Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 . What incredible news!! I can't even think of anything suitable to say, but I wanted you to know I had read the post..... OK, I guess I'll make a lame attempt at humor - Now they have to put you and on Oprah!! Sending positive energy Ian Dad of Keira How will I survive this? I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we decided that needs so much of our attention that having another baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! 's mom, California P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea is 24/7! Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Oh my , I dont even know what to say. I hope all goes well,hope the nausea goes away. Perhaps will do better then you think, she might like being the older sister. Just try and hang in there, this is one of the best places for support and we will be here always to listen to you. Feel free to email me if you ever need to ((((((((())))))))))))))))) Pennie Abby's Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , Wow! Congratulations! I have psudo-triplets....they are all age 3 now but we adopted them at different ages. To me it's easier to have them all the same age versus 3 different ages. This way they are all doing the same thing at the same time. One of these three, Lili, is our autistic one. I also have a 12 year old. My best advice for you is TAKE NAPS!! I hope you have a good support group who can help you out as well. Keep us informed of how you are doing. Lynn Arnett Mom to Jill (22) & Ben (13) both bio. Razvan 1/23/00 a. 7/00 Liliana Oprea 4/17/00 a. 10/01 ph Mihai 8/22/00 a. 12/02 waiting for Giorgiana Shelby 4/23/95 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Hi , WOW I am speechless on this one. I think congratulations is in order here. You must be overran with every emotion possible right now. I will keep you and your family in my prayers that all will be okay and you will have 3 beautiful healthy babies. Faye 's mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 WOW. thats alot of babies =( I was a triplet, but 1. My mom is certifiably nuts now, and 2. The next youngest kid in my family was 4 years older. ack Kassiane < Re: How will I survive this? I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we decided that needs so much of our attention that having another baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! 's mom, California P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea is 24/7! Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 good idea penny. maybe other can help. be sure to have time for yourself and your mate. otherwise you could go crazy. how old is erin? maybe she will be of some help. wishing you the best. eric abbys dad Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Wow I don't know what to say. How wonderful and exciting and yes, scarey too. You must be so overwhelmed with different emotions. Don't know what else to say. Congratulations! I know it is easy for me to say but I am sure things will all be fine. Tracey How will I survive this? I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we decided that needs so much of our attention that having another baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! 's mom, California P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea is 24/7! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Thank you Ian, , Faye, Tracey, Penny and Lynn for your good thoughts and support! I do plan to find out the sex, so when I find out if they are boys or girls, maybe we can all try to come up with some names??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , Are you close to LA? They are always looking for identical multiples, it might be a great way to get money for their education. Congratulations Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Have you tried using any of her aides for child care. I love using them, I feel totally comfortable leaving my daughter and 2 sons. We seem them almost every day, they are like family. I think because it is so routine for one of them to be here, there isn't any anxiety when they show up for baby-sitting instead of work. The other plus is that she is additional getting " therapy " on her play skills. The money from respite doesn't cover them completely, but it does take care of most of the bill. It is so nice to be able to leave and not have to think about what is going on at home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Congratulations !! There is a saying that " God never gives you anything more than you can handle " . I wish you a healthy, safe pregnancy. You will be in my prayers. I had a similar situation as yourself. When just turned 2 her formal diagnosis of autism was made. The pediatrician trained to diagnosis autism and other disabilities warned me to be genetically tested and hinted that I could have problems. Well, I didn't know I was already pregnant with Becky, and she turned out very very normal. Please try not to worry, think posiitve (it's hard when you worry), everyone here is in your corner!! How will I survive this? I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we decided that needs so much of our attention that having another baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! 's mom, California P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea is 24/7! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 When my firstborn was 16 months old, I learned I was carrying twins. Yes, I had 3 children in 23 months! Congratulations! Get online with the Triplet connections, find a local support group and start attending meetings and getting involved NOW so that they can support you as your pregnancy progresses, and also begin to put supports into place for when they come home. You can line up people from church to take shifts to help. Multiples is THE time to begin to tell people that you need help. Penny > > I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share > this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. > I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we > decided that needs so much of our attention that having another > baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are > you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility > drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in > 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with > all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO > DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! > > > 's mom, California > > > P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea > is 24/7! