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Or another way of putting it could be " Loving What Is. "

Or, if I don't get what I want (i.e: planning and expectation) I have

been spared.

Or, " If you want pain, make a plan. "

*****Steve, is it your experience that whenever you make plans you

get pain? [Cause that is what the quote above says.] That has not

been my experience. In many cases, making plans is essential for me

and in not doing so a mess will result (I'm currently thinking about

planning in regard to my professional obligations; to not plan would

be irresponsible and detrimental to those who depend on me).

The statement " If you want pain, make a plan " strikes me as

simplistic at best, perhaps even puerile. Sure, neurotic planning

and persistenly worrying about outcomes is " pain, " but those are not

inherent qualities of planning. As I see it, the basic act of

planning (making a plan) is a survival skill, one that God has

visited upon us.

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Dear Andy,

I do not agree with your viewpoint; however, you are welcome to it.

Love, steve D.

>

>

> Or another way of putting it could be " Loving What Is. "

> Or, if I don't get what I want (i.e: planning and expectation) I

have

> been spared.

> Or, " If you want pain, make a plan. "

>

>

> *****Steve, is it your experience that whenever you make plans you

> get pain? [Cause that is what the quote above says.] That has not

> been my experience. In many cases, making plans is essential for

me

> and in not doing so a mess will result (I'm currently thinking

about

> planning in regard to my professional obligations; to not plan

would

> be irresponsible and detrimental to those who depend on me).

>

> The statement " If you want pain, make a plan " strikes me as

> simplistic at best, perhaps even puerile. Sure, neurotic planning

> and persistenly worrying about outcomes is " pain, " but those are

not

> inherent qualities of planning. As I see it, the basic act of

> planning (making a plan) is a survival skill, one that God has

> visited upon us.

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> Or another way of putting it could be " Loving What Is. "

> Or, if I don't get what I want (i.e: planning and expectation) I

have

> been spared.

> Or, " If you want pain, make a plan. "

>

>

> *****Steve, is it your experience that whenever you make plans you

> get pain? [Cause that is what the quote above says.]

That might be what you heard...

> That has not been my experience. In many cases, making plans is

essential for me and in not doing so a mess will result.

Is it true that a mess will result?

> (I'm currently thinking about

> planning in regard to my professional obligations; to not plan

would

> be irresponsible and detrimental to those who depend on me).

Is it true that you can plan and things will go according to your

plan? Is it true it's irresponsible to not plan? Is it true that

not planning can be detrimental to those who depend on you? The

underlying belief here for me, is that I have a choice, will and

control. Is it true that we have choice, will and control?

> The statement " If you want pain, make a plan " strikes me as

> simplistic at best, perhaps even puerile. Sure, neurotic planning

> and persistenly worrying about outcomes is " pain, " but those are

not

> inherent qualities of planning. As I see it, the basic act of

> planning (making a plan) is a survival skill

Is it true that planning is a survival skill? I hear that that is

your truth.

> one that God has visited upon us.

Can you turn that around...

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Andy,

You said:

" As I see it, the basic act of planning (making a plan) is a survival

skill, one that God has visited upon us. "

I would gree with you on the point of " planning being a survival

skill " . However, I would ask you, " Survival of what? "

Also, I certainly would not attempt to blame God for this skill. For

me, your saying " one that God has visited upon us. " is akin to

saying " the devil made me do it! " .

You called my beliefs childish. I am grateful to you for that one.

For me, that is a compliment. :-)

It appears that we view the world differently and that is as it

should be, until we don't.

Love, Steve D.

> >

> >

> > Or another way of putting it could be " Loving What Is. "

> > Or, if I don't get what I want (i.e: planning and expectation) I

> have

> > been spared.

> > Or, " If you want pain, make a plan. "

> >

> >

> > *****Steve, is it your experience that whenever you make plans

you

> > get pain? [Cause that is what the quote above says.] That has

not

> > been my experience. In many cases, making plans is essential for

> me

> > and in not doing so a mess will result (I'm currently thinking

> about

> > planning in regard to my professional obligations; to not plan

> would

> > be irresponsible and detrimental to those who depend on me).

> >

> > The statement " If you want pain, make a plan " strikes me as

> > simplistic at best, perhaps even puerile. Sure, neurotic

planning

> > and persistenly worrying about outcomes is " pain, " but those are

> not

> > inherent qualities of planning. As I see it, the basic act of

> > planning (making a plan) is a survival skill, one that God has

> > visited upon us.

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Andy,

You said:

" As I see it, the basic act of planning (making a plan) is a survival

skill, one that God has visited upon us. "

I would gree with you on the point of " planning being a survival

skill " . However, I would ask you, " Survival of what? "

*****Of the individual bodymind mechanism. And yes, I appreciate

that *all* this is illusory, but I appear to be compelled to act AS

IF it is " real. " It is within that context that I am speaking. You

and I agree, I believe, on the Bigger Picture (what in zen is

referred to as The Absolute).

Also, I certainly would not attempt to blame God for this skill. For

me, your saying " one that God has visited upon us. " is akin to

saying " the devil made me do it! " .

*****I apologize if I communicated a sense of blame. That was not

my intention. Maybe that is what you heard in my used of " visited

upon us. " I simply meant that it comes with the hard-wiring of

being human. No blame directed or attached. It is, for me, how it

is.

You called my beliefs childish. I am grateful to you for that one.

For me, that is a compliment. :-)

*****Yes, beginner's mind. But Steve, sweetie, you never answered

my question directly. Would you now? Is it your experience that if

you make plans then there is pain? Marsha pointed out that that was

what I heard, so I'm going to the source of the statement, vous, and

asking for some amplification. P.S. I was under the impression

that the quote you presented was from Byron . Was it? If it

was yours, I wonder if my response would have been different? Won't

ever know, will I. :-)))

It appears that we view the world differently and that is as it

should be, until we don't.

*****And we may always view it differently. As long as we can

tolerate each other's vision without resorting to hostility within

or without, I see no issue with. Love arises unimpeded, both for

you and for your beliefs, for who and what you are.

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