Re: Backlash! Please help...

[Guest guest]

I have this happen all the time. Wish I could say everything works

always, but that's not how life works. I will guarantee everyone has

this same issue. The thing is to recognize when it is happening, try

to defuse and become present. Let the thoughts and feelings that you

are experiencing be what they are. Don't try to change them, try to

experience them, fully, mindfully, without judgement. Relish the

experience, this is how you are right now, so live it to it's

fullest. Good or bad.

Greg

>

> Recently I've been having an interesting problem.

> Working the ACT book and doing the exercises, I've experienced

periods

> of genuine acceptance -- allowing difficult emotions to just be

there -

> - and going on with my life accordingly. Sometimes I can do it for

an

> hour, sometimes for three hours at a time. It's been great.

> But then -- very often --

> A backlash occurs.

> Having had three hours of acceptance, I suddenly fly off the handle

> over nothing. Before I even know it, I'm reacting in the " old way " -

-

> it's as if all the ACT that I've learned just goes flying out the

> window and I'm right back where I started.

>

> Has anyone had similar experiences and if so, does anyone have any

> advice?

>

> Thank you!

>

[Guest guest]

Hello, i suffer from social anxiety, general anxiety disorder and depression. I

am kind of becoming homeless because of that, would anyone be able to help with

the accomodation?

Thank you

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[Guest guest]

Here's a thought (like as if that will be helpful ;-)

..... before when you would suddenly fly off the handle it wasn't

the " old way " of behaving it was the " only way " of behaving. Kind

of cool that we get more variety in our reactions now with ACT.

I loved 's reply about these emotional surges being part of

the process when someone begins ACT work. Takes a load of my mind --

I thought for sure I was the only one.

Today I had a very unexpected political backlash at work ... to

which my immediate response was the " old way " (poor me, I can't

handle this) then I got to explore some of the new possibilities

that ACT could provide. I get it now that I actually have a CHOICE

how I can respond and WHO I want to be in this situation.

Ahhhh to have just a little more wiggle room in the chinese finger

trap.

Thanks so much for posting this.

~Em

>

> Recently I've been having an interesting problem.

> Working the ACT book and doing the exercises, I've experienced

periods

> of genuine acceptance -- allowing difficult emotions to just be

there -

> - and going on with my life accordingly. Sometimes I can do it for

an

> hour, sometimes for three hours at a time. It's been great.

> But then -- very often --

> A backlash occurs.

> Having had three hours of acceptance, I suddenly fly off the

handle

> over nothing. Before I even know it, I'm reacting in the " old

way " --

> it's as if all the ACT that I've learned just goes flying out the

> window and I'm right back where I started.

>

> Has anyone had similar experiences and if so, does anyone have any

> advice?

>

> Thank you!

>