Guest guest Posted November 1, 2004 Report Share Posted November 1, 2004 Dear Ashok, You cannot bar teen Sex by law.It is not feasible. Sex is something so personal. What one needs is values, to teach them that sex is more than a physical feeling. I'll let you into something personal. when my sister and i were growing up, my mother, being way ahaed of her times, sat with us to discuss the " birds and the bees " . i can proudly say that i did not have to resort to chaep books to learn about sex. if i had any questions, i would approach her! but the point i was getting to was, when she told us about sex, she said i will not tell you not to have sex before marriage, or that premarital sex is bad.But remember, sex is the clsest you can come to a person. it is " physically " nice, but more than that, with the right person, it is emotionally fulfilling. so do it only when you are very sure. Years later, now i realise how right she was. I'll always respect her for this. Of course, those days, the AIDS threat etc. was not much known. When my daughter grows up, i intend to give her the same message, with a " dose " on the " goodness " of condoms attached. In fact in college, i was the most " knowledgeable " girl in the batch in these matters. In fact i often had to explian the non-veg jokes to the girls.! Love, Anchita On Sun, 31 Oct 2004 Ashok Bhaskar wrote : > > >i like to dramatize or generalize or oversimplify to make something clear -- take into account this before reading the following -- > > " marriages are made in the heaven " so goes the popular adage -- > >aha ! > >what about divorces then ? > >when i first came to this country i firmly believed that divorce is humbug -- > >here life taught me that there are 'marriages' where divorce is the healthiest thing to do-- > >here the rate is in the ballpark of 50% and people proclaim it without much shame or conflict--- > >i have been brooding about this problem over the years -- > >the terrible fallout is all these innocent children who are bounced back and forth like balls between mom and dad -- so called custody battles and settlements -- there is the single parent ( mostly mom ) families living on public welfare and then the dysfunctional families where often one or both spouse comes from a dysfunctional family. > >and then there is the aspect of children out of wedlock which has been so accepted >in this society-- also young teen couples wait to be able to have a " grand " wedding -- now a lot of these couples as they grow up and realize their full personalities in their early to mid twenties they often realize that they are " incompatible " and do not want marry and seperate -- there are still custody battles -- thanks to the court -- > >what does all this sound like - chaos -- the resultant is soring mental illness in children and adult alike -- > >my two cents -- >any community that has more than 5% ( arbitrary# ) divorce rate is an " unhealthy " community. > >marriage should be respected as an " institution " in the league of " temples " and " hospitals " -- the healing begins at home -- if there is an extended supportive nondysfunctional family ofcourse !! > >premarital sex should be strongly prohibited -- particularly in the teens -- by law ?? > >divorce should be extremely hard to get -- i.e., it should go through the same level of scrutiny as of a murder trial -- ofcourse in a family court with a benevolent judge who understands the previously set values and is honest enough to give a health judgement !! > >i would like to hear from different members on this topic -- particularly from the psychiatrists of the group -- > >namaste and ram-ram-- > >ashok bhaskar '84 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2004 Report Share Posted November 1, 2004 beautiful -- mom-daughter interaction -- the best antidrug and anti STD and anti teen motherhood -- TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN -- start at 10- 11 when they are still listening 100% - pre hormonal !! << You cannot bar teen Sex by law.>> WRONG -- if you lobby -- that will eb next -- Teen smoking and drinking is illegal in the US of A !! asok 84 " Dr.Bhushan Patil " wrote: Dear Ashok, You cannot bar teen Sex by law.It is not feasible. Sex is something so personal. What one needs is values, to teach them that sex is more than a physical feeling. I'll let you into something personal. when my sister and i were growing up, my mother, being way ahaed of her times, sat with us to discuss the " birds and the bees " . i can proudly say that i did not have to resort to chaep books to learn about sex. if i had any questions, i would approach her! but the point i was getting to was, when she told us about sex, she said i will not tell you not to have sex before marriage, or that premarital sex is bad.But remember, sex is the clsest you can come to a person. it is " physically " nice, but more than that, with the right person, it is emotionally fulfilling. so do it only when you are very sure. Years later, now i realise how right she was. I'll always respect her for this. Of course, those days, the AIDS threat etc. was not much known. When my daughter grows up, i intend to give her the same message, with a " dose " on the " goodness " of condoms attached. In fact in college, i was the most " knowledgeable " girl in the batch in these matters. In fact i