Re: Mind /Body - Yuk and Yahoo!

[Guest guest]

---Dear Dancin,

Your post about your life situation brought back memories of one of

my own past low energy phases, and reinforced for me that I don't

ever want to stop creating a healthier life for myself.

I had been recently divorced, raising four kids on half

the " marriage " income. One winter day,trying to get into work during

a snow storm, I blew my transmission out and I needed to get my car

into the the mechanic the very next day.

My ex husband helped me and while we were driving to the garage he

told me he would be moving down the block with his girlfriend--the

one he was seeing while still married to me. That meant I would be

seeing the cars of all our mutual friends parked in front of their

house for parties (my ex was a party guy). YUK!!!!

Then when I went to pick up my car the following day, the mechanic

refused to take partial payment and I had to pay for the repairs with

the rent money. He said the reason my transmission went out was that

my tires were bare. (wait, it gets funnier ha!ha!)

On the way home I thought, I might as well use all my money up and

get new tires. I pulled into my neighborhood gas station, and smacked

into a parked Honda. I left my name and number on the windshield, got

my tires and went home and curled up in the fetal position on the

sofa.

A police officer called me later that day and advised me to contact

my insurance Co. I told him my story (don't know why) and that I felt

like jumping out of a window. He laughed and said, " Just make sure

it's a first story window. " It was just more validation that no one

cared about me, so I went back to my sofa.

Then my best friend called and said she had free tickets to see a mime

at the Performing Arts Center. She had to beg me to go over and over

again--finally I consented.

When we were seated and the show began, I turned to her and

said, " Now I know why these tickets were free, who the hell can see a

mime from a mile away. " We were seated in the furthest, highest seats

in the house.

We started laughing so hard, we had to leave. There was fresh snow

blanketing the city, it was beautiful. My friend treated me to dinner

at a fancy French restaurant. We talked and laughed over some wine.

To make a long story longer, it turned out the car I hit was

illegally parked, the hospital I worked at gave me extra hours to pay

off my debts and I made friends with the woman that saved me from a

life in " hell " (my ex's girlfriend).

But the biggest lesson I learned was that I had a choice, I could

have let myself sink into a LONG, deep depression over what happened

to me, creating all sorts of stories to support my right to BLAME

others for my unhappiness-- or I could get on with the task of

creating a better life for myself.

I honestly believe that my friend helped to raise my energy from

negative to positive which allowed me to make healthier choices and

to attract things that supported me into my life.

Energy is a very powerful thing--I learn that again and again on my

journey.

Good luck to you, openeyes

When I got home I curled up in the fetal position on my sofa and

planned to spend the next several hours there.

In Loving-what-is , " dancin2you " <ut_artpro@h...>

wrote:

> Hi Eddie...thanks very much for your reply

>

> You wrote:

> > Your story about your " remarried life " phase sent a wave of

> depression

> > through my body. Yuk! What a life of struggle! Then I realized I

> had to

> > find something good in it in order to raise my own mood.

>

> It sounds like you had quite a reaction to my post. Any " stories "

> there?

>

> You have to raise your own mood...interesting. Is that true?

>

> I have had x years in traditional therapy trying to sort things

out.

> Interestingly, now with the Work, things are moving much more

> rapidly. I am feeling prompted to do this with energy...with

> passion. It's a kind of, " sieze the day " thing. Already I have had

> both physical health and my relationship with my husband improve

> whereas there was a time, not too long ago that I felt hopeless

> about both. This change is very good news.

>

> And I am on a big learning curve, true. It's fantastic.

>

> I'm sorry you had a 'yuk' reaction to my story...but not

> really...smile...I know you will take care of you and you can do

the

> work on 'yuk', if it means anything significant for you.

>

> I'm happy to pass through it all...all the yukky places too,

> for...love I am.

>

> I did have, what many people might call a traumatic childhood. And

> I did repeat much of that trauma in my adult life via choices and

> irrational thoughts. And, until recently I did not know of any

> better way to work through it. I lived a very victim

> existence....no boundaries, or very little. My healing discoveries

> have been a miracle to me...

>

> If I obsess I want to obsess on this (inquiry)...until I don't. For

> now it's really shifting things.

>

>

> And I noticed you also said

>

> I remembered that

> > there are no mistakes in life--we attract to us what we need to

> grow into

> > our Higher Selves.

>

> Agreed!

>

> You said:

>

> Maybe you might want to forget about all the Yuk in your

> > life and start focusing on what you want in order to live the

life

> your body

> > wants to live also.

