Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 My husband was just diagnosed OCD. Then the lightbulb went off. Our daughter, 10 definately suffers from OCD. And I am suffering along with them. We found what appears to be a wonderful therapist. I know we have a long road ahead. Please tell me I'll make it! 'IT'S ALL ABOUT ME' right now! They are in therapy, and I just wonder if I should go too! I'm reading excellent books on OCD, but I get more depressed over it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 I think we all know what it's like in the " It's all about me " stage. The events that led to my son's " breakdown " and diagnosis were two very traumatic family problems, one between my husband and I, and the other with my mom getting very, very ill with no warning (she is recovering slowly). Of course I was traumatized as well by those things, and was very depressed and distraught. Then when started losing it, it was like the last straw. Now a year has passed since my near-divorce and my mom's lung-ectomy (or whatever they call it) and about six months since 's diagnosis and I can say there are more good days than bad now, and my depression is mostly gone. (I have not been on any anti-depressant, as I think my depression is " situational " and not chemical) I felt like I couldn't go on another minute, even thought about all the " methods " of not going on. Of course I knew I had to go on and never actually tried not to, but there were some very dark days. After 6 months on zoloft and 4 on risperdal he is doing a lot better. Our family dynamics are all messed up still, though, and we have far to go. But now I am feeling hope again, and I want to go on and see this out. If you have someone you can go to, even for less formal therapy (like your minister, or a good friend) it does help so much to talk to someone who cares. I have some close girlfriends, one in particular whose husband is bipolar, who have really been there for me this year. You will make it. Take some time for yourself when you are able. Sometimes I just drive to a pretty park for a half hour and look at the flowers. Once in a while I go to lunch with a friend (did that today!). I also like to get lost in a good book (not an OCD book, though! I read those, too, but they are not good for me when I need a break from it). Hang in there. Kim in IA ( 15, OCD ) thisispathetic123 wrote: > My husband was just diagnosed OCD. Then the lightbulb went off. > Our daughter, 10 definately suffers from OCD. And I am suffering > along with them. We found what appears to be a wonderful > therapist. I know we have a long road ahead. Please tell me I'll > make it! 'IT'S ALL ABOUT ME' right now! They are in therapy, and I > just wonder if I should go too! I'm reading excellent books on OCD, > but I get more depressed over it. > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed > at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators > are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, > Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription > issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, > at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , > louisharkins@... . > > > > > * Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 I think we all know what it's like in the " It's all about me " stage. The events that led to my son's " breakdown " and diagnosis were two very traumatic family problems, one between my husband and I, and the other with my mom getting very, very ill with no warning (she is recovering slowly). Of course I was traumatized as well by those things, and was very depressed and distraught. Then when started losing it, it was like the last straw. Now a year has passed since my near-divorce and my mom's lung-ectomy (or whatever they call it) and about six months since 's diagnosis and I can say there are more good days than bad now, and my depression is mostly gone. (I have not been on any anti-depressant, as I think my depression is " situational " and not chemical) I felt like I couldn't go on another minute, even thought about all the " methods " of not going on. Of course I knew I had to go on and never actually tried not to, but there were some very dark days. After 6 months on zoloft and 4 on risperdal he is doing a lot better. Our family dynamics are all messed up still, though, and we have far to go. But now I am feeling hope again, and I want to go on and see this out. If you have someone you can go to, even for less formal therapy (like your minister, or a good friend) it does help so much to talk to someone who cares. I have some close girlfriends, one in particular whose husband is bipolar, who have really been there for me this year. You will make it. Take some time for yourself when you are able. Sometimes I just drive to a pretty park for a half hour and look at the flowers. Once in a while I go to lunch with a friend (did that today!). I also like to get lost in a good book (not an OCD book, though! I read those, too, but they are not good for me when I need a break from it). Hang in there. Kim in IA ( 15, OCD ) thisispathetic123 wrote: > My husband was just diagnosed OCD. Then the lightbulb went off. > Our daughter, 10 definately suffers from OCD. And I am suffering > along with them. We found what appears to be a wonderful > therapist. I know we have a long road ahead. Please tell me I'll > make it! 