i'm back from the coast

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Well i had 4 really nice days at the coast.

i got a lot of walking in and it turned out that my room was a really

steep walk down to the beach, so it was some serious work.

i didnt get as much walking as i wanted, but it was enough to lose

another couple pounds.

i am now at 179. just barely there, but i finally did it. for the

first time in 3 years, i weigh under 180 pounds. i'm not really

feeling it yet, i still feel pretty out of shape and my body doesnt

cooperate too well with excercise still, but some of my clothes fit

better and a few of my shirts were big enough that I am now selling them!

if anyone needs some large 1X or 2X women's button shirts, let me

know. they are nearly new. they are the type that need ironing after

each wash, and i hate ironing, so i decided they werent worth taking

to the tailor to have altered.

As for the family member's i was discussing earlier.... i have mostly

distanced myself from them and i tell them they need to take care of

themselves. i have studied enabling behavior pretty well, so i'm very

careful how i help them and i dont do things for them they could do

for themselves. but constantly having to put them off and evade them

and then help them dig themselves out when they've really screwed up

is exhuasting as i'm sure most of you here know. But it's also the

thing, that here is so few people i can count on because they are so

busy screwing up their lives that if i get in a pickle, no one can

help. Case in point, i was sick as a dog one day trying to get home

from work, and not one person could come get me. They had let their

insurance lapse, didnt have enough gas to get there, was afraid of

driving in rush hour traffic, etc.... It's that type of frustration

that gets to me, even though I know i shouldnt let it. I do pretty

good most of the time and then i get so mad at them for not helping

themselves make their lives better. Most of them aren't Toxic, but

when it gets to that point, i stop answering the phone and dont call

anyone back for a week. If they havent resolved what ever it is by

then, then i might consider helping, but i dont make sacrifices for

them anymore and i dont inconvience myself either.

the time at the coast was part of that. no one could ask me to come

help because i wasnt there! and 2 of the people that mostly need my

help were out of town as well. it was very pleasant!

also, i dont know how many people are aware of this, but a family

member has moved in with me and my husband. You all know adding

someone else in your household is always a bit stressful no matter how

much you like the person but there are additional issues with this

situation which i will not be able to discuss here due to the fact

that my entire email address and my name now shows to the world and it

wouldnt be fair to have any information tracked back to this family

member. needless to say, trying to help an 18 year old grow up is

very very difficult.

my husband and I are working on a debt consolidation loan, it's not

the route we wanted to take, but we're finding that with his new job

and chasing after our kid and the new family member, that we cant seem

to be able to keep track of our obligations very well and this is the

most practical route.

now that i feel better, i will rejoin the land of those looking for

jobs. all the seasonal hiring has started here, so i need to get my

behind out there and find a job. i'm hoping to find something for 10

hours a day 3 days a week. because daycare will cost me less that way.

anyone know anything about getting a telecommuting job reading for a

job? i'm an extremely fast reader and can read technical stuff as

well. I also know proper grammer and stuff (not that i use it here)

and can do editing, but I am out of practice. Anyway, i could do

reviews and all sorts of stuff, but I dont know how to get in the

field and wondered if anyone here has any familiarity with it.

Otherwise all is pretty well. I found Steve's latest post ot be

interesting and read some of the replies to my last post, but i've run

out of time to catch up on the rest. I think i'm still 5 days or more

back.

i will try to catch back up with all the posts.

Elaine, what size shoes do you wear?

Also, i have a pair of cheap men's hikers size 7 to 7.5 Wide, i'd be

happy to send to anyone who needs them. They also fit a 9 women's

size. They are just a smidge too short to be a 10. They could be

considered in good shape, except that i think one of the seams is

starting to pop and you'd want to take them to a shoe person to make

sure they wouldnt unravel. otherwise, if you just need something to

wear into the ground and not worry about, these would be it.

i hope everyone is well and i hope to catch up with the posts soon.

laurie

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Good to hear from you again, Laurie, espeicially that it was a nice break. Good luck with your job hunting.

