Re: Tishanne, son's friends

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I am so impressed with your energy and generosity. That is amazing. I would love to do something like that, but my husband would never go for it. That is a great idea. I'm so glad I asked. Thanks, Pat K

Hi Pat,making friends has been a struggle for my son. What I did to bridge the gap was invite homeless teens and teens with troubled home situations to stay with us. It started last school year. My son met a teen who had no place to stay,had been kicked out of his adopted parents home. My son asked if the teen could spend the night for 30 days,lol. I contacted the boys parents and they confirmed and were happy he had a place to stay. He stayed 1/2 a year. We live in a vacation/resort town so alot of kids come through here to camp,runaway ect. Well the boy enrolled in my sons school. Then my son had a friend at school! That kid knew or met another kid ect. Then I repeated the stay here finish school idea. I had 4 teens here through school and summer. This has been a good social experience for my son. His friends didnt know about autism. Usually I tell them a couple of things at a time as questions or situations arise. Sometimes I had them look on the internet and read a little and tell me 2 things about autism. It gave my son the much needed friends at school and home. It upset the neighborhood and there was complaining/cops because I had so many teens coming and going. The worst thing that happened was one of the boys had drug problems and graffitied the big bedroom{garage remodel}with spray paint and swear words the night before he had to leave{to juvinelle hall}. We put up bunk beds,thrift store beds ect. into one big room and rubber maid for clothes,a tv and video games. The boys that moved away got jobs and room mates/ apartments here in our small town and are still friends like brothers to my family. They had abusive homes before staying with us and were misfits of sorts but good kids. My son never really had friends at school or home before that except for one alcohol syndrome young adult boy who lived near us. I kept it real simple. Go to school,no name calling/fighting,clean room & laundry once a week and one big dinner together on the weekend. They all learned about living with autism first hand. 3 of my children are autistic. They big brother,befriend my son and all my children and they all found things to laugh together about. We live in Washington. Our community doesnt offer any autism related schooling except iep. I have thought about other places to live where the resources would be better. The good things about a small town are no traffic. Everything close to home on a small scale. One grocery store. My autistic teen and young adult learned to shop. My young adult got her drivers permit and drives to the store. One McDs. No stop lights,traffic. Dial a ride available and well used by my kids. Everyone knows everyone at stores ect. is good and bad. I think a big city would be to hard for them to navigate. I had to homeschool alot through the difficult years and mainstream the easier times. Where would your family move to or from?Best wishes,Tishanne-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , pkuenstler@... wrote:>> That's great that your son has friends who will throw a football with him. > Are the friends school friends or friends in the neighborhood? I was > wondering where you live because my son is thinking about moving the family to > California. I'm praying it doesn't work out because I think it would be hard on > Karac; not to mention me. > > What kind of razor does your son use? Pat K> > > > > > > > Hi Pat,thanks so much for asking. My son walks from his high school > to McDs. He swims and sometimes he plays basketball or throws the > football with friends and he jogged the mile at school pe. He really > did well and likes weight lifting{lost weight} but couldnt get in the > class this semester. He lost interest in his bike this summer. He > really likes going to watch his highschool sports games,all of them. > He does shave,he shaved his legs once!lol. He has a little moustache. > He likes playing guitar hero{wii}. He enjoys checking out video games > on the computer. He is off to a good start in 11th grade. A big sigh > of relief,lol. We live in Washington. How is Karac doing with a new > school year and 16?> Smiles today,> Tishanne> > --- In _AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) , pkuenstler@, pku> >> > Tishanne, what does your son do for exercise? What does he enjoy > doing? > > I'm glad your son is doing better with puberty. Does he shave? > What is he > > doing in school? Do you live in California? Pat K> > > > > > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:07:00 A.M. Central Daylight Time, > > tishannepatterson@ tishan> > > > > > > > > > Hi Pat,my son is doing much better with puberty this year. He still > > has his "bat out of" days,lol. It seems like boys have their > hormonal > > pms type moods and it really does help to feed kids quick > sometimes. > > I think this stage of puberty is the one where they have arrived. > It > > seems to be better most days then traveling into puberty ever was.