Re: Explanation of 's previous post for Karin

[Guest guest]

Ah, thanks for showing up and explaining, . I appreciate seeing

where the story fits into some sort of context, especially since

You're right, I was telling myself a frustrating story that I would

ask for an explanation and not get one.

I see what you're saying about the story losing its power. Part of my

feelings were that I interpreted the story originally as a man trying

to wear a woman down until she said she loved him. Wanting her to

open up for/to HIM, not really for HER. Good material for me. I

learned that my feeling this particular type of irritation is a great

clue.

And glad to hear that that relationship where you are both in the

work, worked out well. Good stuff all around.

>

[FCB] The result of really being with a story is that it diminishes.

That is

> what we experienced as it was restated. If you want to experiment

with that

> take one of your stories that you find upsetting (like the one that

my posts

> from two years ago should make sense to you and not be irritating).

State,

> as clearly as you can what happened, and then state the meaning you

added to

> the situation. Then revisit... what happened... what you made it

mean. As I

> go through this, I notice that I get clearer on the difference and

lessen my

> attachment to believing my thoughts.

>

(snip)

>

> Other than that, I wonder how 's relationship worked out...?

>

> [FCB] My relationship worked out perfectly, thanks for asking and

giving me

> the opportunity to reflect on it.