Guest guest Posted January 23, 2008 Report Share Posted January 23, 2008 I'm at my wits end with my husband. Our now 5 yr old was diagnosed as AS when he was 3. I never put it together that was what was making my husband a social recluse to us and the rest of the world. I didn't understand why he had outbursts over simple things. I now see that some things really overwhelm him and I try to accommodate those things. The problem is we have a 7 yr old and a 5 yr old. My hubby wants me to go back to school to finish my degree. I only have 33 hrs. left to finish so taking 2 classes a sememster it will take about 5 semesters. It's still so far off, but yet so close. He can't handle the kids at all. I think I'm going to get a baby sitter even against his wishes on my school night because he just goes bonkers with them running around and being loud little boys...especially the 5 yr old with AS. He can't handle him at all. He made the comment the other day that really put things into perspective for me. He said " all she wants me to do is think outside the box " . I almost started laughing because I realized he doesn't even see the box or know what it consists of the see outside of it. He's on meds, I'm on meds, the kids are on meds and we are still all on a downward spiral. I left in Oct. for a couple of weeks so he could see he needed help. I turned the bill paying over to him hoping he would see how far behind we were and try to get caught up on things since he made the big bucks and I didn't. That was a huge mistake! We make each other miserable. I'm ready to leave, but feel sorry for him because he really does not see things for what they are so everything gets taken out of proportion. He is trying hard, I know he is, but with the two kids, I'm all out of energy emotionally and physically. I don't know if I should stay and work through the outbursts and take over his check or if it would be better for him to have peaceful evenings without us to do what he wants in his own space without being interrupted. He says he wants us to stay, but I just need some encouragement and advice in every area. I have nothing else left to put into the relationship and we've been married 9 years....things are just getting worse...please help... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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