> > I am a microwave chef,lol. You are a very special mom and grandma. > > What a blessing for your children and grandchildren to have you so > > close and caring.> > Best wishes,> > Tishanne> > - In _AutismBehaviorProb - In _AutismBeh - In _Aut> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) , pkuenstler@, pku> > >> > > Tishanne, I just read where your son is the same age as Karac. > How > > is he > > > doing with puberty? This morning Karac woke up like a bat out of > > hell; the > > > little kids scampered. I told his mother to give him some bacon > > that I thought > > > it was low blood sugar. Thank goodness for microwaves!! He was > > fine as soon > > > as he ate his bacon. (I am the Grandmother and I take care of > the > > kids > > > before and after school and on weekends) Sometimes I forget that > > I am not the > > > mother. smile Pat K> > > > > > > > > In a message dated 9/9/2008 11:09:24 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > > > tishannepatterson@ tishannepa> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > When my son was 9 he would only wear his red shirt. I was at his > > > neurologist appointment and asked about this behavior and what I > > > should do. He{DR.Makari} smiled at me and said buy 7 of those > red > > > shirts. Only problem was I couldnt find anymore at the store. > > Every > > > night I washed the shirt and my son wore it every day. > Eventually > > I > > > got him to wear it under,over other shirts lol. I even snuck it > off > > > to wash it when he was sleeping a couple of times and snuck it > > back > > > on him clean. I was afraid he would get attatched to the smell. > We > > > look back and laugh at all the pictures{red shirt}and 2 months > > > probally went by. One day he got up,dressed in something else > and > > > everyday after that. I kept it in the drawer just in case. We > all > > > told him how nice he looked and never said anything about the > red > > > shirt,not even asking him why he changed it. He is 16 now and > > still > > > changes everday. I wonder if seeing cartoon characters in the > same > > > outfit everyday or years encourages this,just a thought.> > > Best wishes,> > > Tishanne> > > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) , pkuenstler@, > pku> > > >> > > > Karac use to be that way about a shirt when he was three years > > > old. My ABA > > > > person told me to throw it away, but I decided to use it to > > teach > > > him to > > > > dress and undress himself. I told him if he could take off the > > > shirt that I put > > > > on him and could put the other one on by himself he could wear > > > it. It took a > > > > lot of work but he learned how to do it. I think he finally > just > > > got tired > > > > of the process, and he has been able to dress and undress > > himself > > > every since. > > > > Pat K> > > > > > > > > > > > In a message dated 9/7/2008 8:32:44 P.M. Central Daylight > Time, > > > > dora@ writes:> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Do you know what it is about this shirt that he prefers it > over > > > the others? > > > > Is it the character or picture on the shirt, the fabric feel, > or > > > something > > > > like that? > > > > Dora > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ ____ ____ _> > > > > > > > From: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism [mailto: [mailto:<ST1><WBR>A> > > [mailto:<ST > > > > ] On Behalf Of Iovine> > > > Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 4:56 PM> > > > To: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism > > > > Subject: son won't change shirt, suggestions?> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My son wants to wear the same shirt every day. Any one have > any > > > suggestions > > > > to get him to wear other shirts and pants.> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have > you > > > fashion blog, > > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > > > (___http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://www.styhttp://www.styh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://wwwhttp://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) ) > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) ) ) )> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have you he> > fashion blog, > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) ) )> > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have you he> fashion blog, > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) )> >> > > > > > > > **************Psssst...Have you heard the news? There's a new fashion blog, > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014)> Psssst...Have you heard the news? There's a new fashion blog, plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com.

