Re: Re: Question on sibling relationships

[Guest guest]

That is one of my fears right now. I'm afraid I am not going to recognize

something as OCD, reprimand her and the lose her trust to tell me what is going

on in her head.

~~Kathy

 

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Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

Subject: Re: Question on sibling relationships

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Date: Saturday, September 20, 2008, 1:34 PM

Yep, they need boundaries too. I totally agree, Jordana. I think it

is trickier with OCD kids, because you have to figure out what is

defiance and disobedience, and what is motivated by anxiety, fear, and

OCD. Sometimes it's obvious, sometimes not.

BJ

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[Guest guest]

I think you will know the difference.  If she is behaving poorly, treat her

with the consequence that you would if she didn't have OCD.  If it is due to

OCD, let her know that she needs to tell you so that you can then work with her

on it.  Just because it is due to OCD doesn't mean you should go along with it.

 It just might mean that it is something that you will take slower to work on.

Re: Question on sibling relationships

To:

Date: Saturday, September 20, 2008, 1:34 PM

Yep, they need boundaries too. I totally agree, Jordana. I think it

is trickier with OCD kids, because you have=2

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defiance and disobedience, and what is motivated by anxiety, fear, and

OCD. Sometimes it's obvious, sometimes not.

BJ

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> > brother. They don't get along very well anyway (very different

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> > personalities! ) and I think my daughter is using this as an excuse to

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> > treat him like a walking germpile! He gets very defensive and yells

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> > back; no quiet mites my kids! This20morning, she SCREAMED at him

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> > because he accidentally stepped on her book bag, which she' d left

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[Guest guest]

Thanks.  Thanks also for sharing your personal experience. It helps to help me

to understand.

~~Kathy

 

gkathy40@...

http://www.myspace.com/clearingachannel

yahoo messenger id  gkathy40@...

Courage is not living without fear.

Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.

-Chae

From: svdbyhislove <BJClosnercomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Re: Question on sibling relationships

To: @ yahoogroups. com

Date: Saturday, September 20, 2008, 1:34 PM

Yep, they need boundaries too. I totally agree, Jordana. I think it

is trickier with OCD kids, because you have=2

0to figure out what is

defiance and disobedience, and what is motivated by anxiety, fear, and

OCD. Sometimes it's obvious, sometimes not.

BJ

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> > > I'm just wondering how some of you deal with your OCD child's

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> > relationship with their siblings. My DD won't touch, hug, or

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> > physically interact with her siblings, ESPECIALLY her 11-year old

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> > brother. They don't get along very well anyway (very different

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> > personalities! ) and I think my daughter is using this as an excuse to

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> > treat him like a walking germpile! He gets very defensive and yells

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> > back; no quiet mites my kids! This20morning, she SCREAMED at him

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> > because he accidentally stepped on her book bag, which she' d left

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> > laying on the floor! I told her 1)her behavior was unacceptable and

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