imogene/sharon

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we havent had any experience with fence climbing but it seems to me that

climbing a fence would require a continualthought process to climb it, so i

dont believe that most of our lovedones would be capaable of doing that. but

again, every person is diferent. hugs, sharon m

---- Iward27663@... wrote:

Jan, you have taught me a tremendous amount. I am always indebted to you for

that. The various things you have shared have endeared me to you. Please

continue to help and inform. There are always many new ones eager to know just

as I was.

Yes, the first thing I thought of was double lock doors. A lock for inside

as well as outside. But, I haven't gotten anyone to install them yet. Work is

slowing down for my SIL so I should be able to get him to do it soon. Right

now, I was thinking of some type of alarm I could install. But, the locks are

coming. I don't want to loose my man out here on this busy highway. He may

decide to direct traffic. With traffic traveling at 50 mph? I don't think so.

Have any of you had an experience with your LO climbing over a fence? I am

wondering if it is safe for him to go in the back yard? It would be so nice if

he had some freedom.

I pray that my LO doesn't become combative. He is such a sweetheart, but I

know it all comes about depending on the area of the brain that is damaged.

We're all a chugging along. You do the same Jan, with love in your heart,

and a spring in your step. A smile makes us smile all over.

Imogene

In a message dated 11/20/2006 2:50:51 PM Central Standard Time,

janetcolello@... writes:

Hi Imogene,

My husband was such a bugger to keep at home when it came to driving. You

have heard all the anguish I went through with him. I even called the highway

patrol to come to the house and speak with him, which did no good. He wore a

bracelet, but it did no good if no one could find him. He didn't so much

escape out the door to walk and get lost, Although, once and only once did a

neighbor find him a block away from us walking down the street with his walker

on

a very narrow road where cars coming around a corner may not have seen him.

The neighbor came tearing up to the house to ask me if I knew Jim was down

the street, which I didn't. Because, everytime I was in the shower is when he

would take off. Even though I always tried to take my showers when he was

sleeping, sometimes he would wake up and go. I couldn't hear him leave.

They didn't have the GPS Systems like they do now, or I would have gotten

one.

I double bolted the front door and put a slide lock way up high on the door

that he could not reach unless he got on a step stool, which he could not

reason. When I went into the shower, he could never get out again, since I

would

lock it when I went into the shower and would unlock it when I came out,

since I could keep an eye on him then. I always knew the days when he would be

really confused, because his eyes would have that glazed - over look and those

are the days that I kept the double bolt locked. I got the kind that needs a

key from the inside to lock the bolt and not the kind with a latch that you

turn. That way I could lock the bolt and hide the key. Having an alarm on the

door would have never kept my husband from getting out, it would just make

me aware that he is out, but he would have been argumentive with me to keep

him from going out or even getting him back in. The double bolt was the only

thing that worked for me and the Kill Switch installed in the

car.

Those two things gave me much relief!

Funny though, I would give anything to have those days back now that Jim is

fading away and can't even walk on his own or stand on his own without

assistance. At least he had some spunk then. It is sad to watch them fade. I am

glad that I am not with all that anxiety and frustration as I once was. I, as

we all do, wish I could have my husband back to normal. But, it is only

wishful thinking and will never happen I know. It is so sad what this disease

does

to all of us.

Keep strong Imogene. I have read about you not feeling well. I pray for your

strength. You have given many of us strength reading your posts. You are so

cheerful and a wonderful person.

With much love and gratitude for all the help you have given me through the

time you have been here with us...........Jan

Jan, I am so happy to see you helping others. Thank you for the site on

tracking our

loved ones.

I am interested now in getting alarms and special indoor locks for the doors.

My Sweetheart hasn't gotten lost yet, but there is the first time. We do

belong to the

" Safe Return " program put on by the Alzheimer's association. Each of us wear

a bracelet. If he gets lost, anyone can call the Alzheimer's number, and in

turn AD will call me or my children. If I am out, have left my husband at

home, and have an accident or get sick and go to the hospital, my bracelet

lets

anyone call the Alzheimer's Association who in turn will call my children

and

tell them My husband is home alone. We signed up for this when he was

diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Since then, he was been diagnosed with LBD, but

we

still wear our bracelets. I wish the LBD association had such a program, but

I

realize we are just getting up and off the ground.

I am so happy to see the LBD Association putting on so many programs to

teach the general public, as well as caregivers, about LBD. The other

services

will come later, when we get more chapters, and volunteers to run them.

Imogene

Caregiver for my True Texas Gentleman husband of 36 years. He has LBD with

Parkinsonism.