Guest guest Posted February 12, 2006 Report Share Posted February 12, 2006 Ric I think that you are right However lately I have realized that I have less need to label things. Cause when I label things I close options. However, some people around me likes to label things, espatialy ME, Have you noticed? And I ask you, how can anyone label such a colorful person such as me? Please label me, I love it! Who is Tami, according to your story? T -- Seeing a new psychiatrist - need help > > > > > > > >I started to see a new psychiatrist yesterday. My old one has moved. > >She was the one that said that I could be bipolar. The defining > >characteristics of a bipolar pirson, were things I could recocnise > >myself with. I have no stressful story about it, on the contraty, it > >explained a lot of things for me. > > > >And yesterday I met this new one, and he wasn´t so sure I was > >bipolar. He thought I was a better match for a borderline > >personality. And then he wrote down on a whiteboard the defining > >characteristics of a borderline person. > > > >Having trouble connecting with other people. > >Hard to feel empathy for others. > >No impulscontrol. > >Terrified of separations. > >Careless about yourself and others. > > > > > >And when I asked where he got it from, that I should be borderline, > >he refered to something a psychiatrist wrote about me in 1999, when > >I was separating from a boyfriend, after seeing me for an hour. > >Notice that she never mentioned the word borderline. > > > >So now he is talking about changing my medication, and when every > >other doctor read my journal he will read that I am a borderline > >personality. > > > >I feel so helpless. I am not borderline! I´m not even sure I am > >depressed or bipolar. I feel I have to defend myself, and it´s not > >because I also think that I can´t connect with other people. I am > >very good at that, and very good at having long relationships. It´s > >not because I think I have no ematphy with others. I have always > >have a very good empathic feeling, even as a child. > > > >I am not terrified of separation in general. I am terrified of Hans > >death, and I guess I share the fear of losing your soulmate with > >many others, and that doesn´t make any of us is borderlines. > > > >I think my impuls control is average. I don´t have a story that I > >have to do the first thing that comes to my mind. And sometimes I > >act from impulse of course. That is not a problem for me. > > > >Careless about myself and other people. It has happened of course. I > >don´t see it as a common behaviour for me, far from. I am very > >caring to all my loved ones, my friends and family and people I > >don´t know too. > > > > > >Well, this really got my stories running. I am afraid, and can´t > >stop thinking about this. I could really use your help now! Do you > >think I am borderline? How do I work with htis? Please help me! > > > >Love, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2006 Report Share Posted February 18, 2006 C I just don't like you, ok? T -- Re: Re: Plain Old Ugly -- Jeffery, The work is the questions and turn around. It isnt necessary to read the book, or 'take' anything 'in deeply' in my experience. When we question our stressful beliefs, we come back home, to find our own truth within ourselves There are many paths and some people seem to live out their own truth in a very easy, natural manner. Isn't it wonderful? Cheers, wrote: Hi Tami, you amaze me too! How can you know how to do the work, if you gave away the book!! There is so much in there to absorb, I have listened to the cd's many times so I can take in in deeply. Love > > > > > > > >> Whose business is it if I use technology to enhance > my > > > > face? > > > > > > Still > > > > > > > >> mine. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Definitely your business, . I still ponder this, > > > though. > > > > > > > > You use the word " enhance. " That implies that that you > > > feel > > > > > that > > > > > > > > having fewer wrinkles is better, no? I am guessing it > > > > wouldn't > > > > > > FEEL > > > > > > > > any better. Like if you were lying in the dark, would > > your > > > > > face > > > > > > feel > > > > > > > > any better without wrinkles? So how is it better? It > > LOOKS > > > > > better, > > > > > > > > right? To other people? > > > > > > > No. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And you know that. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What is saying, is that there is action without > > > motives. > > > > > > > Action without thought. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Sometimes we forget that. We can even go as far as to > > > > believing > > > > > > that > > > > > > > there would be NO action WITHOUT motives. > > > > > > > When actually it is the other way around: there is no > > action > > > > > WITH > > > > > > > motives. Motives... don't do action. They don't do > > anything. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > They are just thoughts. Come to pass. Don't MAKE > anything > > > > happen. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Don't TRY to go there. If you really want to ponder > about > > > it, > > > > > ask > > > > > > > yourself if you can find ANYTHING you have ever done > > without > > > a > > > > > > motive. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Then you may have a place to start from. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > If you were stranded on a desert island for the rest > of > > > your > > > > > life, > > > > > > > > with only you and a plastic surgeon, would you have > the > > > > > surgery? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > None of my business, but I'm asking anyhow. > > > > > > > Yes, but you are asking the wrong person. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And it even is the " wrong " question! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > When I read about wanting to get surgery because > > she > > > > > lost > > > > > > 100 > > > > > > > > pounds and had lots of excess skin hanging from her > > neck, > > > I > > > > can > > > > > > > > imagine that would FEEL uncomfortable, swinging around > > > when > > > > > she > > > > > > moved. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I see your point in the ordering in a restaurant > story, > > > but > > > > > that > > > > > > one > > > > > > > > has nothing to do with how you appear to other people. > I > > > > guess > > > > > > what I > > > > > > > > am getting at is, is there a reason that has nothing > to > > do > > > > > with > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > you appear to others, that you would have cosmetic > > > surgery? > > > > If > > > > > > not, > > > > > > > > why not just say that you want to look better to other > > > > people? > > > > > > More > > > > > > > > refreshed, less tired, younger, whatever? > > > > > > > Karin, if you are really interested in this: > > > > > > > What do you see when you look in the mirror? