Re: Aspie things we do

[Guest guest]

Clay wrote:

>...I've never had a

>milk moustache. It's not hard to raise your

>upper lip a little when drinking milk, so

>as not to get it on your face.

I brush my teeth with my mouth closed. It amazed me

when I found out some people do it with their mouth

open.

Jane

[Guest guest]

> Jane,

>

> OK, my curiosity has the better of me--

> how on earth do you brush your teeth

> with your mouth closed? It seems to me

> you would have to have your mouth open

> for that...

No, I do that too. Like food, I don't like

to have toothpaste and slobber running

down my chin. I just keep my lips closed.

I've seen other people brush their teeth,

putting their head way down and letting it

run out willy-nilly. It grosses me out to

watch.

Clay

[Guest guest]

Camille wrote:

>I avoid people alot,i.e. see people I know, and basically like, in a

>grocery store and dodge down an aisle to avoid talking to them.

I do that. Sometimes the energy for interaction just

isn't there.

Jane

[Guest guest]

> I hope you know the description of

> your carpet gave me chills. My dog

> is a pug and sheds like a maniac, as

> they are wont to do. I vacuum all the

> time anyway, but I get lots of dog hair

> in the vacuum, which gives me a kind of

> fascination/pleasure...

I have some new vacuum cleaner bags now,

but for a long time, I couldn't remember

to buy them. One day, the vac wasn't working,

because the bag was full and I didn't have a

replacement bag. I took the old bag off, and

pulled the stuffing out of it. And it was

exactly like stuffing, all cat hair and dust.

I hate dust, so I tied an A-shirt around my

face and pulled it all out of the bag. I put

the bag back on, and used it. The next thing

I did was start a new grocery list, with vac

bags first on the list.

Clay

> I think trying to keep food off of your face is probably an AS

> thing. I don't like hand lotion for a similar reason. I wash my

> hands as soon as I walk in the door at home after being out because

> my hands feel sticky from touching stuff.

>

> Camille

>

>

>

>

> > Oh, well if we're talking about candy bars,

> > I have always had a special way of doing

> > that. When I first saw other kids eating

> > a candy bar, I saw that they took it right

> > out of the wrapper, and held it in their

> > hands. Ack, chocolatey fingers! Not for me.

> > No, I devised a way to open each different

> > kind of candy bar so that I could hold it

> > with the wrapper. Also, I've never had a

> > milk moustache. It's not hard to raise your

> > upper lip a little when drinking milk, so

> > as not to get it on your face. Since learning

> > to feed myself, I've never gotten any food on

> > my face, and no, I don't eat chicken with BBQ

> > sauce.

[Guest guest]

I can eat things like ribs or bbq chicken in public now, but usually

only choose to indulge if I am comfortable with the people I am with- I

get a lot of anxiety about other people seeeing stuff on my face... even

for a few seconds...

dani

Clay wrote:

>

>

> > I hope you know the description of

> > your carpet gave me chills. My dog

> > is a pug and sheds like a maniac, as

> > they are wont to do. I vacuum all the

> > time anyway, but I get lots of dog hair

> > in the vacuum, which gives me a kind of

> > fascination/pleasure...

>

> I have some new vacuum cleaner bags now,

> but for a long time, I couldn't remember

> to buy them. One day, the vac wasn't working,

> because the bag was full and I didn't have a

> replacement bag. I took the old bag off, and

> pulled the stuffing out of it. And it was

> exactly like stuffing, all cat hair and dust.

> I hate dust, so I tied an A-shirt around my

> face and pulled it all out of the bag. I put

> the bag back on, and used it. The next thing

> I did was start a new grocery list, with vac

> bags first on the list.

>

> Clay

>

> > I think trying to keep food off of your face is probably an AS

> > thing. I don't like hand lotion for a similar reason. I wash my

> > hands as soon as I walk in the door at home after being out because

> > my hands feel sticky from touching stuff.

