Ron.....Others, On Weeping

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"The Prime Minister made a beautiful speech, which was followed by a reasonable one from the leader of the Opposition; and I must say that I simply was notable to listen without weeping buckets of tears."Thank you for sharing this fabulous breakthrough in governmental policy in Australia. I fear the Native Americans will never be afforded such an auspicious occasion in the United States.I was beyond intrigued by your admission of "weeping buckets of tears." I have not witnessed a single tear from any member of my husband's family (I believe them all to be AS). Some might say "you aren't with them 24/7 Anita, they may weep privately." Until a year and a half ago, I would have had to ponder that as a possibility.A year and a half ago, my husband's sister lost her 20 year old daughter to ovarian cancer. She suffered intensely for about a year before she passed. It was truly a tragedy in every sense of the word. From the day of her diagnosis right through to her funeral and the unveiling of her headstone a year after her death (we are Jewish and this is customary), not one member of his family shed a tear. They stared in silence, didn't talk about anything, distanced themselves from the "in laws" (NT's). This situation was the impetus for my husband to take note, as he saw his siblings (5 of them), mother, uncle and two cousins literally "shut down" at a time where it would be rare for anyone to not feel the emotion that comes with the death of a 20 year old. (Meaning, there's nothing charged concerning her, unlike say, having a stormy relationship with a parent or someone and not feeling the emotion that would cause tears. A 20 year old is an innocent in that regard, so there would be no bad blood, or animus in this case.)There was a brunch both after the funeral and the unveiling a year later, which is standard in most families and religions. The odd part was it sounded like a party from the moment they began to eat, until late into the night. The NT in-laws sort of huddled together and comforted each other between outbursts of tears. We intentionally sought out pictures of our deceased niece and talked about her. The rest of the family does not speak about her at all, to this day. It's like she never existed.I later learned that my husband nor his siblings shed a tear when their father passed away (which was before I met my husband.)Noteworthy, his sisters husband left her after the death of their daughter, his brother is now separated, his other sister's marriage is in trouble, we are in trouble. The interesting exception is his other brother who seems happily married, but his wife is Fragile X. The NT in-laws, who all talk to each other constantly for emotional support feel the death of our niece cemented the suspicion that the whole family is AS.Question: Are you, or others who are AS and can weep........ the exception? Is part of AS an inability to cry because of the difficulty accessing emotion? Regards,Anita