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Who are you around ugly people? > > > > > > > - How do you feel? > > > > > > > - What do you think of them? > > > > > > > - What advice do you have for them? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I'm imagining I would find it refreshing if > > > said, " I'd > > > > > like > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > reach more people with The Work, and having surgery > > would > > > > make > > > > > me > > > > > > > > look better on TV and at workshops, and/or I like > > feeling > > > > > pretty > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > other people, so I decided to do it. " > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Personally I find this subject interesting, and > perhaps > > I > > > > will > > > > > > never > > > > > > > > be enlightened enough to not find it so. > > > > > > > Well, keep on running, then! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ___________________________________________________________ > > > > > > > Telefonate ohne weitere Kosten vom PC zum PC: > > > > > > http://messenger.yahoo.de > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2006 Report Share Posted February 18, 2006 LOL ~ okay! What I write is for me Tami, obviously! Cheers, Tamar Fattal wrote: C I just don't like you, ok? T -- Re: Re: Plain Old Ugly -- Jeffery, The work is the questions and turn around. It isnt necessary to read the book, or 'take' anything 'in deeply' in my experience. When we question our stressful beliefs, we come back home, to find our own truth within ourselves There are many paths and some people seem to live out their own truth in a very easy, natural manner. Isn't it wonderful? Cheers, wrote: Hi Tami, you amaze me too! How can you know how to do the work, if you gave away the book!! There is so much in there to absorb, I have listened to the cd's many times so I can take in in deeply. Love > > > > > > > >> Whose business is it if I use technology to enhance > my > > > > face? > > > > > > Still > > > > > > > >> mine. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Definitely your business, . I still ponder this, > > > though. > > > > > > > > You use the word " enhance. " That implies that that you > > > feel > > > > > that > > > > > > > > having fewer wrinkles is better, no? I am guessing it > > > > wouldn't > > > > > > FEEL > > > > > > > > any better. Like if you were lying in the dark, would > > your > > > > > face > > > > > > feel > > > > > > > > any better without wrinkles? So how is it better? It > > LOOKS > > > > > better, > > > > > > > > right? To other people? > > > > > > > No. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And you know that. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What is saying, is that there is action without > > > motives. > > > > > > > Action without thought. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Sometimes we forget that. We can even go as far as to > > > > believing > > > > > > that > > > > > > > there would be NO action WITHOUT motives. > > > > > > > When actually it is the other way around: there is no > > action > > > > > WITH > > > > > > > motives. Motives... don't do action. They don't do > > anything. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > They are just thoughts. Come to pass. Don't MAKE > anything > > > > happen. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Don't TRY to go there. If you really want to ponder > about > > > it, > > > > > ask > > > > > > > yourself if you can find ANYTHING you have ever done > > without > > > a > > > > > > motive. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Then you may have a place to start from. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > If you were stranded on a desert island for the rest > of > > > your > > > > > life, > > > > > > > > with only you and a plastic surgeon, would you have > the > > > > > surgery? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > None of my business, but I'm asking anyhow. > > > > > > > Yes, but you are asking the wrong person. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > And it even is the " wrong " question! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > When I read about wanting to get surgery because > > she > > > > > lost > > > > > > 100 > > > > > > > > pounds and had lots of excess skin hanging from her > > neck, > > > I > > > > can > > > > > > > > imagine that would FEEL uncomfortable, swinging around > > > when > > > > > she > > > > > > moved. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I see your point in the ordering in a restaurant > story, > > > but > > > > > that > > > > > > one > > > > > > > > has nothing to do with how you appear to other people. > I > > > > guess > > > > > > what I > > > > > > > > am getting at is, is there a reason that has nothing > to > > do > > > > > with > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > you appear to others, that you would have cosmetic > > > surgery? > > > > If > > > > > > not, > > > > > > > > why not just say that you want to look better to other > > > > people? > > > > > > More > > > > > > > > refreshed, less tired, younger, whatever? > > > > > > > Karin, if you are really interested in this: > > > > > > > What do you see when you look in the mirror? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Who are you around ugly people? > > > > > > > - How do you feel? > > > > > > > - What do you think of them? > > > > > > > - What advice do you have for them? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I'm imagining I would find it refreshing if > > > said, " I'd > > > > > like > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > reach more people with The Work, and having surgery > > would > > > > make > > > > > me > > > > > > > > look better on TV and at workshops, and/or I like > > feeling > > > > > pretty > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > other people, so I decided to do it. " > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Personally I find this subject interesting, and > perhaps > > I > > > > will > > > > > > never > > > > > > > > be enlightened enough to not find it so. > > > > > > > Well, keep on running, then! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Take care. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Love, > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ___________________________________________________________ > > > > > > > Telefonate ohne weitere Kosten vom PC zum PC: > > > > > > http://messenger.yahoo.de > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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