> >

> > Camille

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > > Oh, well if we're talking about candy bars,

> > > I have always had a special way of doing

> > > that. When I first saw other kids eating

> > > a candy bar, I saw that they took it right

> > > out of the wrapper, and held it in their

> > > hands. Ack, chocolatey fingers! Not for me.

> > > No, I devised a way to open each different

> > > kind of candy bar so that I could hold it

> > > with the wrapper. Also, I've never had a

> > > milk moustache. It's not hard to raise your

> > > upper lip a little when drinking milk, so

> > > as not to get it on your face. Since learning

> > > to feed myself, I've never gotten any food on

> > > my face, and no, I don't eat chicken with BBQ

> > > sauce.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hubby rubs his hands together like he’s washing them. Sometimes

he makes loose fists and blows into the thumb/forefinger

openings, then goes back to rubbing them together. He also runs

his hands up and down the front of his shirt. Instead of

cell-phone games, we each have a palm pilot with games that we

have downloaded. I play mahjongg and he plays solitaire. I don’t

think they’re outlandish, they don’t look like stims to NTs, but

what do I know, I’m an Aspie!

I stim either by bouncing my foot, curling my index fingers

around my thumb tips and rocking my thumbs back and forth against

my fingers, or I actually rock gently back and forth. I think

that’s why I bounce my foot: I can sit back and cross my legs,

then bounce my foot and it feels like I’m rocking, but it doesn’t

look like I am.

My daughter spins and sings, she does this a lot, which makes my

sons scream at her to sit down and shut up.

Both of my sons do the hand things that Hubby does. Sometimes

they rock, usually while sitting on the sides of their beds with

at towel around them after their morning showers, trying to get

worm, until they finally decide to put their clothes on.

Louis

I like to leave the tags on the clothing for several reasons:

(1) It helps me to put on the clothing with proper orientation,

e.g.

right side out, not an arm through a sleeve hole, etc..

(2) I have had a label fetish since early grade school. They are

made

with nice pretty designs and interesting textures.

(3) I often memorize the style of tag for a particular garment.

This

helps sort my stuff from others in the household.

I also have some interesting stims as follows (as in my post on

AS-

Proud group) :

One of my favorites is to hug and/or stroke a fuzzy inside-out

sweatshirt. It may look funny but it is alot better than the

alternative - being an edgy father heading toward overload. I

also

like to handle shirts with alot of buttons, pleats, buttonholes

and

stiff collars & cuffs. They DO relieve stress that tends to build

up.

While away from home, a couple of my stims are a walkman stereo

and a

watchman tv. I don't always have to use them, but they are

available

if I need to use them. A good stim is a cell phone with a built-

in electronic game. The following are a few portable stims:

(1) Rubbing hands together as in washing them (dry w/o water),

(2)

stroking the surface of a garment or its hem, (3) running my hand

up

& down the front of my shirt.

Are the above stims common or outlandish?

Thanks, Jim

[Guest guest]

Oooooh! I do that! I eat the chocolate off of one side (I try to

take it off in one piece) and then work around until I’ve eaten

the sides, and then I eat the rest of the candy bar. Three

Musketeers bars are really good for pulling the chocolate sides

off. Reese sticks are good for eating from the top down in

layers, I like the sugar wafers inside.

Louis

From: Hudson

At 03:16 AM 8/21/03, you wrote:

>3) Eat soup with a fork. I'm serious. See, I'm rather fond of

ramen, and

>know that the Japanese put it in small cups, eat the noodles

with

>chopsticks and drink the soup. Since I can't bring a spoon to my

mouth

>without getting soup all over me, I " Westernized " that method a

bit,

>putting my soup in a capuccino cup. I then eat the noodles with

a fork and

>drink the soup.

>

>I adapted this method to other, non-Asian soups as well. With

any

>vegetable or noodle soup, I eat the vegetables and noodles with

a fork

>first, then...you guessed it. Again, I use a capuccino cup.