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Hi Pat,making friends has been a struggle for my son. What I did to

bridge the gap was invite homeless teens and teens with troubled home

situations to stay with us. It started last school year. My son met a

teen who had no place to stay,had been kicked out of his adopted

parents home. My son asked if the teen could spend the night for 30

days,lol. I contacted the boys parents and they confirmed and were

happy he had a place to stay. He stayed 1/2 a year. We live in a

vacation/resort town so alot of kids come through here to

camp,runaway ect. Well the boy enrolled in my sons school. Then my

son had a friend at school! That kid knew or met another kid ect.

Then I repeated the stay here finish school idea. I had 4 teens here

through school and summer. This has been a good social experience for

my son. His friends didnt know about autism. Usually I tell them a

couple of things at a time as questions or situations arise.

Sometimes I had them look on the internet and read a little and tell

me 2 things about autism. It gave my son the much needed friends at

school and home. It upset the neighborhood and there was complaining/

cops because I had so many teens coming and going. The worst thing

that happened was one of the boys had drug problems and graffitied

the big bedroom{garage remodel}with spray paint and swear words the

night before he had to leave{to juvinelle hall}. We put up bunk

beds,thrift store beds ect. into one big room and rubber maid for

clothes,a tv and video games. The boys that moved away got jobs and

room mates/ apartments here in our small town and are still friends

like brothers to my family. They had abusive homes before staying

with us and were misfits of sorts but good kids. My son never really

had friends at school or home before that except for one alcohol

syndrome young adult boy who lived near us. I kept it real simple. Go

to school,no name calling/fighting,clean room & laundry once a week

and one big dinner together on the weekend. They all learned about

living with autism first hand. 3 of my children are autistic. They

big brother,befriend my son and all my children and they all found

things to laugh together about. We live in Washington. Our community

doesnt offer any autism related schooling except iep. I have thought

about other places to live where the resources would be better. The

good things about a small town are no traffic. Everything close to

home on a small scale. One grocery store. My autistic teen and young

adult learned to shop. My young adult got her drivers permit and

drives to the store. One McDs. No stop lights,traffic. Dial a ride

available and well used by my kids. Everyone knows everyone at stores

ect. is good and bad. I think a big city would be to hard for them to

navigate. I had to homeschool alot through the difficult years and

mainstream the easier times. Where would your family move to or from?

Best wishes,

Tishanne

-- In AutismBehaviorProblems , pkuenstler@... wrote:

>

> That's great that your son has friends who will throw a football

with him.

> Are the friends school friends or friends in the neighborhood? I

was

> wondering where you live because my son is thinking about moving

the family to

> California. I'm praying it doesn't work out because I think it

would be hard on

> Karac; not to mention me.

>

> What kind of razor does your son use? Pat K

>

>

> In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:32:28 P.M. Central Daylight Time,

> tishannepatterson@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi Pat,thanks so much for asking. My son walks from his high school

> to McDs. He swims and sometimes he plays basketball or throws the

> football with friends and he jogged the mile at school pe. He

really

> did well and likes weight lifting{lost weight} but couldnt get in

the

> class this semester. He lost interest in his bike this summer. He

> really likes going to watch his highschool sports games,all of

them.

> He does shave,he shaved his legs once!lol. He has a little

moustache.

> He likes playing guitar hero{wii}. He enjoys checking out video

games

> on the computer. He is off to a good start in 11th grade. A big

sigh

> of relief,lol. We live in Washington. How is Karac doing with a

new

> school year and 16?

> Smiles today,

> Tishanne

>

> --- In _AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) , pkuenstler@, pku

> >

> > Tishanne, what does your son do for exercise? What does he enjoy

> doing?

> > I'm glad your son is doing better with puberty. Does he shave?

> What is he

> > doing in school? Do you live in California? Pat K

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:07:00 A.M. Central Daylight

Time,

> > tishannepatterson@ tishan

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi Pat,my son is doing much better with puberty this year. He

still

> > has his " bat out of " days,lol. It seems like boys have their

> hormonal

> > pms type moods and it really does help to feed kids quick

> sometimes.

> > I think this stage of puberty is the one where they have

arrived.

> It

> > seems to be better most days then traveling into puberty ever

was.

> > I am a microwave chef,lol. You are a very special mom and

grandma.

> > What a blessing for your children and grandchildren to have you

so

> > close and caring.

> > Best wishes,

> > Tishanne

> > - In _AutismBehaviorProb - In _AutismBeh - In _Aut

> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) , pkuenstler@,

pku

> > >

> > > Tishanne, I just read where your son is the same age as Karac.

> How

> > is he

> > > doing with puberty? This morning Karac woke up like a bat out

of

> > hell; the

> > > little kids scampered. I told his mother to give him some

bacon

> > that I thought

> > > it was low blood sugar. Thank goodness for microwaves!! He was

> > fine as soon

> > > as he ate his bacon. (I am the Grandmother and I take care of

> the

> > kids

> > > before and after school and on weekends) Sometimes I forget

that

> > I am not the

> > > mother. smile Pat K

> > >

> > >

> > > In a message dated 9/9/2008 11:09:24 P.M. Central Daylight

Time,

> > > tishannepatterson@ tishannepa

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > When my son was 9 he would only wear his red shirt. I was at

his

> > > neurologist appointment and asked about this behavior and what

I

> > > should do. He{DR.Makari} smiled at me and said buy 7 of those

> red

> > > shirts. Only problem was I couldnt find anymore at the store.

> > Every

> > > night I washed the shirt and my son wore it every day.

