needing reassurances at school re: work

[Guest guest]

Hi,

A new dilemna. Our dd with OCD/ADD is not having a good year

academically so far. There are several reasons, some of which we have

a little control of since she does have an IEP. However, I don't

know quite what to do about her constant need for reassurances at

school about being on track. They don't know about her OCD at school

and I really don't want to tell them. We will in a small community

and I fear it would be detrimental to her socially. Word gets around

really fast here!!!!! But I could talk around it and talk about

behaviors without a label.

Have any of you experienced this and if so, what has worked for you?

They are open about me coming in and talking to the team of teachers,

but what do I say? I would appreciate any help. She is " paralized "

by it sometimes at school, as the teacher said.

Thanks. I hope you are all having a good day today!!!! Ellen

[Guest guest]

Well, since the teachers/school are willing to work with you on this,

you might just say she's developed this reassurance/question habit or

need that has to be addressed so you all can work on stopping it;

perhaps an off-the-record/IEP type thing

Have you talked to your dd about this? What if you & her & the

teachers agreed that the teacher (or each teacher? how many?) will

only answer her once each time; OR will only answer so many per day

or per class. You might start out at a higher number and work

towards a lower number of responses to dd. If dd knows this is OCD,

then she'll know the why of doing this. You could also say that it's

driving teachers/classmates a bit crazy, kids always like the

teachers to like them, etc.

Is she concerned she's not following the instructions right or

something when you say " on track " ?

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> Hi,

> A new dilemna. Our dd with OCD/ADD is not having a good year

> academically so far. There are several reasons, some of which we

have

> a little control of since she does have an IEP. However, I don't

> know quite what to do about her constant need for reassurances at

[Guest guest]

Well, since the teachers/school are willing to work with you on this,

you might just say she's developed this reassurance/question habit or

need that has to be addressed so you all can work on stopping it;

perhaps an off-the-record/IEP type thing

Have you talked to your dd about this? What if you & her & the

teachers agreed that the teacher (or each teacher? how many?) will

only answer her once each time; OR will only answer so many per day

or per class. You might start out at a higher number and work

towards a lower number of responses to dd. If dd knows this is OCD,

then she'll know the why of doing this. You could also say that it's

driving teachers/classmates a bit crazy, kids always like the

teachers to like them, etc.

Is she concerned she's not following the instructions right or

something when you say " on track " ?

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> Hi,

> A new dilemna. Our dd with OCD/ADD is not having a good year

> academically so far. There are several reasons, some of which we

have

> a little control of since she does have an IEP. However, I don't

> know quite what to do about her constant need for reassurances at

[Guest guest]

Well, since the teachers/school are willing to work with you on this,

you might just say she's developed this reassurance/question habit or

need that has to be addressed so you all can work on stopping it;

perhaps an off-the-record/IEP type thing

Have you talked to your dd about this? What if you & her & the

teachers agreed that the teacher (or each teacher? how many?) will

only answer her once each time; OR will only answer so many per day

or per class. You might start out at a higher number and work

towards a lower number of responses to dd. If dd knows this is OCD,

then she'll know the why of doing this. You could also say that it's

driving teachers/classmates a bit crazy, kids always like the

teachers to like them, etc.

Is she concerned she's not following the instructions right or

something when you say " on track " ?

Just some quick thoughts!

>

> Hi,

> A new dilemna. Our dd with OCD/ADD is not having a good year

> academically so far. There are several reasons, some of which we

have

> a little control of since she does have an IEP. However, I don't

> know quite what to do about her constant need for reassurances at