'IT'S ALL ABOUT ME' right now! They are in therapy, and I > just wonder if I should go too! I'm reading excellent books on OCD, > but I get more depressed over it. > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed > at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators > are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, > Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription > issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, > at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , > louisharkins@... . > > > > > * Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2004 Report Share Posted September 17, 2004 I think we all know what it's like in the " It's all about me " stage. The events that led to my son's " breakdown " and diagnosis were two very traumatic family problems, one between my husband and I, and the other with my mom getting very, very ill with no warning (she is recovering slowly). Of course I was traumatized as well by those things, and was very depressed and distraught. Then when started losing it, it was like the last straw. Now a year has passed since my near-divorce and my mom's lung-ectomy (or whatever they call it) and about six months since 's diagnosis and I can say there are more good days than bad now, and my depression is mostly gone. (I have not been on any anti-depressant, as I think my depression is " situational " and not chemical) I felt like I couldn't go on another minute, even thought about all the " methods " of not going on. Of course I knew I had to go on and never actually tried not to, but there were some very dark days. After 6 months on zoloft and 4 on risperdal he is doing a lot better. Our family dynamics are all messed up still, though, and we have far to go. But now I am feeling hope again, and I want to go on and see this out. If you have someone you can go to, even for less formal therapy (like your minister, or a good friend) it does help so much to talk to someone who cares. I have some close girlfriends, one in particular whose husband is bipolar, who have really been there for me this year. You will make it. Take some time for yourself when you are able. Sometimes I just drive to a pretty park for a half hour and look at the flowers. Once in a while I go to lunch with a friend (did that today!). I also like to get lost in a good book (not an OCD book, though! I read those, too, but they are not good for me when I need a break from it). Hang in there. Kim in IA ( 15, OCD ) thisispathetic123 wrote: > My husband was just diagnosed OCD. Then the lightbulb went off. > Our daughter, 10 definately suffers from OCD. And I am suffering > along with them. We found what appears to be a wonderful > therapist. I know we have a long road ahead. Please tell me I'll > make it! 'IT'S ALL ABOUT ME' right now! They are in therapy, and I > just wonder if I should go too! I'm reading excellent books on OCD, > but I get more depressed over it. > > > > Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed > at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . > Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., > Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators > are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, > Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription > issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, > at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , > louisharkins@... . > > > > > * Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2004 Report Share Posted September 19, 2004 You will get through it. We have all been in the " dark of night " with OCD. I can remember when my son first revealed his thoughts to me, how I'd wake up first thing in the morning with the realization and the fear and helplessness feeling, and I'd go to bed the same at night. Then eventually as it began to be controlled with medication and when I realized just how many other mothers out there are dealing with the same problem, it just seemed to be more " tolerable " . The people on this site made me feel less alone. Of course, we have tough days now and then when the symptoms come back or the side effects of his med make him impulsive. Overall, though, I see him smiling and enjoying life like other kids, and I can appreciate that oh so much more than a parent who doesn't have to deal with OCD in a child. I think this disorder definitely teaches us what is important and helps us to be grateful for those things. Good luck, and know that there are brighter days ahead. in Southern Illinois we're new My husband was just diagnosed OCD. Then the lightbulb went off. Our daughter, 10 definately suffers from OCD. And I am suffering along with them. We found what appears to be a wonderful therapist. I know we have a long road ahead. Please tell me I'll make it! 'IT'S ALL ABOUT ME' right now! They are in therapy, and I just wonder if I should go too! I'm reading excellent books on OCD, but I get more depressed over it. Our list archives, bookmarks, files, and chat feature may be accessed at: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group// . Our list advisors are Gail B. , Ed.D., Tamar Chansky, Ph.D., Aureen Pinto Wagner, Ph.D., and Dan Geller, M.D. Our list moderators are Birkhan, Castle, Fowler, Kathy Hammes, Joye, Kathy Mac, Gail Pesses, and Kathy . Subscription issues or suggestions may be addressed to Louis Harkins, list owner, at louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... , louisharkins@... . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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