Guest guest Posted August 4, 2004 Report Share Posted August 4, 2004 Tom, look at it from the bright side; you've just increased your chances of finding a GF who only falls for bad guys with 200 %. ;-) Joking aside, I personally don't confuse people's actions with who they are. I recognize a good person when i see one. I have no doubt you did what you did with the Edan thing for a good reason, and I sincerely hope Edan will forgive you for that brief error of judgement. [Anyone here who has never made one of those themselves??] As for multiple ID's, I agree that it is not uncommon in the cyber world. No law against it. I do find it confusing when people change their ID without informing other board members. But to do so out of need to hide from snooping 3Ders, I find a far more justifiable reason than doing it to deliberately decieve. I have no problem with that. I do not feel " betrayed " . More like relieved to have gotten an explanation and part of the background story. Recent events make a lot more sense now. I like it when things make sense. Inger P.S. Should you need a friend to talk to, please feel free to mail me in private. But don't feel obliged to if you have others to talk with or if you'd rather be alone. QUICK COMMENT > I need to think things through. I need to decide whether or not to turn this group into the hands of someone else. > Edan has been apologized to, but I have not heard a response yet. Possibly I will be sued, in which case maybe I can go become a hermit somewhere in the mountains after I lose my life savings. > I feel the need to say more but cannot at this time except that I did not deliberate deceive K-Man. I was trying to get him to stop harassing people and I was trying to get him to stop the only way I knew how. > Someone used the Edan1 ploy on me once when I was " lurking " in chat with Greeneyes. I adapted it for use. I will admit to that much, but I did not invent Edan1. > As for me having more than one sign on, a lot of people do. I wanted to hide it from my parents was all. > That's it for now. > I have no idea what will happen next. > I am sorry that I betrayed you all. > Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2004 Report Share Posted August 4, 2004 Tom, Inger said what I wanted to say much better than I ever could, but I will make an attempt. Some of us do very impulsive and – let’s face it, stupid - things that we regret once we have a chance to think about it (I can think of a few doozies I’ve done that I’d like to forget!!). I have a feeling this is what happened with the Edan1 thing. It was a very bad judgment with good intentions behind it. If you were truly trying to deceive, or felt no regret for it, I’m sure it would have been more than a one-time thing. I agree it was a very bad choice of sign-ins which I’m sure you’ve figuratively beaten yourself up for many times over. Though I’ve never been in chat with Edan... if he wanted himself to be known - I’m sure he would use the name Edan, not Edan1. If I ever saw Edan1 on a board or chat, I would NOT think it was really Edan. Why in the world would Edan use Edan1? And since I am very far from being the brightest bulb in the bunch... I must believe that if *I* would have doubted the person’s ID, then I’m sure most others would have too! Especially since the person in question seems to be very suspicious in nature. About having more than one sign-in, I can understand your reasons. My mom came across some posts of mine recently (to a group I thought was private, but turned out to be google-searchable!) and I felt extremely violated!!! I’ve been thinking about using a pseudonym recently too because of this (though I’m not creative enough to figure one out for myself!). If I knew somebody was joining groups I was in just to read what I was saying, I’d do the same thing. And if I felt very vulnerable, like you said something like nobody liked you (which is NOT true, but I get like that very often too) and I wanted to still be involved with a community I valued so highly – I would probably do the same thing. So IMO you had 2 very good reasons. I can see why you fought it so hard too... you wanted to feel safe posting under the other name. I honestly don’t feel betrayed. You have my email if you want to talk – use the one I first signed on here with since the other one is going to be cancelled soon. Wendi QUICK COMMENT I need to think things through. I need to decide whether or not to turn this group into the hands of someone else. Edan has been apologized to, but I have not heard a response yet. Possibly I will be sued, in which case maybe I can go become a hermit somewhere in the mountains after I lose my life savings. I feel the need to say more but cannot at this time except that I did not deliberate deceive K-Man. I was trying to get him to stop harassing people and I was trying to get him to stop the only way I knew how. Someone used the Edan1 ploy on me once when I was " lurking " in chat with Greeneyes. I adapted it for use. I will admit to that much, but I did not invent Edan1. As for me having more than one sign on, a lot of people do. I wanted to hide it from my parents was all. That's it for now. I have no idea what will happen next. I am sorry that I betrayed you all. Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 4, 2004 Report Share Posted August 4, 2004 Alas! It is a tangled web that we we've. The frustrating thing about this is that I feel betrayed and wronged. I come out of it looking like I am a deceiver and that I am paranoid. But there is more to this than meets the eye. Regretably, I cannot say what those things are on the AI board because: 1) I am in the middle of it. 2) If I go on about it, it will only makes me look worse. All I can say is that I feel I exercised ENORMOUS restraint regarding You Know Who in dealing with those posts to AI. And, at the same time, what I did on www.aspergia.com was for the purpose of protecting someone. I took drastic action in the hope of heading off what was definitely going to be a volotile and possibly terriying situation. I felt I had no other choice but to act. I am not the only one to act when felt comepelled to do so at www.aspergia.com, and I am not the only one to use the Edan1 ploy. And yes, my memory can recall a few people who have used more than one sign-on name, but to many Aspergians, doing such a thing is deceitful. And knwoing this, I still decided to have to sign-on IDs anyway. That's all I will say about this for now. Tom > Tom, look at it from the bright side; you've just increased your chances of > finding a GF who only falls for bad guys with 200 %. ;-) > > Joking aside, I personally don't confuse people's actions with who they are. > I recognize a good person when i see one. I have no doubt you did what you > did with the Edan thing for a good reason, and I sincerely hope Edan will > forgive you for that brief error of judgement. [Anyone here who has never > made one of those themselves??] > > As for multiple ID's, I agree that it is not uncommon in the cyber world. No > law against it. I do find it confusing when people change their ID without > informing other board members. But to do so out of need to hide from > snooping 3Ders, I find a far more justifiable reason than doing it to > deliberately decieve. I have no problem with that. > > I do not feel " betrayed " . More like relieved to have gotten an explanation > and part of the background story. Recent events make a lot more sense now. I > like it when things make sense. > > Inger > > P.S. Should you need a friend to talk to, please feel free to mail me in > private. But don't feel obliged to if you have others to talk with or if > you'd rather be alone. > > > > > QUICK COMMENT > > > > I need to think things through. I need to decide whether or not to > turn this group into the hands of someone else. > > > Edan has been apologized to, but I have not heard a response yet. > Possibly I will be sued, in which case maybe I can go become a hermit > somewhere in the mountains after I lose my life savings. > > > I feel the need to say more but cannot at this time except that I did > not deliberate deceive K-Man. I was trying to get him to stop > harassing people and I was trying to get him to stop the only way I > knew how. > > > Someone used the Edan1 ploy on me once when I was " lurking " in chat > with Greeneyes. I adapted it for use. I will admit to that much, but > I did not invent Edan1. > > > As for me having more than one sign on, a lot of people do. I wanted > to hide it from my parents was all. > > > That's it for now. > > > I have no idea what will happen next. > > > I am sorry that I betrayed you all. > > > Tom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2004 Report Share Posted August 5, 2004 Tom, I'm glad that you wrote. I've been worried about you. I'd like to post what I did here to AI, but to tell the truth I'm too afraid to. I know he is coming back (or has the option to)and I just don't think I could handle his... reaction. I'm sorry. I'm a wimp! I'm just not that good with that sort of thing. If he attacked me, it would take over my entire life, though I probably wouldn't even fight back and nobody on AI would even know how it was affecting me. Wendi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.