS. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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