I like eating Snickers and other candy bards in layers.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/rhduson765/

[Guest guest]

I love the fabric store at the mall, and I loathe malls. I

especially love the fleece section; everything is nice and soft

and they have great colors.

Louis

From: mukudori_aoi

Hi ,

That's exactly what I do. And here I thought I was the only one!

I'm

not sure if that's an aspie thing though. (If eating foods in a

certain order is aspie, then yes.)

Touching every soft, shiny, of you're favorite color, piece of

clothing (or anything that fits that description)I'm sure is an

aspie

thing.I just love soft, shiny things. I bet you're the same way.

And

that's a good thing!

-Tasha

[Guest guest]

I sort my colored candies in colors and in rows then I eat two

from each row (one on either side of my mouth). If they have

peanuts in them my kids bite them in half to see if they can

leave the peanut in the half left out of their mouth, then they

eat the rest of it.

Is anyone compiling this info?

Louis

From: Kassiane Yelbis

if I have colored candy I have to eat

all of one color before I move to the next

kassiane

[Guest guest]

My neighbor won't eat in front of anybody, which I thought was

odd. I went over to next door one day and found her sitting at

her kitchen table with a tortilla chip piled with salsa and

cheese, and she was stuffing it into her mouth with both hands.

She looked at me rather sheepishly, and I told her, " You're

right. You shouldn't eat in front of other people. " She started

laughing and I thought she was going to choke.

I don't like to get food on my face either, so I eat with my lips

peeled back away from my teeth. I also brush my teeth with my

lips together.

Louis

From: le Strom

I can eat things like ribs or bbq chicken in public now, but

usually

only choose to indulge if I am comfortable with the people I am

with- I

get a lot of anxiety about other people seeeing stuff on my

face... even

for a few seconds...

dani

[Guest guest]

My entire house is carpeted, even the bathrooms and the kitchen.

The kitchen carpeting is a dark burgundy, which is a color I

like, but every breadcrumb that falls to the floor makes it look

dirty. The vacuum cleaner stays plugged in in the kitchen so I

can clean the carpet every half hour or so. I'm out of vacuum

cleaner bags, and the one I kept reusing has a big tear in the

side, so I'm going to need to buy new ones. My vacuum cleaner

cost more than my minivan, so I'm going to have to go looking for

the manufacturers store. I hate that, but I love the vacuum

cleaner.

I have a steam cleaner, too, and I " mop " my kitchen floor with it

at least once a week (my kids are so sloppy).

I eat my hamburgers with the wrapper peeled back, it keeps the

incidental food stuffing and the " juicy stuff " from getting on my

hands. If you take it out, it runs down your fingers and down

your hand and large chunks fall out into your lap. EW!

Louis

From: Camille

why not leave the wrapper on the

hamburger?

I hope you know the description of your carpet gave me chills.

My

dog is a pug and sheds like a maniac, as they are wont to do.

I

vacuum all the time anyway, but I get lots of dog hair in the

vacuum,

which gives me a kind of fascination/pleasure...

I think trying to keep food off of your face is probably an AS

thing. I don't like hand lotion for a similar reason. I wash

my

hands as soon as I walk in the door at home after being out

because

my hands feel sticky from touching stuff.

Camille

[Guest guest]

I used to do a thing with my hands when I was a kid, alot.

I bounce my fingertips against each other with just the right force

that they feel like they are rubber balls or something. I can do it

with my palms too. It's a very different sensation than say,

clapping.

I rub my hands on my pants legs (front of thighs) play with parts of

my clothing, massage my hands, grasp my wrists, tap things, rub my

palms together with fingers tips pointed toward opposite elbow (sort

of backwards of regular palm rubbing, elbows go in and out)

I do things with my teeth and tongue, patterns of clenching my teeth

and swallowing.

According to me, this is perfectly normal, anyone who doesn't do it

has a disorder.

:-)

Camille

[Guest guest]

wrote:

>OK, my curiosity has the better of me--how on earth do you brush your

>teeth with your mouth closed? It seems to me you would have to have your

>mouth open for that...

