-- Re: Weight

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Dear ,

Thank you for posting your message. You say that you don't know how

to start the four questions. Have you done them before? If you are

familiar with what the questions are (which are also downloadable

form www.thework.org) you could go through your wonderfully clear

post and underline all the stressful statements. Then maybe pick one

that is very stressful and put it to the 4 questions. It's a

wonderful start and who knows where it might take you!

One thing that really jumped out at me from what you wrote was your

statememt that, " Even 100lbs ago it ruled me because I was never

good enough. "

" I was never good enough " or " I am not good enough "

1. Is that true? Where's your proof? Says who?

2. Can you absolutely know you are not good enough?

3. How do you react when you believe this thought?

(And possible subquestions: How do you treat yourself when you

believe this? How do you treat others? What's the payoff for

believing this?)

4. Who would you be without this thought?

(How might you live your life differently? How might you treat

yourself and others without the thought you aren't good enough?)

And then the Turnarounds...

You could, if you are moved to, do a little inquiry and post it and

invite feedback from group members.

Love,

Heidi

PS Your work is mine and i'm sure many others'. Thank you for being

brave and putting it out there.

> Has anyone dealt with body image using LOVING WHAT IS?

>

> I have lived like a recluse for the past 8 years, We moved 8 years

> ago and in 8 years I have gained 100lbs.

>

> I didn't even go to my own sister's funeral because I was so

> terrified to see people I knew and who would think " Oh my God,

what

> happened to YOU "

>

> I haven't seen my own sister in law or her children for 10 years

for

> the same reason or any of my friends which I have lost contact

with.

>

> I know it sounds terribly petty on my part but for somew reason I

> cannot bring myself to see people. I even have nightmares about

> seeing these people on the street.

>

> I look at myself all the time, I compare myself to everyone I see.

> And I think I will go out of my mind and that I'll never have a

> normal body again. I am obsessed with my breasts, which are

totally

> sagged and even if I did lose weight wouldn't go back to normal.

Oh,

> how our thoughts can torment us. Someone else would say " What the

> hell " But for me it IS hell.

>

> I am sorry to lay this out, but this whole thing has crippled me

for

> most of my life. I say 8 years but that is only since the weight

gain.

>

> Even 100lbs ago it ruled me because I was never good enough.

Weight

> was a very big issue in my family growing up but it is a very big

> issue in society in general!!! Look at all the magazine covers.

> Hardly anyone looks like that and yet that image is pushed day and

> night in our faces.

>

> I don't even know how to start the 4 questions process on this.

>

> Thank you for any insights on how to start living and being free.

>

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