Re: OT--blanket statement? cant survive on one income?

[Guest guest]

> > Um, faulty (and sexist) logic here, Blane. No longer is it possible

> > for a family to survive on one income, in today's economy. You want

> > moms to stay home with kids while dad works, just like in the 1950's?

>

> I really dont want to get into the middle of this mess, so I will not make

> any comment other than to say that your BLANKET STATEMENT (above) is

> absolutely FALSE, and I know MANY families who are living proof of that.

> We sacrifice (new cars, cable tv, name brands, etc, etc, etc!) to live on

> one income.

I've gotta agree with this...our family survives--no thrives--just fine on one

income. My

husband works his tail off and I take care of the kids and the home, and I

school them at

home. It is a total blast of a job, albeit a hard one. But it is a joy and

very rewarding. I

would venture to say that ALL of the homeschool moms on this list, um...and

there are

quite a few, are living on one income.

To put it that way, to say " You want moms to stay at home with kids while dad

works,

just like in the 1950's? " almost degrades what I do. It almost sounds like one

might be

saying that my job of being at home is not as good as dad's work. Au contraire

mon amie!

My job is actually better! I love it and I am built for it. I can nurse--he

doesn't. I can

multitask a LOT better than him and when you've got five kids at home you BETTER

know

how to multitask.

I have the most honorable job ever, and that is the job of mom. It is a high

honor,

something to be cherished. I cannot stress that enough. His job is not better

than mine. I

think VERY highly about what I do. His income is my income and he knows that.

I am

almost so proud of being a wife and a mom that I think that working women are

getting

the short end of the stick--ok won't go that far! I get to stay at home and be

with my kids

and raise them instead of letting someone else do it. And I can milk a sweet

cow and

precious goats if I want! What could be better!

[Guest guest]

> I have the most honorable job ever, and that is the job of mom.

And it is an honorable job, , the hardest job on the planet. I'm

glad it suits you. It only becomes a problem when it's a cultural

expectation, hence my snarky reference to the 1950's model of the

nuclear family. It was a restrictive model of what a woman's place

was--namely, kinder/kuchen/kirken. That's as restrictive as what a

man's place was at that time, working outside the home to bring home

the bacon. Neither model really allowed men to have a nurturing side

nor women to have a strong, leadership side.

You know, the only reason this discussion is even happening here is

because Blane made a rather sexist comment that social problems happen

because women are not staying home minding the kids. To that I say,

bull. It's way more complicated than that.

I am a noncomformist by nature and I don't like seeing people being

put into a box. My motto: If it works for you, swell, but if not,

live and let live.

)

~Joe

[Guest guest]

,

You are truly blessed, financially, among other ways. I can't imagine anyone here begrudging you the full honor of the work you do as being anything less than the most valuable and rewarding of work.

It's just that not every mom has a husband that earns as much as yours. Some earn more and unfortunately, most earn a lot less. Enjoy what you have. It is a blessing. We all have our unique blessings and gifts. Comparing serves no one.

It has been said that, "work is love made visible."

Let's not read so much opposition into each other's words. For some reason it is easier for us to read into our differences than to recognize our commonality. Many of our words are born of reaction rather than from our heart. Let us learn to read the difference in ourselves and in each other's words.

~Tonio

I've gotta agree with this...our family survives--no thrives--just fine on one income. My husband works his tail off and I take care of the kids and the home, and I school them at home. It is a total blast of a job, albeit a hard one. But it is a joy and very rewarding. I would venture to say that ALL of the homeschool moms on this list, um...and there are quite a few, are living on one income. To put it that way, to say "You want moms to stay at home with kids while dad works, just like in the 1950's?" almost degrades what I do. It almost sounds like one might be saying that my job of being at home is not as good as dad's work. Au contraire mon amie! My job is actually better! I love it and I am built for it. I can nurse--he doesn't. I can multitask a LOT better than him and when you've got five kids at home you BETTER know how to multitask. I have the most honorable job ever, and that is the job of mom. It is a high honor, something to be cherished. I cannot stress that enough. His job is not better than mine. I think VERY highly about what I do. His income is my income and he knows that. I am almost so proud of being a wife and a mom that I think that working women are getting the short end of the stick--ok won't go that far! I get to stay at home and be with my kids and raise them instead of letting someone else do it. And I can milk a sweet cow and precious goats if I want! What could be better!

[Guest guest]

Oh I know I know! I was just being light hearted with all of it!

Not meaning to compare. Just while we were on the topic....or rather, off the

topic. ;-)

And you are right about our commonalities. There was a post the other day

Tonio, that i

was amazed at how similar our explanations were on it. We have similar beliefs

that is for

sure. More similar than different probably! HA!

> ,

>

> You are truly blessed, financially, among other ways. I can't imagine anyone

here

begrudging you the full honor of the work you do as being anything less than the

most

valuable and rewarding of work.

>

> It's just that not every mom has a husband that earns as much as yours. Some

earn

more and unfortunately, most earn a lot less. Enjoy what you have. It is a

blessing. We all

have our unique blessings and gifts. Comparing serves no one.

>

> It has been said that, " work is love made visible. "

>

> Let's not read so much opposition into each other's words. For some reason it

is easier

for us to read into our differences than to recognize our commonality. Many of

our words

are born of reaction rather than from our heart. Let us learn to read the

difference in

ourselves and in each other's words.

>

> ~Tonio

>

[Guest guest]

I have the most honorable job ever, and that is the job of mom. It is a

high honor, something to be cherished. -- HERE HERE!

I thank God for my SAHW (who homeschooled for two years) because she works

harder than I ever have, while raising my two teenagers and our 2 1/2 y/o.

There is no more honorable position to be in than having stewardship over

young lives, and fulfilling that responsibility.

Peace,

Blane

If God is for us, who can be against us? Rom. 8:31b

To ignore the facts does not change that they are the facts. - Andy Rooney

Whether you think you can, or think you can't, you're right. - Henry Ford

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To put it that way, to say " You want moms to stay at home with kids while

dad works, just like in the 1950's? " almost degrades what I do. It almost

sounds like one might be saying that my job of being at home is not as good

as dad's work. Au contraire mon amie! My job is actually better! I love

it and I am built for it. I can nurse--he doesn't. I can multitask a LOT

better than him and when you've got five kids at home you BETTER know how

to multitask.

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