You have to open your mouth to put the toothbrush in, and

open it again to take the toothbrush out. But inbetween,

as Clay implied, keeping one's mouth open is about as

icky as keeping it open after opening it to put food in.

Jane

[Guest guest]

Hey,

I leave my vacuum plugged in frequently, too. I had one that was

adequate but it finally died after about 5 years. I got one from

Walmart that is really nice, one of those that lets you see the dirt

spin around. I love it. It was cheap, comparatively. But I

understand the vacuum fetish.

I also had a floor steamer and loved it! But someone, hmmm, maybe

me, left it plugged in and it broke. Now I'm back to wiping stuff up

with a rag. I don't like mops very well. I'm going to get another

steamer as soon as I can get some more money coming in (waiting for

school loan, etc).

I also need another carpet cleaner. I like having a little

carpet " steamer " in the house.

Camille

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/22/03 10:41:45 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse writes:

> Oooooh! I do that! I eat the chocolate off of one side (I try to

> take it off in one piece) and then work around until I’ve eaten

> the sides, and then I eat the rest of the candy bar. Three

> Musketeers bars are really good for pulling the chocolate sides

> off. Reese sticks are good for eating from the top down in

> layers, I like the sugar wafers inside.

> Louis

I see a lot of us play with our food, or certain types of food.

Just thought of another thing I do. Imagine a nice slice of

cake, Betty Crocker style. I can eat the cake first, and leave

the frosting for last. The " game " is to remove bites of cake

with the fork, and see if you can extract all of the cake without

having the " walls " of frosting fall over. Not so easy with the

layer of frosting between the layers of cake. I continue the

game by seeing how much of the frosting I can eat before the

remainder falls over.

I like caramel Twix a lot better than Reese sticks. Being " cheap " ,

however, I usually just buy the really big Hershey bar. 7 ounces.

I eat M & Ms and peanut butter M & Ms by the handful, (not discriminating

by color). I don't start chewing right away, but wait until the shells are

thin and the inside chocolate is melted, then crunch down on them.

Mouth is instantly full of liquidy chocolate ... sweet! More " bang " for

the buck.

Oh yeah, and when I was a kid, I used to eat Kool-Aid right out of

the packet. Straight Kool-Aid, no sugar, and only the red kinds.

Small amounts at a time, and it's very tart.

Clay

[Guest guest]

At 03:16 AM 8/21/03, you wrote:

>3) Eat soup with a fork. I'm serious. See, I'm rather fond of ramen, and

>know that the Japanese put it in small cups, eat the noodles with

>chopsticks and drink the soup. Since I can't bring a spoon to my mouth

>without getting soup all over me, I " Westernized " that method a bit,

>putting my soup in a capuccino cup. I then eat the noodles with a fork and

>drink the soup.

>

>I adapted this method to other, non-Asian soups as well. With any

>vegetable or noodle soup, I eat the vegetables and noodles with a fork

>first, then...you guessed it. Again, I use a capuccino cup.

I like eating Snickers and other candy bards in layers.

http://www.livejournal.com/users/rhduson765/

[Guest guest]

> Bet you'de love our lovely red PEI clay!!

> -jypsy

Sounds heavenly!

Take care,

Gail :-)

[Guest guest]

> Both of my sons do the hand things that Hubby does. Sometimes

> they rock, usually while sitting on the sides of their beds with

> at towel around them after their morning showers, trying to get

> worm, until they finally decide to put their clothes on.

>

> Louis

I like to " drip dry " after a shower. My husband gets a kick out of it. I

will come out of the shower, wrap a towel around myself and proceed to walk

around or sit in my chair until I am dry. One time he asked me why I don't

use the towel to dry myself off, and I told him that I like to drip dry. He

gave me one of those looks like " Ok, it's a Gail thing " . ;-)

Take care,

Gail :-)

[Guest guest]

Clay wrote:

>Oh yeah, and when I was a kid, I used to eat Kool-Aid right out of

>the packet. Straight Kool-Aid, no sugar, and only the red kinds.