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 penny i always joked (before i met pennie) that if i had a girl i'd name her 'ima'. my last name is black. eric Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Pennie, Thanks for the big hug....I could sure use it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Names are fun. Just dont do rhyming or similar names, if you can avoid it. THey make life harder (my bros and I DONT have matching names thank goodness). And they increase the likelyhood of people thinking of the kids as a unit =( Kassiane < Re: Re: How will I survive this? Thank you Ian, , Faye, Tracey, Penny and Lynn for your good thoughts and support! I do plan to find out the sex, so when I find out if they are boys or girls, maybe we can all try to come up with some names??? Autism_in_Girls-subscribe ------------------------ Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Oh ....what a shock (hopefully delightful) to find out you are having triplets. I hope you have great family support or good community support to come help you once the babies are here. If you don't, it might be helpful to contact your local newspaper and see if they'd like to do a feature article on you and your bloomimg family and just matter of factly suggest to the reporter that you would be greatful for any community support you could get once the babies are born. You'd be surprised how helpful people are once they read a story like this. Do me a favor....BREATH! (: How will I survive this? > > I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share > this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. > I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we > decided that needs so much of our attention that having another > baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are > you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility > drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in > 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with > all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO > DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! > > > 's mom, California > > > P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea > is 24/7! > > > > Autism_in_Girls-subscribe > ------------------------ > Autism_in_Girls-unsubscribe > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Yes, we get respite through our county regional center. Unfortunately, it is very traumatic for when I leave her with someone else because I'm pretty much the only one who can figure out her needs. She has only a couple of words and will not use signs or PECS. We communicate through telepathy. My family lives in another state and my friends have all been frightened off. They prefer to call me now rather than come over! On Thursday, August 21, 2003, at 12:07 PM, abbysdad42@... wrote: > bummer. do you have freinds or family that can/will help?  in mich > there is > a program that gives you $1000 (if you quilfy) a year for babysitters > for > autisic kids any thing like that where you're from? > > eric > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , where do you live? A couple possibilities for you: 1. Lots of times spectrumish adults are really good with even nonverbal very young autistic children. The telepathy you speak of comes more naturally. You might want to see if there are any older teens/adults on the spectrum who likes so you can have some help with her. 2. I was a mother's helper for 2 weeks this summer. Translation: One mom too many kids needed reinforcements *aka me*. If there is someone who can help you with the non stuff that needs done, esp. once the babies are born, that'd help immensely (and if liked them, yay for you!) 3. Is in any kind of school program? Not a home program, but she goes to school? If one is available, it might be a good idea to get her used to it NOW because you may find it necessary when there are 3 more kids. *hugs and futile-because-of-distance offers of help* Kassiane < Re: Re: How will I survive this? Yes, we get respite through our county regional center. Unfortunately, it is very traumatic for when I leave her with someone else because I'm pretty much the only one who can figure out her needs. She has only a couple of words and will not use signs or PECS. We communicate through telepathy. My family lives in another state and my friends have all been frightened off. They prefer to call me now rather than come over! On Thursday, August 21, 2003, at 12:07 PM, abbysdad42@... wrote: > bummer. do you have freinds or family that can/will help? in mich > there is > a program that gives you $1000 (if you quilfy) a year for babysitters > for > autisic kids any thing like that where you're from? > > eric > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Kassiane, We live in Southern California. We are definitely looking for someone to help with after the babies are born, but it will be a process, so we're starting early. will be starting preschool next week and although I know it will be good for her, I am a complete wreck over it. She freaks out if anyone besides me touches her and since she is still in diapers, that looks inevitable. I just can't stand the thought of people having to restrain her to do anything to her. It's bound to be traumatizing for her. On the other hand, it is a very good program with a great teacher so hopefully it will work out. Thanks for the help, On Thursday, August 21, 2003, at 12:25 PM, Kassiane Yelbis wrote: > , where do you live? > A couple possibilities for you: > 1. Lots of times spectrumish adults are really good with even nonverbal > very young autistic children. The telepathy you speak of comes more > naturally. You might want to see if there are any older teens/adults on > the spectrum who likes so you can have some help with her. > 2. I was a mother's helper for 2 weeks this summer. Translation: One > mom > too many kids needed reinforcements *aka me*. If there is someone who > can help you with the non stuff that needs done, esp. once the > babies are born, that'd help immensely (and if liked them, yay for > you!) > 3. Is in any kind of school program? Not a home program, but she > goes to school? If