Re: How will I survive this?

August 21, 2003

Oh, ,

Everything has a reason, think of it as a blessing. THe triples might

be what erin needs. When I got pregnant with (a surprise) I

had the same feelings. But having him made me realize that I was

toooo involved with Kara. I t helped her with communication and

independence.

On Wednesday, August 20, 2003, at 11:54 PM, cathylynn2 wrote:

>

> I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share

> this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today.

> I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we

> decided that needs so much of our attention that having another

> baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are

> you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility

> drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in

> 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with

> all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO

> DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!!

>

> 's mom, California

>

> P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea

> is 24/7!

>

August 21, 2003

ROTF!

> penny

> i always joked (before i met pennie) that if i had a girl i'd name

her 'ima'.

> my last name is black.

>

> eric

>

August 21, 2003

Thank you , and Wendie, for your advice and comforting

words. I feel fortunate that I have this group to lean on, now and when

I am as big as a house!

:-)

August 21, 2003

Thank you , and Wendie, for your advice and comforting

words. I feel fortunate that I have this group to lean on, now and when

I am as big as a house!

:-)

August 21, 2003

(Or 3 houses!!!

August 21, 2003

, you never know having brothers or sisters could help

too. Our Drs. keep telling me they think Rain is one of the most

important pieces to helping Sky. Rain seems to be able to

communicate w/Sky when we can't.

Wendie

>

> > good idea penny. maybe other can help. be sure to have time for

> > yourself

> > and your mate. otherwise you could go crazy. how old is erin?

maybe

> > she will

> > be of some help.

> >

> > wishing you the best.

> > eric abbys dad

> >

August 21, 2003

, you never know having brothers or sisters could help

too. Our Drs. keep telling me they think Rain is one of the most

important pieces to helping Sky. Rain seems to be able to

communicate w/Sky when we can't.

Wendie

>

> > good idea penny. maybe other can help. be sure to have time for

> > yourself

> > and your mate. otherwise you could go crazy. how old is erin?

maybe

> > she will

> > be of some help.

> >

> > wishing you the best.

> > eric abbys dad

> >

August 21, 2003

CONGRATULATIONS-CONGRATULATIONS-CONGRATULATIONS!

I could NOT believe what I read, I was laughing so hard all 3 of the

girls stopped playing, looked at me and each other, and started

laughing themselves!

There is a boy Christian who is so very autistic at church (although

his mother says he definitely is not autistic, some enzyme issue at

birth, but scrapes his hands against the floor, spins things, toe

walks, didn't talk until 4, etc) and he is the 3rd child, there is

one younger. His mother told me having a younger child has been so

good for him. She says it's as if he saw his little sister doing

things and immediately tried doing them. Also, Allie had a little

rocky start, but is very loving and gentle toward her baby sister

now. I also read a study on larger families and said that autistics

in larger families often do better socially because of the constant

interaction. It also seems that Allie's language skills are

increasing as Dinah does her sounds. Any ah-goo brings Allie running

to her, mimicking her sounds.

It is hard, but like the previous advice, get your support areas

arranged now. It might also be a good time to find some trusted

people who could spend some time with while you are having the

babies. Those people can also help with after the babies

arrive.

Just breathe, you've got time to get it all straight. I wish you

lived nearby, I'd love to help!

Debi

>

> I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to

share

> this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had

today.

> I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as

we

> decided that needs so much of our attention that having

another

> baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that

matter. Are

> you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility

> drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is

1 in

> 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now

with

> all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I

GOING TO

> DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!!

>

> 's mom, California

>

> P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the

nausea

> is 24/7!

August 21, 2003

I agree with on that. If it weren't for Dinah I would so be

wallowing in Allie's business. Since Dinah I've seen that me not

being so preoccupied with her has allowed her to be a kid, not my

baby. She's 4 now and I can see her growing and maturing mentally.

She just loves being a big sister and seems to take it with joy. I

don't know if she would be so successful with independent things

were it not for her little sister getting me off her back.

Debi

> Oh, ,

> Everything has a reason, think of it as a blessing. THe triples

might

> be what erin needs. When I got pregnant with (a

surprise) I

> had the same feelings. But having him made me realize that I

was

> toooo involved with Kara. I t helped her with communication and

> independence.

August 21, 2003

....big as a house! LOL! That's not the WORST part...

(the 'roids are the worst part!)

ah, too much information,

PennY

> Thank you , and Wendie, for your advice and comforting

> words. I feel fortunate that I have this group to lean on, now and

when

> I am as big as a house!

>

> :-)

August 21, 2003

Thanks, Debi. I wish you lived nearby too, since you're the first one

to volunteer to help! Well, the second.....my mom is coming to stay

with us toward the end. She is a pediatric nurse so lots of experience

there!

:-)

> CONGRATULATIONS-CONGRATULATIONS-CONGRATULATIONS!

>

> I could NOT believe what I read, I was laughing so hard all 3 of the

> girls stopped playing, looked at me and each other, and started

> laughing themselves!

>

> There is a boy Christian who is so very autistic at church (although

> his mother says he definitely is not autistic, some enzyme issue at

> birth, but scrapes his hands against the floor, spins things, toe

> walks, didn't talk until 4, etc) and he is the 3rd child, there is

> one younger. His mother told me having a younger child has been so

> good for him. She says it's as if he saw his little sister doing

> things and immediately tried doing them. Also, Allie had a little

> rocky start, but is very loving and gentle toward her baby sister

> now. I also read a study on larger families and said that autistics

> in larger families often do better socially because of the constant

> interaction. It also seems that Allie's language skills are

> increasing as Dinah does her sounds. Any ah-goo brings Allie running

> to her, mimicking her sounds.