>

> Eddie dear, I truely will forget about the Yuk...when I

> do...totally. Until then my focus is on what is...and if yuk is

> what is...I'm showing up for it....what I find is, that if yuk is

> there I look at it and look at it and look at it....the rest of the

> time I'm very pro-active with positive energy (some Carol Tuttle,

> EFT and study on other avenues of health and well-being and

> ESPECIALLY The Work). I enjoy variety. I find pieces of the

> healing puzzle in many places...I'm multi-plexing. (I think that's

> the term)

>

> you wrote:

> >

> > I find 's process excellent for uncovering hidden irrational

> beliefs,

> > but I think people can get stuck in the negative inquiry for too

> long a

> > period of time. I'd rather move forward. You don't have to agree-

-

> my lovely

> > roomate doesn't .

>

> Thanks...you could be right....what is " stuck " anyway??

>

> You (you or I) shouldn't be stuck in negative inquiry for to long...

> Is it true??

> By the way...how long is " too " long my friend?? What is that time

> frame?

>

> But in fairness, do I know what you mean?...that Dwelling on, or in

> my own self-made hell is a choice and unnecessary. Yes?

>

> Perhaps, however, " stuckness " is a devine teaching tool that is a

> gift...

>

> I'm all for joy..believe you me....but I trust my path, and though

I

> was not feeling very grateful in the throws of my illness last

year,

> I relish the contrast of that time (and it's in the past, woohoo)

to

> my current recovery, and man that feels great.

>

> And by the way...it is so very interesting how each of us perceive

> each others stories/comments/ideas through our own unique (and

> changing) filters. When I wrote my post about the illness and

> marriage, etc. I was writing it as a review, a record to share and

> to compare/contrast with the improvement that's taken place with

the

> Work & EFT...and there was not all that great of an emotional

charge

> on it. Perhaps you thought I was in the hell place. What was your

> filter saying?

>

> Right now I'm on a very intense exploratory phase, and loving it.

>

> with thanks and much appreciation,

> dancin'

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Hi Eddie...thanks for your reply

>

> You wrote:

> > Your story about your " remarried life " phase sent a wave of

> depression

> > through my body. Yuk! What a life of struggle! Then I realized I

> had to

> > find something good in it in order to raise my own mood.

>

> It sounds like you had quite a reaction to my post. Any " stories "

> there?

>

> You have to raise your own mood...interesting. Is that true?

>

> I have had x years in traditional therapy trying to sort things

> out...interestingly with the Work, things are moving quite

rapidly.

> I am feeling prompted to do this with energy...with passion.

> Already I have had both physical health and my relationship with my

> husband improve whereas there was a time, not too long ago that I

> felt hopeless about both. This is very good news.

>

> And I am in a big learning curve. It's fantastic.

>

> I'm sorry you had a 'yuk' reaction to my story...but not

> really...smile...I know you will take care of you and you can do

the

> work on it if 'yuk' means anything for you.

>

> I'm happy to pass through it all...all the yukky places for...love

I

> am.

>

> I did have, what many people might call a traumatic childhood. And

> I did repeat much of that trauma in my adult life. And, until

> recently I did not know of any better way to work through it. I

> lived a very victim existence....no boundaries, or very little. My

> healing discoveries have been a miracle to me...

>

> If I obsess I want to obsess on this until I don't. For now it's

> really shifting things.

>

>

> And I noticed you also said

>

> I remembered that

> > there are no mistakes in life--we attract to us what we need to

> grow into

> > our Higher Selves. Maybe you might want to forget about all the

> Yuk in your

> > life and start focusing on what you want in order to live the

life

> your body

> > wants to live also.

>

> I truely will forget about the Yuk...when I do...totally. Until

> then focus is on what is...and if yuk is what is...I'm showing up

> for it....what I find is that if yuk is there I look at it....the

> rest of the time I'm very pro-active with positive energy (Carol

> Tuttle, EFT and study on other avenues of health and well-being.

>

> you wrote:

> >

> > I find 's process excellent for uncovering hidden irrational

> beliefs,

> > but I think people can get stuck in the negative inquiry for too

> long a

> > period of time. I'd rather move forward. You don't have to agree-

-

> my lovely

> > roomate doesn't .

>

> Thanks...you could be right....what is " stuck " anyway???

>

> You (you or I) shouldn't be stuck in negative inquiry for to long...

> Is it true??

> By the way...how long is " too " long my friend?? What is that time

> frame?

>

> But in fairness I think I know what you mean. Dwelling on, or in

my

> own self-made hell. Yes?

>

> Perhaps, however, " stuckness " is a devine teaching tool that is a

> gift...

>

> I'm all for joy...but I trust my path, and though I was not feeling

> very grateful in the throws of my illness, I relish the contrast of

> that time (in the past, woohoo) to my current recovery and man it

> feels great.