one is available, it might be a good idea to get her > used to it NOW because you may find it necessary when there are 3 more > kids. > *hugs and futile-because-of-distance offers of help* > Kassiane > > < Re: Re: How will I survive this? > > Yes, we get respite through our county regional center. Unfortunately, > it is very traumatic for when I leave her with someone else > because I'm pretty much the only one who can figure out her needs. She > has only a couple of words and will not use signs or PECS. We > communicate through telepathy. My family lives in another state and my > friends have all been frightened off. They prefer to call me now > rather than come over! > > > > On Thursday, August 21, 2003, at 12:07 PM, abbysdad42@... wrote: > > > bummer. do you have freinds or family that can/will help?  in mich > > there is > > a program that gives you $1000 (if you quilfy) a year for babysitters > > for > > autisic kids any thing like that where you're from? > > > > eric > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , Too funny! You'd have been " fun " to have around when I was pg w/ my twins. I got so tired of people becoming instant comedians by trying to name my children. Okay, it's humorous NOW, but back then, it got old. (Like when someone calls me " Nickel " or " Quarter " , just ask Pennie...) Anyway, our last name is Ray, and so my brother and SIL said we should name them Hip Hip and Hoo. We got a lot of humorous suggestions based upon our last name. DH's SIL said we should name them and DeNephew. PennY > nah. just give them all the same name. that way when its time for bed, > school, dinner, or whatever. you only have to call one name to get the 3 of them > to do > something. okok i know they are hundreds of comidians out of work.... > > eric > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , Yes, the Hollywood angle has crossed my mind. If they turn out to be half as adorable as it could actually work! :-) On Thursday, August 21, 2003, at 12:30 PM, Nat5787@... wrote: > , > > Are you close to LA? They are always looking for identical multiples, > it > might be a great way to get money for their education. Congratulations > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Wow,my husband is a real catch isnt he..........LOL Pennie Abby's Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 ONe day at a time sweet Jesus LOL It will be a blessing someday but I dont know if the old man will share the work load with you Charlene -- How will I survive this? I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we decided that needs so much of our attention that having another baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! 's mom, California P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea is 24/7! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 , Penny gave some great advise. I only have my twin girls so I don't know how I would handle more in the mix. Sky has ASD & Rain is delayed. I know your emotions must be all over the place right now. It may be easy for me to suggest, but try to enjoy this awesome rare experience. Take care of yourself & don't over do it. Like Penny said join your local mom of multiples group, they will be your greatest source of info & support. Plus you'll probably be able to find gently used baby items that someone is ready to part with. I would also suggest finding a group on yahoo. When I first found out I was having twins I found a wonderful group of women who were all expecting multiples within a few months of my due date. We still talk to one another everyday. This group was great because I could get on the computer when it was convient for me & gab away. That was really important when the girls came home. I would go ahead & tell your friends & family if you haven't already. I hope their is someone feels comfortable staying with in case you have a long hospital stay. I know you probably don't want to think about that, but with multiples there is a higher chance of preterm labor, bedrest & a long hospital stay. If she doesn't feel that comfortable with someone now you might want to work on that w/someone you trust. I hope you have a healthy & happy pregnancy with the outcome being 3 beautiful healthy babies. You can do this, just make sure you have support systems in place. The first month after the girls came home from the hospital my mom helped me out everyday. After that I was in a routine where I managed on my own. After a few months though I hired a mothers helper to help a few hours a day. She eventually turned into our part-time Nanny & now lives with us. Sorry to go on & on, but I'm really excited for you. Sometimes it's hard, but if I only had one child I would probably say the same thing. I love having twins & can't imagine it any other way. Congratulations & hang in there. You're a great mom to & you'll continue to be a great mom when those 3 babies arrive to & the little ones. Wendie > Thank you Ian, , Faye, Tracey, Penny and Lynn for your good > thoughts and support! > > I do plan to find out the sex, so when I find out if they are boys or > girls, maybe we can all try to come up with some names??? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 21, 2003 Report Share Posted August 21, 2003 Oh, , Everything has a reason, think of it as a blessing. THe triples might be what erin needs. When I got pregnant with (a surprise) I had the same feelings. But having him made me realize that I was toooo involved with Kara. I t helped her with communication and independence. On Wednesday, August 20, 2003, at 11:54 PM, cathylynn2 wrote: > > I found out recently that I am pregnant, but wanted to wait to share > this with our group until my first ultrasound, which I just had today. > I am really still in a state of shock over just being pregnant, as we > decided that needs so much of our attention that having another > baby wouldn't be fair to , or to the new baby for that matter. Are > you sitting down? I'VE GOT TRIPLETS! No, I did not take fertility > drugs....these are IDENTICAL triplets. The probability of that is 1 in > 500,000! Somebody please shoot me now!! I can barely manage now with > all the therapy and time I need to spend with . WHAT AM I GOING TO > DO??????? HELP!!!!!!!!! > > > 's mom, California > > > P.S. Sorry for the shouting, but my hormones are raging and the nausea > is 24/7! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.