> Eventually

> > I

> > > got him to wear it under,over other shirts lol. I even snuck

it

> off

> > > to wash it when he was sleeping a couple of times and snuck it

> > back

> > > on him clean. I was afraid he would get attatched to the

smell.

> We

> > > look back and laugh at all the pictures{red shirt}and 2 months

> > > probally went by. One day he got up,dressed in something else

> and

> > > everyday after that. I kept it in the drawer just in case. We

> all

> > > told him how nice he looked and never said anything about the

> red

> > > shirt,not even asking him why he changed it. He is 16 now and

> > still

> > > changes everday. I wonder if seeing cartoon characters in the

> same

> > > outfit everyday or years encourages this,just a thought.

> > > Best wishes,

> > > Tishanne

> > > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I

> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_

> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) , pkuenstler@,

> pku

> > > >

> > > > Karac use to be that way about a shirt when he was three

years

> > > old. My ABA

> > > > person told me to throw it away, but I decided to use it to

> > teach

> > > him to

> > > > dress and undress himself. I told him if he could take off

the

> > > shirt that I put

> > > > on him and could put the other one on by himself he could

wear

> > > it. It took a

> > > > lot of work but he learned how to do it. I think he finally

> just

> > > got tired

> > > > of the process, and he has been able to dress and undress

> > himself

> > > every since.

> > > > Pat K

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > In a message dated 9/7/2008 8:32:44 P.M. Central Daylight

> Time,

> > > > dora@ writes:

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > Do you know what it is about this shirt that he prefers it

> over

> > > the others?

> > > > Is it the character or picture on the shirt, the fabric

feel,

> or

> > > something

> > > > like that?

> > > > Dora

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ____________ ____ ____ _

> > > >

> > > > From: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism [mailto:

[mailto:<ST1><WBR>A

> > > [mailto:<ST

> > > > ] On Behalf Of Iovine

> > > > Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 4:56 PM

> > > > To: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism

> > > > Subject: son won't change shirt, suggestions?

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > My son wants to wear the same shirt every day. Any one have

> any

> > > suggestions

> > > > to get him to wear other shirts and pants.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have

> you

> > > fashion blog,

> > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at

StyleList.com.

> > > > (___http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://www.styhttp://

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> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have

you he

> > fashion blog,

> > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com.

> > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_

> (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_)

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> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have you he

> fashion blog,

> > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com.

> > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_

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> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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>

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Tishanne, thanks for telling me about the prom. That makes my day. You are a great creative, fun loving Mom; your kids are so blessed. You are such an encouragement. I'll try to live more courageously. LOL, Pat K