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i'm back from the coast

Well i had 4 really nice days at the coast.i got a lot of walking in and it turned out that my room was a reallysteep walk down to the beach, so it was some serious work.i didnt get as much walking as i wanted, but it was enough to loseanother couple pounds.i am now at 179. just barely there, but i finally did it. for thefirst time in 3 years, i weigh under 180 pounds. i'm not reallyfeeling it yet, i still feel pretty out of shape and my body doesntcooperate too well with excercise still, but some of my clothes fitbetter and a few of my shirts were big enough that I am now selling them!if anyone needs some large 1X or 2X women's button shirts, let meknow. they are nearly new. they are the type that need ironing aftereach wash, and i hate ironing, so i decided they werent worth takingto the tailor to have altered. As for the family member's i was discussing earlier.... i have mostlydistanced myself from them and i tell them they need to take care ofthemselves. i have studied enabling behavior pretty well, so i'm verycareful how i help them and i dont do things for them they could dofor themselves. but constantly having to put them off and evade themand then help them dig themselves out when they've really screwed upis exhuasting as i'm sure most of you here know. But it's also thething, that here is so few people i can count on because they are sobusy screwing up their lives that if i get in a pickle, no one canhelp. Case in point, i was sick as a dog one day trying to get homefrom work, and not one person could come get me. They had let theirinsurance lapse, didnt have enough gas to get there, was afraid ofdriving in rush hour traffic, etc.... It's that type of frustrationthat gets to me, even though I know i shouldnt let it. I do prettygood most of the time and then i get so mad at them for not helpingthemselves make their lives better. Most of them aren't Toxic, butwhen it gets to that point, i stop answering the phone and dont callanyone back for a week. If they havent resolved what ever it is bythen, then i might consider helping, but i dont make sacrifices forthem anymore and i dont inconvience myself either. the time at the coast was part of that. no one could ask me to comehelp because i wasnt there! and 2 of the people that mostly need myhelp were out of town as well. it was very pleasant!also, i dont know how many people are aware of this, but a familymember has moved in with me and my husband. You all know addingsomeone else in your household is always a bit stressful no matter howmuch you like the person but there are additional issues with thissituation which i will not be able to discuss here due to the factthat my entire email address and my name now shows to the world and itwouldnt be fair to have any information tracked back to this familymember. needless to say, trying to help an 18 year old grow up isvery very difficult. my husband and I are working on a debt consolidation loan, it's notthe route we wanted to take, but we're finding that with his new joband chasing after our kid and the new family member, that we cant seemto be able to keep track of our obligations very well and this is themost practical route. now that i feel better, i will rejoin the land of those looking forjobs. all the seasonal hiring has started here, so i need to get mybehind out there and find a job. i'm hoping to find something for 10hours a day 3 days a week. because daycare will cost me less that way. anyone know anything about getting a telecommuting job reading for ajob? i'm an extremely fast reader and can read technical stuff aswell. I also know proper grammer and stuff (not that i use it here)and can do editing, but I am out of practice. Anyway, i could doreviews and all sorts of stuff, but I dont know how to get in thefield and wondered if anyone here has any familiarity with it.Otherwise all is pretty well. I found Steve's latest post ot beinteresting and read some of the replies to my last post, but i've runout of time to catch up on the rest. I think i'm still 5 days or moreback. i will try to catch back up with all the posts.Elaine, what size shoes do you wear?Also, i have a pair of cheap men's hikers size 7 to 7.5 Wide, i'd behappy to send to anyone who needs them. They also fit a 9 women'ssize. They are just a smidge too short to be a 10. They could beconsidered in good shape, except that i think one of the seams isstarting to pop and you'd want to take them to a shoe person to makesure they wouldnt unravel. otherwise, if you just need something towear into the ground and not worry about, these would be it.i hope everyone is well and i hope to catch up with the posts soon.laurie

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Good for you Laurie!

I am back from WA for the memorial for my mother's twin. So sad but she had a very nice last day with my mom and with her oldest daughter. And it was quick so no suffering for her. It is a hard thing to lose a twin, I think in some ways almost more then a spouse. I feel so bad for my poor mom, but I could not get her to come home with me. I hope she decides to come down soon tho.

I think I probably gained a couple pounds. What Steve said about food was surely true up there. And the evidence that people do not make good food choices. There was more food then we knew what to do with and it was about half what I would call comfort food. Which is important under the circumstances, but still not healthy

Jane