Explanation of 's previous post for Karin

February 13, 2006

Message: 5

Date: Mon, 13 Feb 2006 00:22:28 -0000

Subject: Re: She said I love you, I hear...

My thought when I read this was, " What the hell does this mean? "

Why did she think she should get out?

[FCB] Because she did. That's what came up for her.

Why did he say she was hearing something from the past?

[FCB] Because she was responding to a hypothetical situation. How else can

you possibly respond to a hypothetical situation except from your past.

How did he know? Maybe she hears that in the present, no? Why did he repeat

the story " 4-6 times " What was the result?

[FCB] The result of really being with a story is that it diminishes. That is

what we experienced as it was restated. If you want to experiment with that

take one of your stories that you find upsetting (like the one that my posts

from two years ago should make sense to you and not be irritating). State,

as clearly as you can what happened, and then state the meaning you added to

the situation. Then revisit... what happened... what you made it mean. As I

go through this, I notice that I get clearer on the difference and lessen my

attachment to believing my thoughts.

What is the context? WTF?

[FCB] It doesn't seem important now.

Other than that, I wonder how 's relationship worked out...?

[FCB] My relationship worked out perfectly, thanks for asking and giving me

the opportunity to reflect on it. I completed with and we parted

about a year ago. My reason was that it was disempowering for both of us. We

are friends and I still cherish her as the teacher I needed at that time.

I'm in a different relationship now, with another perfect teacher, and I

notice that I'm clearer than I used to be and more willing to be with the

truth of the moment.

Carson Boyd

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