Hi Pat,my husband would have never gone for this while he had his work schedule. He might have thought I really was crazy,lol. He had a stroke last December. After that he became more willing to try my ideas. The best memory I have of the teen boys staying here and my son is that they went{solo} to the hs prom. They decided at the very last minute about going. I jumped on their enthusiam and ran to the thrift stores. I got 2 bags of suits and tux,$5.00 per bag. No one knew their size,lol. They were all trying things on and modeling. It was so darn funny and cute. They all found something to fit and dressed up to go. They wore suits with their tennis shoes,lol. I still get a{happy} tear in my eye, so do my older daughters. We got pictures at home of them modeling suits,lol and dressed up to go. I was so happy for them. My son would have never gone without the friendship of those teens or wore a tux.Tishanne>> I am so impressed with your energy and generosity. That is amazing. I > would love to do something like that, but my husband would never go for it. That > is a great idea. I'm so glad I asked. Thanks, Pat K> > > > > > > > Hi Pat,making friends has been a struggle for my son. What I did to > bridge the gap was invite homeless teens and teens with troubled home > situations to stay with us. It started last school year. My son met a > teen who had no place to stay,had been kicked out of his adopted > parents home. My son asked if the teen could spend the night for 30 > days,lol. I contacted the boys parents and they confirmed and were > happy he had a place to stay. He stayed 1/2 a year. We live in a > vacation/resort town so alot of kids come through here to > camp,runaway ect. Well the boy enrolled in my sons school. Then my > son had a friend at school! That kid knew or met another kid ect. > Then I repeated the stay here finish school idea. I had 4 teens here > through school and summer. This has been a good social experience for > my son. His friends didnt know about autism. Usually I tell them a > couple of things at a time as questions or situations arise. > Sometimes I had them look on the internet and read a little and tell > me 2 things about autism. It gave my son the much needed friends at > school and home. It upset the neighborhood and there was complaining/> cops because I had so many teens coming and going. The worst thing > that happened was one of the boys had drug problems and graffitied > the big bedroom{garage remodel}with spray paint and swear words the > night before he had to leave{to juvinelle hall}. We put up bunk > beds,thrift store beds ect. into one big room and rubber maid for > clothes,a tv and video games. The boys that moved away got jobs and > room mates/ apartments here in our small town and are still friends > like brothers to my family. They had abusive homes before staying > with us and were misfits of sorts but good kids. My son never really > had friends at school or home before that except for one alcohol > syndrome young adult boy who lived near us. I kept it real simple. Go > to school,no name calling/fighting,to school,n & laundry once a week > and one big dinner together on the weekend. They all learned about > living with autism first hand. 3 of my children are autistic. They > big brother,befriend my son and all my children and they all found > things to laugh together about. We live in Washington. Our community > doesnt offer any autism related schooling except iep. I have thought > about other places to live where the resources would be better. The > good things about a small town are no traffic. Everything close to > home on a small scale. One grocery store. My autistic teen and young > adult learned to shop. My young adult got her drivers permit and > drives to the store. One McDs. No stop lights,traffic. Dial a ride > available and well used by my kids. Everyone knows everyone at stores > ect. is good and bad. I think a big city would be to hard for them to > navigate. I had to homeschool alot through the difficult years and > mainstream the easier times. Where would your family move to or from?> Best wishes,> Tishanne> -- In _AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) , pkuenstler@, pku> >> > That's great that your son has friends who will throw a football > with him. > > Are the friends school friends or friends in the neighborhood? I > was > > wondering where you live because my son is thinking about moving > the family to > > California. I'm praying it doesn't work out because I think it > would be hard on > > Karac; not to mention me. > > > > What kind of razor does your son use? Pat K> > > > > > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:32:28 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > > tishannepatterson@ tishan> > > > > > > > > > Hi Pat,thanks so much for asking. My son walks from his high school > > to McDs. He swims and sometimes he plays basketball or throws the > > football with friends and he jogged the mile at school pe. He > really > > did well and likes weight lifting{lost weight} but couldnt get in > the > > class this semester. He lost interest in his bike this summer. He > > really likes going to watch his highschool sports games,all of > them. > > He does shave,he shaved his legs once!lol. He has a little > moustache. > > He likes playing guitar hero{wii}. He enjoys checking out video > games > > on the computer. He is off to a good start in 11th grade. A big > sigh > > of relief,lol. We live in Washington. How is Karac doing with a > new > > school year and 16?> > Smiles today,> > Tishanne> > > > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) , pkuenstler@, pku> > >> > > Tishanne, what does your son do for exercise? What does he enjoy > > doing? > > > I'm glad your son is doing better with puberty. Does he shave? > > What is he > > > doing in school? Do you live in California? Pat K> > > > > > > > > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:07:00 A.M. Central Daylight > Time, > > > tishannepatterson@ tishan> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Hi Pat,my son is doing much better with puberty this year. He > still > > > has his "bat out of" days,lol. It seems like boys have their > > hormonal > > > pms type moods and it really does help to feed kids quick > > sometimes. > > > I think this stage of puberty is the one where they have > arrived. > > It > > > seems to be better most days then traveling into puberty ever > was.