>

> It is hard, but like the previous advice, get your support areas

> arranged now. It might also be a good time to find some trusted

> people who could spend some time with while you are having the

> babies. Those people can also help with after the babies

> arrive.

>

> Just breathe, you've got time to get it all straight. I wish you

> lived nearby, I'd love to help!

>

> Debi

>

> >

> > I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to

> share

> > this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had

> today.

> > I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as

> we

> > decided that needs so much of our attention that having

> another

> > baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that

> matter. Are

> > you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility

> > drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is

> 1 in

> > 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now

> with

> > all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I

> GOING TO

> > DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!!

> >

> > 's mom, California

> >

> > P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the

> nausea

> > is 24/7!

>

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August 21, 2003

I'm trying to think of ways I tried to prepare Allie for her sister.

One thing is I took my pregnancy books and showed the pictures of

the baby drawn inside the mother's belly to show her. I really liked

the book with the actual photos of the babies inside the womb, I

think it's " A Child Is Born. " I wanted her to understand what was

going on inside my belly. A Baby Story is also a great show to help

her understand, Allie benefits greatly from videos. I also sat and

rocked her at night while telling her exactly what would happen, how

I would go to the hospital, have the baby come out of my belly, and

bring her home to be her little sister. I would always tell her how

much I love her and no matter how many babies I had she would always

be my special middle baby. I also tried to get her to look at other

babies at church and the like. Her therapists would give her baby

dolls and call them Dinah's name and do discrete trials with

feeding, changing, etc to help her know how to care for baby sister

Dinah.

Another thing I did was get the furniture set up way in advance. I

figured the more we could get the house set up like it would be when

Dinah arrived, the more she'd have time to adjust before Dinah got

here. She also stayed the night at my MIL more often, to help her

get used to staying there while I was in the hospital. I also began

letting Craig take her more places and do more things with her at

home, like give her a bath and change her clothes. She didn't like

it a lot at first, but I did not want her to associate these changes

with the baby.

The final thing I did, which is so hard for me, is let her play with

Dinah's stuff all she wanted. I hated her jumping in the crib with

nasty hands and feet but never said a word to her. I wanted her to

feel full access to the stuff. A big problem we had was her getting

in the infant swing and walker. She STILL gets in the walker, it's

the funniest thing to see a 4 yr old in a walker, walking around the

room!

Well, I hope this helps, I'm going to bed or I'll sit here and

jabber about having a baby all night!

Debi

August 21, 2003

Everything you said helps a lot, Debi... Sleep well! I'm sitting here

drinking my ginger tea, taking deep breaths and trying hard to think

about something other than vomiting!

:-)

> I'm trying to think of ways I tried to prepare Allie for her sister.

> One thing is I took my pregnancy books and showed the pictures of

> the baby drawn inside the mother's belly to show her. I really liked

> the book with the actual photos of the babies inside the womb, I

> think it's " A Child Is Born. " I wanted her to understand what was

> going on inside my belly. A Baby Story is also a great show to help

> her understand, Allie benefits greatly from videos. I also sat and

> rocked her at night while telling her exactly what would happen, how

> I would go to the hospital, have the baby come out of my belly, and

> bring her home to be her little sister. I would always tell her how

> much I love her and no matter how many babies I had she would always

> be my special middle baby. I also tried to get her to look at other

> babies at church and the like. Her therapists would give her baby

> dolls and call them Dinah's name and do discrete trials with

> feeding, changing, etc to help her know how to care for baby sister

> Dinah.

>

> Another thing I did was get the furniture set up way in advance. I

> figured the more we could get the house set up like it would be when

> Dinah arrived, the more she'd have time to adjust before Dinah got

> here. She also stayed the night at my MIL more often, to help her

> get used to staying there while I was in the hospital. I also began

> letting Craig take her more places and do more things with her at

> home, like give her a bath and change her clothes. She didn't like

> it a lot at first, but I did not want her to associate these changes

> with the baby.

>

> The final thing I did, which is so hard for me, is let her play with

> Dinah's stuff all she wanted. I hated her jumping in the crib with

> nasty hands and feet but never said a word to her. I wanted her to

> feel full access to the stuff. A big problem we had was her getting

> in the infant swing and walker. She STILL gets in the walker, it's

> the funniest thing to see a 4 yr old in a walker, walking around the

> room!

>

> Well, I hope this helps, I'm going to bed or I'll sit here and

> jabber about having a baby all night!

>

> Debi

>

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August 22, 2003

Hi ,

Just wanted to add my congratulations. I know that at this very moment the

future must seem very daunting, but I think you are probably a stronger person

than you even know.

Looking on the positive side - that will mean 3 additional people to love and

help later in life which has to be a very good thing.

Debbie

August 22, 2003

Congratulations !!!!! Good luck and stay strong!

Robin

August 22, 2003

Wow, Penny, theres those " roids " again. Shall I get you some Preperation H

cooling pads? LOL

Pennie

Abby's Mom

August 22, 2003

, you are having 3. One for Debbi, one for your mom and I will take care

of the third. There its settled-LOL, Now you can take a great nap

Pennie

Abby's Mom

August 22, 2003

Im no where near there...I have a friend in the vicinity of Ontario CA