Guest guest Posted October 22, 2008 Report Share Posted October 22, 2008 I agree that any behavior even piching is a communication they are trying to get across. I also try a picture of a mad face and have the words " I am mad " . I am working on a sentence strip to go along with this to offer why he is mad. example could be I am mad I dont like your singing. or I am mad I want to go over there. Does this make sense to others? Autism is always a learning every day experience on what to do and I like others input. Also my child has a high tolerance for pain or the understanding of pain, as other children with autism I know also have, to even suggest to pinch my son back I think is abusive and would only show a response to what he has done. You have to find the cause and figure out their wants and validate their feelings. My son also knows when someone is teasing him or talking negatively about him. Just because he cant talk completely doesnt mean he doesnt hear what your saying and understand. Somtimes the school looks at me like I have three heads. But I know what works for my son. Any input from anyone would be greatly appreciative. Thanks Kathy -- In AutismBehaviorProblems , pkuenstler@... wrote: > > Now that Karac is 16 he rarely pinches. He pinched when was younger and > they > had several different meanings. If it was a hard pinch, it meant I don't > want to do this or I want you to stop what you are doing, ie like talking too > much or too loud. A softer pinch just meant that he wanted physical contact. > I learned that from his young girl play pal. One day when I picked her up > to come play with Karac, he pinched her. She said, " Oh, Karac, do you want > me to hold your hand? " He said, " yes " . and that was the end of that. I > thought, " What a wise young lady " . They are still fond of each other. Pat K. > > In a message dated 10/21/2008 9:02:47 P.M. Central Daylight Time, > lcalderon@... writes: > > > > > Wow. I am amazed that your son and my son BOTH pinch women and NOT men. My > son is non-verbal though. But still what a coincidence. I cannot ignore > the behavior - I just keep hoping that one day by showing him what a good > touch is that he will stop pinching me. But please let me know if you get any > success with ignoring the behavior. > ____________________________________ > From: AutismBehaviorProbl AutismBehav AutismBehaviorProbl<WB AutismBehav > AutismBehaviorProbl<WBR>emsyahoogroups (DOT) <WB Autis > Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 8:35 PM > To: AutismBehaviorProbl AutismBehav > Subject: Re: Pinching > > > > > > > > It is so weird that our children are so similar in what they do but > how to correct is so different. My son pinches me also, but males he > doesnt. I have tried what everyone says and ignore but it doesnt > work. After he pinches me he even says what happened? I answer him > that he hurt me. He asked the question and now is saying " you hurt me > thats what happened " Thats because when he does ask what happened I > answer him. I guess I am not ignoring it enough. Let me know what > you find out. Kathy > > > > > Hi Everyone, > > > > Sorry I haven't posted in a while. I've been crazy busy with work, > school and kids!!! I have been reading when I get a chance. > > > > I would like to know if any of your children on the spectrum > pinch. Donovan has recently started pinching me and laughs while he > does it or smiles. He obviously doesn't realize that he is hurting > me. And what's really strange is that he only seems to pinch women. > He pinches me, two of his special ed teachers at school and his > grandma. He hasn't pinched his siblings (thank goodness) or his dad. > > > > If any of you have experienced this with your children, did they > outgrow it? And how did you handle it? Right now I am removing his > hand and saying " no " and then showing him hand-over-hand how to do a > gentle touch and I say " gentle " . I also try to make him look at my > face so he can understand that it hurts. > > > > Any suggestions? > > > > Thanks for your input. > > > > Sincerely, > > > > a > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________________ > > This e-mail has been scanned by MCI Managed Email Content Service, > using Skeptic technology powered by MessageLabs. For more > information on MCI's Managed Email Content Service, visit > _http://www.mci.http_ (http://www.mci.com./) > > > __________________________________________________________ > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ > This e-mail has been scanned by MCI Managed Email Content Service, using > Skeptic technology powered by MessageLabs. 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