> > > I am a microwave chef,lol. You are a very special mom and > grandma. > > > What a blessing for your children and grandchildren to have you > so > > > close and caring.> > > Best wishes,> > > Tishanne> > > - In _AutismBehaviorProb - In _AutismBeh - In _Aut> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) , pkuenstler@, > pku> > > >> > > > Tishanne, I just read where your son is the same age as Karac. > > How > > > is he > > > > doing with puberty? This morning Karac woke up like a bat out > of > > > hell; the > > > > little kids scampered. I told his mother to give him some > bacon > > > that I thought > > > > it was low blood sugar. Thank goodness for microwaves!! He was > > > fine as soon > > > > as he ate his bacon. (I am the Grandmother and I take care of > > the > > > kids > > > > before and after school and on weekends) Sometimes I forget > that > > > I am not the > > > > mother. smile Pat K> > > > > > > > > > > > In a message dated 9/9/2008 11:09:24 P.M. Central Daylight > Time, > > > > tishannepatterson@ tishannepa> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > When my son was 9 he would only wear his red shirt. I was at > his > > > > neurologist appointment and asked about this behavior and what > I > > > > should do. He{DR.Makari} smiled at me and said buy 7 of those > > red > > > > shirts. Only problem was I couldnt find anymore at the store. > > > Every > > > > night I washed the shirt and my son wore it every day. > > Eventually > > > I > > > > got him to wear it under,over other shirts lol. I even snuck > it > > off > > > > to wash it when he was sleeping a couple of times and snuck it > > > back > > > > on him clean. I was afraid he would get attatched to the > smell. > > We > > > > look back and laugh at all the pictures{red shirt}and 2 months > > > > probally went by. One day he got up,dressed in something else > > and > > > > everyday after that. I kept it in the drawer just in case. We > > all > > > > told him how nice he looked and never said anything about the > > red > > > > shirt,not even asking him why he changed it. He is 16 now and > > > still > > > > changes everday. I wonder if seeing cartoon characters in the > > same > > > > outfit everyday or years encourages this,just a thought.> > > > Best wishes,> > > > Tishanne> > > > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I> > > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_ > (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) ) , pkuenstler@, > > pku> > > > >> > > > > Karac use to be that way about a shirt when he was three > years > > > > old. My ABA > > > > > person told me to throw it away, but I decided to use it to > > > teach > > > > him to > > > > > dress and undress himself. I told him if he could take off > the > > > > shirt that I put > > > > > on him and could put the other one on by himself he could > wear > > > > it. It took a > > > > > lot of work but he learned how to do it. I think he finally > > just > > > > got tired > > > > > of the process, and he has been able to dress and undress > > > himself > > > > every since. > > > > > Pat K> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > In a message dated 9/7/2008 8:32:44 P.M. Central Daylight > > Time, > > > > > dora@ writes:> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Do you know what it is about this shirt that he prefers it > > over > > > > the others? > > > > > Is it the character or picture on the shirt, the fabric > feel, > > or > > > > something > > > > > like that? > > > > > Dora > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ ____ ____ _> > > > > > > > > > From: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism [mailto: > [mailto:<ST1><WBR>A> > > > [mailto:<ST > > > > > ] On Behalf Of Iovine> > > > > Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 4:56 PM> > > > > To: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism > > > > > Subject: son won't change shirt, suggestions?> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > My son wants to wear the same shirt every day. Any one have > > any > > > > suggestions > > > > > to get him to wear other shirts and pants.> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have > > you > > > > fashion blog, > > > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at > StyleList.com. > > > > > (____http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://www.http://wwh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.http://www.styhttp://) > www.styh_ > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://wwwhttp://www.styhttp://www.styh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_) ) > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.stylhttp://wwhttp://www.styh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//wwwhttp://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://wwwhttp://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) ) ) > > > > (___http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://www.styhttp://www.styh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://wwwhttp://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) ) > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) ) ) ) )> > > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have > you he> > > fashion blog, > > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > > > (___http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://www.styhttp://www.styh_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://wwwhttp://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) ) > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) ) ) )> > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have you he> > fashion blog, > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > > (__http://www.stylelishttp://www.http://wwhttp://www.styhttp:_ > (http://www.stylelishttp//www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_) > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) ) )> > >> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have you he> fashion blog, > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. > > (_http://www.stylelishttp://www.sthttp://www.stylehttp://ww_ > (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) )> >> > > > > > > > **************Psssst...Have you heard the news? 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[Guest guest]