often had to explian the non-veg jokes to the girls.! Love, Anchita On Sun, 31 Oct 2004 Ashok Bhaskar wrote : > > >i like to dramatize or generalize or oversimplify to make something clear -- take into account this before reading the following -- > > " marriages are made in the heaven " so goes the popular adage -- > >aha ! > >what about divorces then ? > >when i first came to this country i firmly believed that divorce is humbug -- > >here life taught me that there are 'marriages' where divorce is the healthiest thing to do-- > >here the rate is in the ballpark of 50% and people proclaim it without much shame or conflict--- > >i have been brooding about this problem over the years -- > >the terrible fallout is all these innocent children who are bounced back and forth like balls between mom and dad -- so called custody battles and settlements -- there is the single parent ( mostly mom ) families living on public welfare and then the dysfunctional families where often one or both spouse comes from a dysfunctional family. > >and then there is the aspect of children out of wedlock which has been so accepted >in this society-- also young teen couples wait to be able to have a " grand " wedding -- now a lot of these couples as they grow up and realize their full personalities in their early to mid twenties they often realize that they are " incompatible " and do not want marry and seperate -- there are still custody battles -- thanks to the court -- > >what does all this sound like - chaos -- the resultant is soring mental illness in children and adult alike -- > >my two cents -- >any community that has more than 5% ( arbitrary# ) divorce rate is an " unhealthy " community. > >marriage should be respected as an " institution " in the league of " temples " and " hospitals " -- the healing begins at home -- if there is an extended supportive nondysfunctional family ofcourse !! > >premarital sex should be strongly prohibited -- particularly in the teens -- by law ?? > >divorce should be extremely hard to get -- i.e., it should go through the same level of scrutiny as of a murder trial -- ofcourse in a family court with a benevolent judge who understands the previously set values and is honest enough to give a health judgement !! > >i would like to hear from different members on this topic -- particularly from the psychiatrists of the group -- > >namaste and ram-ram-- > >ashok bhaskar '84 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2004 Report Share Posted November 1, 2004 beautiful -- mom-daughter interaction -- the best antidrug and anti STD and anti teen motherhood -- TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN -- start at 10- 11 when they are still listening 100% - pre hormonal !! << You cannot bar teen Sex by law.>> WRONG -- if you lobby -- that will eb next -- Teen smoking and drinking is illegal in the US of A !! asok 84 " Dr.Bhushan Patil " wrote: Dear Ashok, You cannot bar teen Sex by law.It is not feasible. Sex is something so personal. What one needs is values, to teach them that sex is more than a physical feeling. I'll let you into something personal. when my sister and i were growing up, my mother, being way ahaed of her times, sat with us to discuss the " birds and the bees " . i can proudly say that i did not have to resort to chaep books to learn about sex. if i had any questions, i would approach her! but the point i was getting to was, when she told us about sex, she said i will not tell you not to have sex before marriage, or that premarital sex is bad.But remember, sex is the clsest you can come to a person. it is " physically " nice, but more than that, with the right person, it is emotionally fulfilling. so do it only when you are very sure. Years later, now i realise how right she was. I'll always respect her for this. Of course, those days, the AIDS threat etc. was not much known. When my daughter grows up, i intend to give her the same message, with a " dose " on the " goodness " of condoms attached. In fact in college, i was the most " knowledgeable " girl in the batch in these matters. In fact i often had to explian the non-veg jokes to the girls.! Love, Anchita On Sun, 31 Oct 2004 Ashok Bhaskar wrote : > > >i like to dramatize or generalize or oversimplify to make something clear -- take into account this before reading the following -- > > " marriages are made in the heaven " so goes the popular adage -- > >aha ! > >what about divorces then ? > >when i first came to this country i firmly believed that divorce is humbug -- > >here life taught me that there are 'marriages' where divorce is the healthiest thing to do-- > >here the rate is in the ballpark of 50% and people proclaim it without much shame or conflict--- > >i have been brooding about this problem over the years -- > >the terrible fallout is all these innocent children who are bounced back and forth like balls between mom and dad -- so called custody battles and settlements -- there is the single parent ( mostly mom ) families living on public welfare and then the dysfunctional families where often one or both spouse comes from a dysfunctional family. > >and then there is the aspect of children out of wedlock which has been so accepted >in this society-- also young teen couples wait to be able to have a " grand " wedding -- now a lot of these couples as they grow up and realize