>

> And by the way...it is so very interesting how each of us perceive

> each others stories/comments/ideas through our own unique (and

> changing) filters. When I wrote my post about the illness and

> marriage, etc. I was writing it as a review, a record to

> compare/contrast with the improvement that's taken place with the

> Work...and there was not all that great of an emotional charge on

> it. Perhaps you thought I was in the hell place. What was your

> filter saying?

>

> Right now I'm on a very intense exploratory phase, and loving it.

>

> with thanks and appreciation,

> dancin'

> >

> >

> > >From: " dancin2you " <ut_artpro@h...>

> > >Reply-To: Loving-what-is

> > >To: Loving-what-is

> > >Subject: The Body-Mind Connection

> > >Date: Sun, 22 Feb 2004 18:29:44 -0000

> > >

> > >Hi friends,

> > >

> > >I would like to talk to anyone putting Inquiry together with

other

> > >mental or physical processes. I am especially interested in

> anyone

> > >who works with EFT (emotional freedom technique by Craig).

I

> > >do the work for breakfast and EFT when I'm in crisis. (I didn't

> see

> > >anything about EFT through a search of the posts and I was

> surprised)

> > >

> > >I was thinking about my life about 2 years ago when I was

> physically

> > >very ill and emotionally on the edge of what looked like nervous

> > >exhaustion. I honestly didn't think if I would make it. One year

> > >ago insomnia was on the top of the list and next to that I

> suffered

> > >with unexpected mysterious electric type jolts (radical) in my

hip

> > >from time to time (dropped me to the floor) that $4000 of medical

> > >doctors and tests couldn't figure out. (I now suspect it was a

> > >hiatal hernia pressing the vagus nerve...but still don't really

> > >know, and it hasn't been a problem since last fall) Most nights I

> > >would lie awake or I'd wake up over and over and I would lay in

> bed

> > >twitching, unable to sleep and wondered if I was close to

seizures

> > >or " something " . At one point I was down to 3 hours sleep a

night.

> > >Meds were addictive and created their own nightmare.

> > >

> > >Besides that, there were mysterious arthritic attacks of pain in

> my

> > >neck and shoulders that would spread all over my body

> (debilitating),

> > >a feeling of chronic dehydration...and too many other physical

> > >issues to list here. My whole body seemed to be in crisis and I

> > >felt like I was falling apart.

> > >

> > >I suspected many possible problems, but it was all guessing. The

> > >doctors were sympathetic but... When all was said and done I was

> > >weary, panicked, and wracked with tension. I have a closet full

of

> > >supplements and a bookcase full of health and alternative books I

> > >read, looking for relief.

> > >

> > >By the way....most of this began after I married (again) and

> > >yes...it's been terrifically stressful. (3 1/2 years now) I took

> > >care of my dying mother-in-law, managed construction on a house,

> > >taught school, chased what appeared to me to be a very

emotionally

> > >unavailable and non-intimate husband and tried to deal with 10

> grown

> > >kids in the new marriage. (5 his, 5 mine). Yep I was a bit

> stressed.

> > >

> > >I quit dancing. I had moved from where I lived for many years,

> > >which included close proximity to my kids and my close friends,

my

> > >choice of course. I stopped painting and .... got pretty danged

> > >depressed.

> > >

> > >My husband, bless his heart, was and is my teacher...I had some

> very

> > >significant " lessons " it appears. I sometimes thought about

> leaving

> > >but was too physically ill...and besides I figured I had created

> > >this situation and if I did not find the mind/body connection

> HERE I

> > >would just carry it into some future relationship. I would

attract

> > >the same or bigger 'teacher'.

> > >

> > >I have known full well for a long time that physical ailments

> OFTEN

> > >represent mental/emotional pain, but insight therapy just didn't

> > >touch this so I was open and driven to find help.

> > >

> > >Then I ran on to EFT. I had a few really amazing things happen.

I

> > >confess I was also working hard to change diet and inrease water

> > >consumption...(the sweets are still a problem but that's what I'm

> > >going to explore in Inquiry too).

> > >

> > >Then I attended one day of 's intensive here and went away

> > >thoroughly confused but convinced something was up with this

> Inquiry

> > >stuff. I listened to most of her CD's and tapes every day...it

> very

> > >slowly started to sink in...it's still doing that. I do the work

> > >for breakfast and more. I have such an amazing array of stories

> > >about suffering, self-worth, loss, abandonment, and consequence

> > >involved so much depression, stress and resulting

> anger....leading,

> > >it seems, to the many physical problems.

> > >

> > >At this point my health is returning and I am so much

> > >happier....most of the time. I once enjoyed dancing, running,

> jet-

> > >skiing, hiking, and step-aerobics. I was not a serious athlete

> but

> > >I did a few 6-K races. That all collapsed....but hey, I slept 6

> > >hours last night (a record of recent years). I might start

walking

> > >again when the snow melts. Things are definitely looking up,

> > >including in our marriage.

