Guest guest Posted June 28, 2004 Report Share Posted June 28, 2004 Hi, I hope you don't mind my jumping right in with a question. I have a friend whose daughter, Tara, age nine, has Asperger's. Tara's mother has recently had a stroke, so I'm taking Tara along with my children to the beach, library, etc. sometimes this summer. When I am with Tara, she asks me questions non-stop. She needs to know every detail of an event I describe, and why it happened that way. But most of the time, I feel like my answers don't satisfy her--I feel like she's thinking, " No, that's not what I meant... " Only once did I give her an answer that got an " Oh, _I_ see! " reaction (instead of just generating more questions). I had asked her not to throw rocks into the water, and she wanted to know why. I told her it was because it would set a bad example for my three-year-old, who imitates everything the big kids do. As I said it, I had the feeling that she would like the answer, that it would make sense to her. I was right. My question to you is, why? I feel like if I could put my finger on what it was about that answer that satisfied her, I would be able to do a better job answering her other questions. Thanks a lot. Abigail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 .. When I am with Tara, she asks me questions non-stop. She needs to know every detail of an event I describe, and why it happened that way. But most of the time, I feel like my answers don't satisfy her--I feel like she's thinking, " No, that's not what I meant... " Only once did I give her an answer that got an " Oh, _I_ see! " reaction (instead of just generating more questions). I had asked her not to throw rocks into the water,******* and she wanted to know why.******* Abigail, I highlighted the most important part of your question. Our kids need to know ‘why’ otherwise they don’t understand and it doesn’t stick. ly this is way to complex for me to get into, but if you are interested Michele Winner www.socialthinking.com has written a couple books on this. One is called ‘Inside Out: What Makes A Person With Social Cognitive Deficits Tick?’ If her mother belongs to the State Autism society they may have this book to loan. Good luck and explaining to her was the right thing to do, good for you…..Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 .. When I am with Tara, she asks me questions non-stop. She needs to know every detail of an event I describe, and why it happened that way. But most of the time, I feel like my answers don't satisfy her--I feel like she's thinking, " No, that's not what I meant... " Only once did I give her an answer that got an " Oh, _I_ see! " reaction (instead of just generating more questions). I had asked her not to throw rocks into the water,******* and she wanted to know why.******* Abigail, I highlighted the most important part of your question. Our kids need to know ‘why’ otherwise they don’t understand and it doesn’t stick. ly this is way to complex for me to get into, but if you are interested Michele Winner www.socialthinking.com has written a couple books on this. One is called ‘Inside Out: What Makes A Person With Social Cognitive Deficits Tick?’ If her mother belongs to the State Autism society they may have this book to loan. Good luck and explaining to her was the right thing to do, good for you…..Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 .. When I am with Tara, she asks me questions non-stop. She needs to know every detail of an event I describe, and why it happened that way. But most of the time, I feel like my answers don't satisfy her--I feel like she's thinking, " No, that's not what I meant... " Only once did I give her an answer that got an " Oh, _I_ see! " reaction (instead of just generating more questions). I had asked her not to throw rocks into the water,******* and she wanted to know why.******* Abigail, I highlighted the most important part of your question. Our kids need to know ‘why’ otherwise they don’t understand and it doesn’t stick. ly this is way to complex for me to get into, but if you are interested Michele Winner www.socialthinking.com has written a couple books on this. One is called ‘Inside Out: What Makes A Person With Social Cognitive Deficits Tick?’ If her mother belongs to the State Autism society they may have this book to loan. Good luck and explaining to her was the right thing to do, good for you…..Gail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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