Re: Garrett's in the hospital

[Guest guest]

Dearest Corinna,

I am so sorry for your heartache. Hang in there...so many of us are thinging

of you sending you our love and support. It will get better, Garrett will get

better.

Beverly in CA

[Guest guest]

Oh Corinna,

I'm so sorry it has come to this. I can't imagine the anguish you must

feel. My daughter had one night recently of " just wanting to die " but by the

next morning she was o.k. again. But that evening I kept thinking of what it

would be like if her depression got bad enough that she really, honestly, wanted

to die. I hope and pray that the hospital is a good one who can really help

Garrett. There are many people on this list who have had to hospitalize their

children and in most cases it is a turning point for the better.

Take this time to recharge your batteries and your marriage. That is one

thing that I have heard from parents over and over - you need to use this time

to regain YOUR health as the doctors take over for a while. Try hard to not

think about him 24/7 and trust that he is in good hands for a while.

I hope the parents who have been through this will chime in with thoughts

and advice. All I can send our my hugs. And lots of them

Best wishes,

in NV

[Guest guest]

Hi Corinna:

Thanks so much for posting about Garrett. Please tell him your list

friends are rooting for his recovery and look forward to hearing about

him feeling better. It is so important to keep hope in the air during

these tough times.

We have dealt with MDD in our son for over seven years now and this

disease is prevalent on both sides of our family. It is a very cruel

one and leads sufferers to say the things you describe. Please let

Garrett know that his problems are very treatable, he is in the place to

get good treatment and that many other sufferers have been there and

come out the other side to enjoy life again and not feel that terrible

pain he is experiencing. If you feel he is in danger of harming himself

I encourage you to talk to the doctor about contracting with him to

advise you before he takes any irreversible step.

I hope you can find a way to be, even in this painful place, for more

than one hour a day. We were on active suicide watch with our son,

Steve, for two months and did not let him out of our sight. It was the

most exhausting experience of our life and we just lived second to

second. We could not believe families could survive such pain, but

somehow we did. Do you have any support from understanding mental

health professionals through all this? I certainly hope so. There is

no pain so exquisite as seeing a child suffer so and feel powerless to

help. You do have power though to inspire and give him hope. He may

feel helpless and hopeless but you can know you are a very important

life line to him right now. Take care of yourselves, hang in there and

keep posting, aloha, Kathy (h)

kathy.hi@...

Garrett's in the hospital

I just can't believe it has come to this. Garrett was hospitalized

on Wednesday afternoon. He is having constant suicidal thoughts. He

is angry at us, at God, and at the doctors for putting him in the

hospital. He says he doesn't want to get any better. He just wants

to die. He told the staff at the hospital, " I don't understand why

you care if I kill myself or not. This world would be a better place

without me in it. "

I just can't take it!!!! It breaks my heart!!! I only get to see

him one hour a day. When my husband and I do visit, he doesn't want

us to touch him or offer him affections of any kind. He gets

extremely aggitated if I tell him I love him. It's killing me to see

his despair.

Corinna

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[Guest guest]

Dear Corrina,

Garrett is in my prayers and so are you. Please keep us posted as you can on

his recovery. I assume he is hospitalized fulltime and not the day treatment

hospitalization you spoke of last week. Please know you are not alone.

Sincerely,

>

> I just can't believe it has come to this. Garrett was hospitalized

> on Wednesday afternoon. He is having constant suicidal thoughts. He

> is angry at us, at God, and at the doctors for putting him in the

> hospital. He says he doesn't want to get any better. He just wants

> to die. He told the staff at the hospital, " I don't understand why

> you care if I kill myself or not. This world would be a better place

> without me in it. "

>

> I just can't take it!!!! It breaks my heart!!! I only get to see

> him one hour a day. When my husband and I do visit, he doesn't want

> us to touch him or offer him affections of any kind. He gets

> extremely aggitated if I tell him I love him. It's killing me to see

> his despair.

>

> Corinna