Hi Pat,my husband would have never gone for this while he had his

work schedule. He might have thought I really was crazy,lol. He had a

stroke last December. After that he became more willing to try my

ideas. The best memory I have of the teen boys staying here and my

son is that they went{solo} to the hs prom. They decided at the very

last minute about going. I jumped on their enthusiam and ran to the

thrift stores. I got 2 bags of suits and tux,$5.00 per bag. No one

knew their size,lol. They were all trying things on and modeling. It

was so darn funny and cute. They all found something to fit and

dressed up to go. They wore suits with their tennis shoes,lol. I

still get a{happy} tear in my eye, so do my older daughters. We got

pictures at home of them modeling suits,lol and dressed up to go. I

was so happy for them. My son would have never gone without the

friendship of those teens or wore a tux.

Tishanne

>

> I am so impressed with your energy and generosity. That is

amazing. I

> would love to do something like that, but my husband would never

go for it. That

> is a great idea. I'm so glad I asked. Thanks, Pat K

>

>

> In a message dated 9/12/2008 10:37:14 A.M. Central Daylight Time,

> tishannepatterson@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi Pat,making friends has been a struggle for my son. What I did

to

> bridge the gap was invite homeless teens and teens with troubled

home

> situations to stay with us. It started last school year. My son met

a

> teen who had no place to stay,had been kicked out of his adopted

> parents home. My son asked if the teen could spend the night for

30

> days,lol. I contacted the boys parents and they confirmed and were

> happy he had a place to stay. He stayed 1/2 a year. We live in a

> vacation/resort town so alot of kids come through here to

> camp,runaway ect. Well the boy enrolled in my sons school. Then my

> son had a friend at school! That kid knew or met another kid ect.

> Then I repeated the stay here finish school idea. I had 4 teens

here

> through school and summer. This has been a good social experience

for

> my son. His friends didnt know about autism. Usually I tell them a

> couple of things at a time as questions or situations arise.

> Sometimes I had them look on the internet and read a little and

tell

> me 2 things about autism. It gave my son the much needed friends

at

> school and home. It upset the neighborhood and there was

complaining/

> cops because I had so many teens coming and going. The worst thing

> that happened was one of the boys had drug problems and graffitied

> the big bedroom{garage remodel}with spray paint and swear words

the

> night before he had to leave{to juvinelle hall}. We put up bunk

> beds,thrift store beds ect. into one big room and rubber maid for

> clothes,a tv and video games. The boys that moved away got jobs

and

> room mates/ apartments here in our small town and are still

friends

> like brothers to my family. They had abusive homes before staying

> with us and were misfits of sorts but good kids. My son never

really

> had friends at school or home before that except for one alcohol

> syndrome young adult boy who lived near us. I kept it real simple.

Go

> to school,no name calling/fighting,to school,n & laundry once a

week

> and one big dinner together on the weekend. They all learned about

> living with autism first hand. 3 of my children are autistic. They

> big brother,befriend my son and all my children and they all found

> things to laugh together about. We live in Washington. Our

community

> doesnt offer any autism related schooling except iep. I have

thought

> about other places to live where the resources would be better.

The

> good things about a small town are no traffic. Everything close to

> home on a small scale. One grocery store. My autistic teen and

young

> adult learned to shop. My young adult got her drivers permit and

> drives to the store. One McDs. No stop lights,traffic. Dial a ride

> available and well used by my kids. Everyone knows everyone at

stores

> ect. is good and bad. I think a big city would be to hard for them

to

> navigate. I had to homeschool alot through the difficult years and

> mainstream the easier times. Where would your family move to or

from?

> Best wishes,

> Tishanne

> -- In _AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) , pkuenstler@, pku

> >

> > That's great that your son has friends who will throw a football

> with him.

> > Are the friends school friends or friends in the neighborhood? I

> was

> > wondering where you live because my son is thinking about moving

> the family to

> > California. I'm praying it doesn't work out because I think it

> would be hard on

> > Karac; not to mention me.

> >

> > What kind of razor does your son use? Pat K

> >

> >

> > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:32:28 P.M. Central Daylight

Time,

> > tishannepatterson@ tishan

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > Hi Pat,thanks so much for asking. My son walks from his high

school

> > to McDs. He swims and sometimes he plays basketball or throws

the

> > football with friends and he jogged the mile at school pe. He

> really

> > did well and likes weight lifting{lost weight} but couldnt get

in

> the

> > class this semester. He lost interest in his bike this summer.

He

> > really likes going to watch his highschool sports games,all of

> them.

> > He does shave,he shaved his legs once!lol. He has a little

> moustache.

> > He likes playing guitar hero{wii}. He enjoys checking out video

> games

> > on the computer. He is off to a good start in 11th grade. A big

> sigh

> > of relief,lol. We live in Washington. How is Karac doing with a

> new

> > school year and 16?

> > Smiles today,

> > Tishanne

> >

> > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I

> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) , pkuenstler@,

pku

> > >

> > > Tishanne, what does your son do for exercise? What does he

enjoy

> > doing?

> > > I'm glad your son is doing better with puberty. Does he shave?

> > What is he

> > > doing in school? Do you live in California? Pat K

> > >

> > >

> > > In a message dated 9/11/2008 10:07:00 A.M. Central Daylight

> Time,

> > > tishannepatterson@ tishan

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hi Pat,my son is doing much better with puberty this year. He

> still

> > > has his " bat out of " days,lol. It seems like boys have their

> > hormonal

> > > pms type moods and it really does help to feed kids quick

> > sometimes.

> > > I think this stage of puberty is the one where they have

> arrived.

