Brainstorm with me please

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Man, I tell ya, this girl is soooo good at withholding. I've posted

before about my dd's withholding. She's now almost 2 and started

withholding last summer following a fissure. We had great success in

the past with a kiwi a day and/or Babycalm, but the last few months

have been killer. I can't get my dd to take the Babycalm. Tried MOM,

no go. She won't drink anything except a small amount of raw milk,

lots of breastmilk, and some water (doesn't like juice, popsicles,

anything sweet). We did a six week dairy free trial for both of us,

no change. Her diet is just about pristine, we eat traditional foods

style and she gets good, pastured organic meats, butter, coconut oil,

olive oil, lots of fruits and veggies. A small amount of whole grains.

I don't know what to do anymore. She just holds it and holds it. I

can't get her to take anything. If I try to sneak it in her food, she

won't eat it. I found a cavity on the back of one of her incisors, so

we've been doing xylitol mints and no change. I tried sneaking some

xylitol into her yogurt, she takes one bite and tosses it on the

floor. I am pretty sure that she has no problems other than being

scared, ie, I don't think she starts constipated, she just holds it

for so long and won't go. I do suppositories when it gets to be 9,

10, 11, 12 days, when she starts holding her belly, not eating, not

sleeping. I keep hoping if she gets cleaned out, gets all the hard

stuff out, maybe she'll go on her own. But it doesn't happen.

I was wondering if I should try pushing a little fiber. In the past,

stuff like an apple and muffins with flaxseed have helped. Her diet

is still so spotty, some days she'll eat a ton but others just a tiny

bit, maybe she needs some more bulk to speed transit time, give her

some urge to go? Is their any form of magnesium that doesn't have to

be dissolved like Babycalm does?

Thanks,