>Small amounts at a time, and it's very tart.

No kook-ade in my house, but I ate Jello right out of the

box. Plus, whenever I could get them, Fizzies. You were

supposed to drop the tablet in water, where it would fizz

and turn the water red. But I just popped the tablet in

my mouth and let it fizz there.

Jane

[Guest guest]

Louis wrote:

>My entire house is carpeted, even the bathrooms and the kitchen.

>The kitchen carpeting is a dark burgundy, which is a color I

>like, but every breadcrumb that falls to the floor makes it look

>dirty.

If my kitchen were carpeted, I'd move. Either that or rip

out the carpet.

Carpeted kitchen: UGH!

I guess you like it Louis, but it would be unbearable for

me.

One of my secret dreams is that I want one of those

vacuums made for people with allergies. The kind that

don't spew dust out the back.

Jane

[Guest guest]

Louis wrote:

>I love the fabric store at the mall, and I loathe malls. I

>especially love the fleece section; everything is nice and soft

>and they have great colors.

There's a store in Seattle ( took me) where there is

nothing but polar tech fleece.

Jane

[Guest guest]

--On Saturday, August 23, 2003 9:32 -0400 Gail Pennington

wrote:

> I like to " drip dry " after a shower. My husband gets a kick out of it. I

> will come out of the shower, wrap a towel around myself and proceed to

> walk around or sit in my chair until I am dry. One time he asked me why I

> don't use the towel to dry myself off, and I told him that I like to drip

> dry. He gave me one of those looks like " Ok, it's a Gail thing " . ;-)

I go for spin-dry :^)

I use towels, but it takes more than that to get my hair dry (I've got a

lot of it).

So I'll hang up-side-down from my inversion bar and swing back and forth to

get it dry.

Ride the Music

AndyTiedye

[Guest guest]

Camile wrote:

>I interrupt my daily doings at any point to vacuum my carpet.

>Whenever I think the limit has been reached for the amount of lint,

>bits of stuff, that I can stand to see on the carpet has been

>reached, I vacuum right then. This usually works out to once a day,

>but sometimes more.

I detest vacuuming. But I hate dirty floors. I have hardwood floors due to

allergies ( and I hate carpet, it's an allergen sponge). I want the floors to be

so clean that I can feel the wood grain with my feet as I walk. But I hate

vacuuming so much that it's not always that clean. If I had the money, and knew

someone I could trust, I 'd hire a maid.

>I avoid people alot,i.e. see people I know, and basically like, in a

>grocery store and dodge down an aisle to avoid talking to them.

So do I. My useless co-workers, when I was working, saw to it that I had points

taken off my review because I wasn't a " team player " Those spineless jerks

didn't have the guts to say what I did wrong to make me not a team player. I

helped them out whenever they needed me. I suspect part of it was that I

wouldn't say " Hi " to them every five minutes, or passing in the hall I'd look

away, or down. Why should I say hi to people who didn't like me and spread

gossip about me? I don't like saying hi to people I like even. Or they don't

give me enough time to do so. It takes me a little while to recognize someone,

break my train of thought, then say hi. I usually just smile sometimes. Isn't

that enough?

My one good boss always used to help me out by waving at me. She and I were

both kinesthetic learners. For some reason, when she waved at me, I could wave

back. She didn't need to make eye contact or smile, just wave. Since I liked

her, and felt comfortable with her, it worked for me.

My friends think I'm nuts. When I used to go to meetings, I wouldn't wave

across the room, smile, make eye contact to let them know I saw them, run over

and say hi. I figured I see them after the meeting. I don't like making eye

contact. I feel like they are looking through me, and need something from me.

Or I take too long to break my train of thought, stop, say hi to them, so they

look away by the time I'm ready to say Hi and I realized I screwed up.

