Guest guest Posted July 25, 2004 Report Share Posted July 25, 2004 > Good luck with your " anger management. " In my experience, > sometimes anger is both useful and unavoidable. Unavoidable yes, useful I´m not sure. What should I do with it? What should I use it for? I think that is an old myth that many therapists seem to like and believe (my story). *****It's not so much what you " should do " with anger. It's taking the arising of anger -- and this would be valid for any upset -- as a smoke signal. There is some communication going on within the psyche (often unconscious to conscious). Often anger is the surface emotion of fear. Using anger as a wakeup call, it may be possible to touch and befriend the provoking emotion underneath it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 25, 2004 Report Share Posted July 25, 2004 Ok, got it! > > > > Good luck with your " anger management. " In my experience, > > sometimes anger is both useful and unavoidable. > > Unavoidable yes, useful I´m not sure. What should I do with it? What > should I use it for? I think that is an old myth that many > therapists seem to like and believe (my story). > > > *****It's not so much what you " should do " with anger. It's taking > the arising of anger -- and this would be valid for any upset -- as a > smoke signal. There is some communication going on within the psyche > (often unconscious to conscious). Often anger is the surface emotion > of fear. Using anger as a wakeup call, it may be possible to touch > and befriend the provoking emotion underneath it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2004 Report Share Posted July 30, 2004 Dear all, > > *****It's not so much what you " should do " with anger. It's taking > > the arising of anger -- and this would be valid for any upset -- as a > > smoke signal. There is some communication going on within the psyche > > (often unconscious to conscious). Often anger is the surface emotion > > of fear. Using anger as a wakeup call, it may be possible to touch > > and befriend the provoking emotion underneath it. Ok, anger comes from fear. I hear that. What you say about anger arising and the " smoke signal " , I wonder and ask myself: anger is arising - can I absolutely know that it is *anger*? Who would I be without this thought? > Thank you for holding my thought in that moment. Love, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2004 Report Share Posted July 30, 2004 Dear all, > > *****It's not so much what you " should do " with anger. It's > > taking the arising of anger -- and this would be valid for any > > upset -- as a smoke signal. There is some communication going on > > within the psyche (often unconscious to conscious). Often anger > > is the surface emotion of fear. Using anger as a wakeup call, it > > may be possible to touch and befriend the provoking emotion > > underneath it. Ok, anger comes from fear. I hear that. What you say about anger arising and the " smoke signal " , I wonder and ask myself: anger is arising - can I absolutely know that it is *anger*? *****No, you can't. There is nothing one can know " absolutely " with the possible exception of " I am " -- when one is, of course! :-))) The upset, the discord that appears may or may not be " anger. " The actual naming of the sensation is probably not significant. If one pays attention, however, one can tell if there is dis-ease happening and it is that sensation -- whatever its flavor or color -- that may be a calling out, from one part of the psyche to another. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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