Re: having a bad night

October 22, 2008

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I'm sorry you all are having such a day!! Wow!

My daughter was just taken off of Celexa because of aggression. Have you

called your pdoc to let her know about this?

Your family is in my thoughts tonite.

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OCD has reared its ugly head again here.? Last night my son (almost 13) had

a meltdown because my husband and I went to a parenting lecture (on all

things - about difficult kids and keeping your home calm) and he wasn't

going to get to do anything with his night.? He got so angry he trashed the

kitchen and strewed papers all over the place.? It looked like we had been

robbed.? This morning, we had school refusal and had to call the therapist -

he got there - but a half hour late and many tears later without a shower,

teeth brushing or putting his contacts in.? Then today after school he had a

meltdown and started swearing horrible names at me.? I calmly told him if he

continued I would remove his tv priveleges for the day.? he calmly defied

me.? I calmly unplugged the cable.? He the proceed to push and shove me and

I slapped at him to get him away from me and he slapped me in the face.? he

later wrote me an apology note and explained all the things going on in his

head he was worried about and talked again to his therapist.? But after I

read the note, he proceeded to start calling me names again and trying to

watch tv. Then he went outside and started chopping up wood with an ax, and

then took it to his skateboard.? I ended up writing responses to his note

and gave it to him.? He fianlly calmed down and came outside to toss the

football with the family, and all was ok until bed time.? Then he started

thrashing around and screaming that his bed wasn't right.? I couldn't deal

at all - i think I've smoked 15 cigarrettes today, and just sent my husband

in to try. Looks like he got him to sleep.? I've been through worse, but

feel like we're just headed back down the horrible path and I dont know if

I've got it in me again to go through it.? Just a thought - the pdoc raised

his Celexa from 50 mg to 60 mg.? 2 weeks ago, because he had been acting

out.? But it wasn't this extreme or violent, and now I'm wondering if maybe

the med change has done something.? He said tonight his brain just felt

weird, but he coul! dn't des

cribe it.? I don't know if I'm looking for an easy answer.? His anxiety is

jacked up because he's set to go away to 7th grade camp next week - the only

other time he's been away from home this long is when he was hospitalized

last year.? But dad's going with him the first few days to help him adjust.?

I'm just frustrated and exhausted and so sick of dealing with this - I

honestly don't know if I can cope with another 6 years...just needed to vent

and see if you all had any ideas about the meds.?

- in MI

I'm whining - long, sorry

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> > > > > Date: Tuesday, October 21, 2008, 10:38 AM

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> > > > > What is it with this OCD thing that everything can be going

> > > > > just fine and one little thing blows it up in my face?! We

> > > > > had our 504 meeting with 's teachers yesterday

> > > > > and it went exceedingly well; all the teachers and the

> > > > > principal seemed ready and willing to do whatever needed to

> > > > > be done to help her succeed in school.

> > > > > Flashforward to home: I think if we all just disappeared

> > > > > and Jess was left completely on her own, she'd be happy

> > > > > as a clam! My 5-yr old walked into her room because I was in

> > > > > there and you'd have thought the biggest germ had just

> > > > > waltzed into Jess's room spraying

> > > > > " contamination " all over the place! She

> > > > > practically shoved her out of the room, at which point I

> > > > > handled it badly and got emotional at the way she was

> > > > > treating her younger sister. Jess stormed out of her room,

> > > > > Dad asks what's going on, and she says " oh,

> > > > > mom's going all emotional on me! " WHAT??????

> > > > > WHO'S the emotional one here???!!! Geeez! It really

> > > > > concerns me that she doesn't seem to " love "

> > > > > us, especially her siblings. I'm so concerned she's

> > > > > going to damage her relationship with them beyond repair.

> > > > > When I tucked my little one into bed, I told her " you

> > > > > know that Sissy loves you very much; she's just having a

> > > > > hard time right now with touching people " . You know

> > > > > what she said? " I know Sissy loves me in her heart,

> > > > > Mommy " . Guess what, I got emotional again. Jazmin is

> > > > > adopted from China and has always seemed to have an ability

> > > > > to empathize with others' feelings in a way far beyond

> > > > > her years and says she wants to be a doctor. Hmmmm, maybe a

> > > > > psychologist that specializes in OCD, perhaps? You just

> > > > > never know.

> > > > > And I still keep waiting to see " something " with

> > > > > this darn Zoloft! I hate to think we've wasted the last

> > > > > 6 weeks if this isn't going to help; I mean other than

> > > > > some mood improvement, I've seen very little improvement

> > > > > in the OCD symptoms. I'm just so frustrated already; and

> > > > > I'm sick of keeping this false " everything' s

> > > > > going to be ok " face on, when what if it's not??!!

> > > > > I feel like in addition to trying to help , I have to

> > > > > protect her brother and sister from the fallout, keep the

> > > > > house running, keep working, keep smiling, keep going, on

> > > > > and on and on. AND it's only been two months!

> > > > > So I'm sitting here having my pity-party and kicking

> > > > > myself because I haven't even been through a TENTH of

> > > > > what some of you have dealt with, so what right do I have to

> > > > > whine anyway? I'm just so afraid it's going to get

> > > > > WORSE and I don't know if I can deal with WORSE!

> > > > > Thanks for listening; there's nowhere else I can go

> > > > > with all these emotions but here.

> > > > > Debbie

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October 22, 2008

,

I am sorry that you are having such a rough night. I do not have any

answers for you, but wanted to know that I am *reading* and am thinking

about you tonight.

I hope things get better. OCD can be so exhausting. Last week we had 3

days of melt downs after therapy. I think therapy makes it worse for J.we

are still going, but just think it bring so much anxiety out for him.

Anyway, I am thinking of you.

Peace be with you,

Pattie

Family website: www.shwachman.50megs.com

October 22, 2008

This sounds like more than OCD going on. Â At almost 13, he should not be

allowed to trash a kitchen because you went to a meeting so he couldn't do what

he wanted to do. Â My daughter has been on Anafranil for a while now, and her

OCD is doing so much better. Â At the same time, she and I have begun to see

that some of her behavior is just because she wants her way at times and is not

because of OCD anymore. Â I am starting to focus more on letting her know what

behavior is just not okay. Â She is just 9 and is a very sweet kid and she will

apologize and tell me that she was just behaving badly when it happens. Â

I imagine your son is a big guy already; it should never be excusable for him to

push and shove you. Â It could get dangerous. Â It actually sounds scary that a

kid out of control has access to an ax. Â What are his OCD symptoms? Â Is he on

a med for OCD? Â Is he seeing an OCD specialist? Â

I'm whining - long, sorry

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