Re: to Rachael

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

Good Morning to you as well. I've been up since 5:30am due to intense pain,

but I took some meds right away when I woke up so by now I'm feeling much

better and I'm not totally overwhelmed by the pain like I was when I woke up

It's raining this morning , which always seems to worsen my pain. Thank

goodness for modern chemistry I don't know what I'd do without my meds! I

am sorry that you had such a stressful week, but I am glad that you got the

rest you needed yesterday to perhaps recouperate a bit. Trust that your

body knows when it needs it's " down time " and just go with the flow, and don

t let it depress you too much-although I know that is SO much easier said

than done!

Your father seems like a very nice man to want to reimburse you for your

expenses in going to check up on him and help him while he was ill. He must

really care about you. Yes, unfortunately most internet work-from-home

deals are scams that want money up-front with no guarantee of a steady

income after that, so beware and best leave them alone. You might want to

check with your local Department of Vocational Rehabilitation to see if they

have any valid work-at-home ideas. Some factories that do quality control

or piece-work are willing to have you pick up a week's worth of work at a

time to take home and either check for quality, or do simple assembly for

instance. It's worth a try! If you can't find the Department of Vocational

Rehabilitation in your phone book call Social Services and they'll be able

to give you the phone number. Your husband, as you are struggling

financially, would be considered underemployed, so he would also be eligible

for their services which include vast help in finding extra work, finding

county or state jobs, and all companies that work WITH the D.V.R. get a tax

break so it's in the companies' best interest as well as yours, too.

Everyone benefits. Just an idea I thought I'd toss out there. Hope it

helps.

As far as credit cards are concerned, if your credit is not good enough to

obtain an UNsecured credit card, and you can save up around $200, consider

getting a secured credit card where you pre-pay on the card then use it, and

then your payments go toward reimbursing your card's total back to the $200

or whatever the limit is. After a good six months of faithfully following

their terms you should be able to get an UNsecured, regular everyday credit

card without any problem! (This is how I started to repair our credit which

was shot to heck when I married my husband.)

Congratulations on your anniversary! Guess what? My husband's name is

Dennis, too. Despite your finances I am sure your anniversary will be a

really special day, from the type of wonderful guy you describe Dennis to

be! ((((((((Gentle Hugs))))))))) You know, looking back over the past ten

years, the anniversaries when we didn't have any money actually were the

most special, so don't let it get you down.

It's a good time to reflect on your marriage and the positives...list the

things you two do have, the things you are grateful for in each other and as

a couple...and before you know it, your list will reveal things far more

important and precious than money could ever contribute to a marriage. Yes,

granted, it's always nice to have money enough where you don't have to worry

about the bills, etc. but anything more than that really becomes just

fluff-in the big picture. Love is so much more sweet! And from the sounds

of it, , you definitely have a sweetheart, even after seven years..

you lucky woman!

Take good care of yourself and have a great day, and a wonderful

anniversary!

Be Well,

Kris J

Wisconsin

" A smile is a curve that straightens a lot of things out. "

-- Good morning, note from =)

Good Morning =)

I am up early but I guess it is because I slept so much yesterday. I am not

sure if im coming down with something or stress/depression. I feel better

today so im hoping its not a cold or flu coming on because i cannot afford

to go to the dr. It may be that i was just so stressed out and worn

outfrom all i did this week but the rest did feel good. I talked with my

dad and he is feeling better and keeping up on the meds he was given. He

said that he had hoped to work this weekend so that he could send up

something for dennis and my anniversary cause i spent our gift money from

inlaws to go down and take care of him ect. He is very sweet and i know he

feels bad but i had to go and make sure he was ok.

Yesterday I just did not want to get out of bed and my pain levels have been

a bit high. I am going to try to goout this afternoon and get a few

groceries with the money we have left. Tomorrow i cannot believe its been 7

yr we been married and I cannot believe how time goes so quickly. I love

Dennis and I am so glad I have him cause i honestly dont know how id be

without him. Its good to always know he is here to help me, hug me and tell

me things will work out somehow. He is such a good hubby and he feels so

bad that we are broke and he wishes he could find a part time job at least

or even get a job from home. The jobs from home ive found online always ask

for money up front or ive found to be a scam. Sorry to vent but i

just wish things were better and i know that many of you are in my

situation. where we can barely afford food to last us and make ends

meet. I have even looked online to find out if i could get approved

for a credit card- just to have for times like this when things come up and

we need food but ive of course been denied (medial bills make for bad

credit) but then i know if i got a credit card wed be in a totally different

type of jam..no ay to win sometimes.

Ok sorry to vent so early in the morning LOL. I am so glad i have you guys

to talk to and get things off my shoulders. I feel bad when i talk to dennis

about this type of thing cause he feels guilty and like he is part of

problem. I hate that he feels like this cause not many men out there would

be willing to stay home and basically be a full time caregiver. I am going

to also look into the possibility of him being a 'certified' caregiver so

maybe he could get a small check or some help. He has no reason to feel

guilty but i know the feeling of helplessness.

Well I do have some emails to read since i wasnt online much yesterday. I

pray that you are all having a nice weekend and doing ok. I look forward to

hearing from everyone and hearing how you are doing. I thank god for the

group!!! You really help get me through these tough days when the

depression comes on.

Thank you!!! I love you guys and wish things could be easier for all of

us!!

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