Why are these NT's hung up on this " hi " thing? I feels so fake most of the

time- I hate fake stuff so much. I'm tired of appeasing people's insecurities,

when they won't even give me the time of day. Why can't my friends realize that

I'm THERE, I call, e-mail, etc which means I'm OK with them?

Because NTs deceive eachother and everyone else with actions and body language

with every waking breath, as a part of life, so often, to the point where they

can't just trust that I like them. I need to have this stupid body language and

shit to " prove " that I care. God, this is mind numbingly moronic. Ted Bundy

had perfect body language. Until he got his victims in the car! Body language

can be manipulated my NTs to say whatever they want. They do this daily, yet

are arrogant enough to think that THEY can spot lies vs. honesty. Actually,

they can't, so they should give up this stupid charade.

Jeanette

[Guest guest]

no I think my manners are okay, but I am aware I am sloppy and that

since my 20's most other adults at the table have a glass withOUT

smudgey fingerprints all over it, a napkin that looks barely used and no

debris around their plate etc... while I have to really watch to avoid

my place setting looking like a finve year old just ate there... thus

the non messy food choices... I think maybe the sloppiness is because I

have some fine motor issues, same as what makes cursive handwriting

impossible for me... I can print, I can do lots with my hands - am

infact the handyman of the family- but I can't seem to keep food from

spilling etc...

dani

Louise Gainor wrote:

> My neighbor won't eat in front of anybody, which I thought was

> odd. I went over to next door one day and found her sitting at

> her kitchen table with a tortilla chip piled with salsa and

> cheese, and she was stuffing it into her mouth with both hands.

> She looked at me rather sheepishly, and I told her, " You're

> right. You shouldn't eat in front of other people. " She started

> laughing and I thought she was going to choke.

>

> I don't like to get food on my face either, so I eat with my lips

> peeled back away from my teeth. I also brush my teeth with my

> lips together.

>

> Louis

> From: le Strom

>

> I can eat things like ribs or bbq chicken in public now, but

> usually

> only choose to indulge if I am comfortable with the people I am

> with- I

> get a lot of anxiety about other people seeeing stuff on my

> face... even

> for a few seconds...

>

> dani

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

coffee crisp? I can't believe no one has mentioned the flakiest bar to

eat in layers, with the creamiest pay off inside!

coffee crisp!! that's my vote

adamsCLAYADAMS@... wrote:

> In a message dated 8/22/03 10:41:45 PM Pacific Daylight Time,

> AutisticSpectrumTreeHouse writes:

>

> > Oooooh! I do that! I eat the chocolate off of one side (I try to

> > take it off in one piece) and then work around until I’ve eaten

> > the sides, and then I eat the rest of the candy bar. Three

> > Musketeers bars are really good for pulling the chocolate sides

> > off. Reese sticks are good for eating from the top down in

> > layers, I like the sugar wafers inside.

>

> > Louis

>

> I see a lot of us play with our food, or certain types of food.

> Just thought of another thing I do. Imagine a nice slice of

> cake, Betty Crocker style. I can eat the cake first, and leave

> the frosting for last. The " game " is to remove bites of cake

> with the fork, and see if you can extract all of the cake without

> having the " walls " of frosting fall over. Not so easy with the

> layer of frosting between the layers of cake. I continue the

> game by seeing how much of the frosting I can eat before the

> remainder falls over.

>

> I like caramel Twix a lot better than Reese sticks. Being " cheap " ,

> however, I usually just buy the really big Hershey bar. 7 ounces.

> I eat M & Ms and peanut butter M & Ms by the handful, (not discriminating

> by color). I don't start chewing right away, but wait until the

> shells are

> thin and the inside chocolate is melted, then crunch down on them.

> Mouth is instantly full of liquidy chocolate ... sweet! More " bang " for

> the buck.

>

> Oh yeah, and when I was a kid, I used to eat Kool-Aid right out of

> the packet. Straight Kool-Aid, no sugar, and only the red kinds.

> Small amounts at a time, and it's very tart.

>

> Clay

>

>

>