> > It

> > > seems to be better most days then traveling into puberty ever

> was.

> > > I am a microwave chef,lol. You are a very special mom and

> grandma.

> > > What a blessing for your children and grandchildren to have

you

> so

> > > close and caring.

> > > Best wishes,

> > > Tishanne

> > > - In _AutismBehaviorProb - In _AutismBeh - In _Aut

> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_

> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) , pkuenstler@,

> pku

> > > >

> > > > Tishanne, I just read where your son is the same age as

Karac.

> > How

> > > is he

> > > > doing with puberty? This morning Karac woke up like a bat

out

> of

> > > hell; the

> > > > little kids scampered. I told his mother to give him some

> bacon

> > > that I thought

> > > > it was low blood sugar. Thank goodness for microwaves!! He

was

> > > fine as soon

> > > > as he ate his bacon. (I am the Grandmother and I take care

of

> > the

> > > kids

> > > > before and after school and on weekends) Sometimes I forget

> that

> > > I am not the

> > > > mother. smile Pat K

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > In a message dated 9/9/2008 11:09:24 P.M. Central Daylight

> Time,

> > > > tishannepatterson@ tishannepa

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > When my son was 9 he would only wear his red shirt. I was at

> his

> > > > neurologist appointment and asked about this behavior and

what

> I

> > > > should do. He{DR.Makari} smiled at me and said buy 7 of

those

> > red

> > > > shirts. Only problem was I couldnt find anymore at the

store.

> > > Every

> > > > night I washed the shirt and my son wore it every day.

> > Eventually

> > > I

> > > > got him to wear it under,over other shirts lol. I even snuck

> it

> > off

> > > > to wash it when he was sleeping a couple of times and snuck

it

> > > back

> > > > on him clean. I was afraid he would get attatched to the

> smell.

> > We

> > > > look back and laugh at all the pictures{red shirt}and 2

months

> > > > probally went by. One day he got up,dressed in something

else

> > and

> > > > everyday after that. I kept it in the drawer just in case.

We

> > all

> > > > told him how nice he looked and never said anything about

the

> > red

> > > > shirt,not even asking him why he changed it. He is 16 now

and

> > > still

> > > > changes everday. I wonder if seeing cartoon characters in

the

> > same

> > > > outfit everyday or years encourages this,just a thought.

> > > > Best wishes,

> > > > Tishanne

> > > > --- In _AutismBehaviorProb --- In _Aut --- I

> > > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_

> > > (mailto:_AutismBeha (mailto:_Au (mailto:_

> > (mailto:_AutismBehaviorProblAutismBehaviorPrAut_

> (mailto:AutismBehaviorProblems ) ) ) ) ,

pkuenstler@,

> > pku

> > > > >

> > > > > Karac use to be that way about a shirt when he was three

> years

> > > > old. My ABA

> > > > > person told me to throw it away, but I decided to use it

to

> > > teach

> > > > him to

> > > > > dress and undress himself. I told him if he could take off

> the

> > > > shirt that I put

> > > > > on him and could put the other one on by himself he could

> wear

> > > > it. It took a

> > > > > lot of work but he learned how to do it. I think he

finally

> > just

> > > > got tired

> > > > > of the process, and he has been able to dress and undress

> > > himself

> > > > every since.

> > > > > Pat K

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > In a message dated 9/7/2008 8:32:44 P.M. Central Daylight

> > Time,

> > > > > dora@ writes:

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > Do you know what it is about this shirt that he prefers it

> > over

> > > > the others?

> > > > > Is it the character or picture on the shirt, the fabric

> feel,

> > or

> > > > something

> > > > > like that?

> > > > > Dora

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > ____________ ____ ____ _

> > > > >

> > > > > From: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism [mailto:

> [mailto:<ST1><WBR>A

> > > > [mailto:<ST

> > > > > ] On Behalf Of Iovine

> > > > > Sent: Sunday, September 07, 2008 4:56 PM

> > > > > To: <ST1>AutismBeh <ST1>Autism

> > > > > Subject: son won't change shirt, suggestions?

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > > My son wants to wear the same shirt every day. Any one

have

> > any

> > > > suggestions

> > > > > to get him to wear other shirts and pants.

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

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> > you

> > > > fashion blog,

> > > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at

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> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

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> > > fashion blog,

> > > > plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at

StyleList.com.

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> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > > ************ ******** ************<WBR>**Psssst.<WBR>..Have

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