their full personalities in their early to mid twenties they often realize that they are " incompatible " and do not want marry and seperate -- there are still custody battles -- thanks to the court -- > >what does all this sound like - chaos -- the resultant is soring mental illness in children and adult alike -- > >my two cents -- >any community that has more than 5% ( arbitrary# ) divorce rate is an " unhealthy " community. > >marriage should be respected as an " institution " in the league of " temples " and " hospitals " -- the healing begins at home -- if there is an extended supportive nondysfunctional family ofcourse !! > >premarital sex should be strongly prohibited -- particularly in the teens -- by law ?? > >divorce should be extremely hard to get -- i.e., it should go through the same level of scrutiny as of a murder trial -- ofcourse in a family court with a benevolent judge who understands the previously set values and is honest enough to give a health judgement !! > >i would like to hear from different members on this topic -- particularly from the psychiatrists of the group -- > >namaste and ram-ram-- > >ashok bhaskar '84 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 1, 2004 Report Share Posted November 1, 2004 beautiful -- mom-daughter interaction -- the best antidrug and anti STD and anti teen motherhood -- TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN -- start at 10- 11 when they are still listening 100% - pre hormonal !! << You cannot bar teen Sex by law.>> WRONG -- if you lobby -- that will eb next -- Teen smoking and drinking is illegal in the US of A !! asok 84 " Dr.Bhushan Patil " wrote: Dear Ashok, You cannot bar teen Sex by law.It is not feasible. Sex is something so personal. What one needs is values, to teach them that sex is more than a physical feeling. I'll let you into something personal. when my sister and i were growing up, my mother, being way ahaed of her times, sat with us to discuss the " birds and the bees " . i can proudly say that i did not have to resort to chaep books to learn about sex. if i had any questions, i would approach her! but the point i was getting to was, when she told us about sex, she said i will not tell you not to have sex before marriage, or that premarital sex is bad.But remember, sex is the clsest you can come to a person. it is " physically " nice, but more than that, with the right person, it is emotionally fulfilling. so do it only when you are very sure. Years later, now i realise how right she was. I'll always respect her for this. Of course, those days, the AIDS threat etc. was not much known. When my daughter grows up, i intend to give her the same message, with a " dose " on the " goodness " of condoms attached. In fact in college, i was the most " knowledgeable " girl in the batch in these matters. In fact i often had to explian the non-veg jokes to the girls.! Love, Anchita On Sun, 31 Oct 2004 Ashok Bhaskar wrote : > > >i like to dramatize or generalize or oversimplify to make something clear -- take into account this before reading the following -- > > " marriages are made in the heaven " so goes the popular adage -- > >aha ! > >what about divorces then ? > >when i first came to this country i firmly believed that divorce is humbug -- > >here life taught me that there are 'marriages' where divorce is the healthiest thing to do-- > >here the rate is in the ballpark of 50% and people proclaim it without much shame or conflict--- > >i have been brooding about this problem over the years -- > >the terrible fallout is all these innocent children who are bounced back and forth like balls between mom and dad -- so called custody battles and settlements -- there is the single parent ( mostly mom ) families living on public welfare and then the dysfunctional families where often one or both spouse comes from a dysfunctional family. > >and then there is the aspect of children out of wedlock which has been so accepted >in this society-- also young teen couples wait to be able to have a " grand " wedding -- now a lot of these couples as they grow up and realize their full personalities in their early to mid twenties they often realize that they are " incompatible " and do not want marry and seperate -- there are still custody battles -- thanks to the court -- > >what does all this sound like - chaos -- the resultant is soring mental illness in children and adult alike -- > >my two cents -- >any community that has more than 5% ( arbitrary# ) divorce rate is an " unhealthy " community. > >marriage should be respected as an " institution " in the league of " temples " and " hospitals " -- the healing begins at home -- if there is an extended supportive nondysfunctional family ofcourse !! > >premarital sex should be strongly prohibited -- particularly in the teens -- by law ?? > >divorce should be extremely hard to get -- i.e., it should go through the same level of scrutiny as of a murder trial -- ofcourse in a family court with a benevolent judge who understands the previously set values and is honest enough to give a health judgement !! > >i would like to hear from different members on this topic -- particularly from the psychiatrists of the group -- > >namaste and ram-ram-- > >ashok bhaskar '84 > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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