> > >

> > >Well..at this point...either I'm in remission of " something " or

> > >the 'mind' part of my mind-body connection really was the issue

> and

> > >has made some dramatic healing progress. I'm not out of the woods

> > >but truely funtioning so much better.

> > >

> > >The Work has been revelatory. I've just begun and now, even

> though

> > >I'm feeling better, I'm willing to be patient (in my marriage)

and

> > >see what can happen.

> > >

> > >nomistake friends...

> > >dancin'

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

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[Guest guest]

Hi Dancin!

I loved what you said about trusting your path--that's great!

What I meant about hanging onto and dwelling in inquiry too long is that it

keeps us in a victim mindset--all that reliving " what others did to us. " I

personally have to find a way to go beyond that. I'm not happy when I'm

" keeping my thoughts focused on " (=stuck) things I believe harmed me in any

way. I'd rather take responsibility for creating it myself and keep moving

forward. To me, moving forward is what life's all about--it's my most

treasured value.

You wanted a story--here's one: I spent years trying to come to terms with

being the " black sheep " of my family. I especially wanted to make peace with

my father before he died. So I went to therapy, attended the great

" intensive workshops/seminars " of the 80 " s, read a garage full of books, and

nothing took the sting out of my monthly visits with my father. I still saw

him as rigid, critical and intrusive in my life.

Then I learned from a friend that it wasn't my father who was causing me so

much pain, it was myself--my thoughts and beliefs about my father. And I

realized I was wasting my life, my energy and my health stuck in this

mindset of criticism and blame around my childhood.

I decided I wanted to live a happier life, so I let go of expecting anything

from my father and graciously accepting whatever he chose to give me. To my

surprise, he gave me more than I would have ever asked for once I gave him

the space to be. I was able to comfort him on his deathbed--it was my

pleasure to be there with him.

Eddie

>

>Reply-To: Loving-what-is

>To: Loving-what-is

>Subject: Mind /Body - Yuk and Yahoo!

>Date: Mon, 23 Feb 2004 13:21:06 -0000

>

>Hi Eddie...thanks very much for your reply

>

>You wrote:

> > Your story about your " remarried life " phase sent a wave of

>depression

> > through my body. Yuk! What a life of struggle! Then I realized I

>had to

> > find something good in it in order to raise my own mood.

>

>It sounds like you had quite a reaction to my post. Any " stories "

>there?

>

>You have to raise your own mood...interesting. Is that true?

>

>I have had x years in traditional therapy trying to sort things out.

>Interestingly, now with the Work, things are moving much more

>rapidly. I am feeling prompted to do this with energy...with

>passion. It's a kind of, " sieze the day " thing. Already I have had

>both physical health and my relationship with my husband improve

>whereas there was a time, not too long ago that I felt hopeless

>about both. This change is very good news.

>

>And I am on a big learning curve, true. It's fantastic.

>

>I'm sorry you had a 'yuk' reaction to my story...but not

>really...smile...I know you will take care of you and you can do the

>work on 'yuk', if it means anything significant for you.

>

>I'm happy to pass through it all...all the yukky places too,

>for...love I am.

>

>I did have, what many people might call a traumatic childhood. And

>I did repeat much of that trauma in my adult life via choices and

>irrational thoughts. And, until recently I did not know of any

>better way to work through it. I lived a very victim

>existence....no boundaries, or very little. My healing discoveries

>have been a miracle to me...

>

>If I obsess I want to obsess on this (inquiry)...until I don't. For

>now it's really shifting things.

>

>

>And I noticed you also said

>

>I remembered that

> > there are no mistakes in life--we attract to us what we need to

>grow into

> > our Higher Selves.

>

>Agreed!

>

>You said:

>

> Maybe you might want to forget about all the Yuk in your

> > life and start focusing on what you want in order to live the life

>your body

> > wants to live also.

>

>Eddie dear, I truely will forget about the Yuk...when I

>do...totally. Until then my focus is on what is...and if yuk is

>what is...I'm showing up for it....what I find is, that if yuk is

>there I look at it and look at it and look at it....the rest of the

>time I'm very pro-active with positive energy (some Carol Tuttle,

>EFT and study on other avenues of health and well-being and

>ESPECIALLY The Work). I enjoy variety. I find pieces of the

>healing puzzle in many places...I'm multi-plexing. (I think that's

>the term)

>

>you wrote:

> >

> > I find 's process excellent for uncovering hidden irrational

>beliefs,

> > but I think people can get stuck in the negative inquiry for too

>long a

> > period of time. I'd rather move forward. You don't have to agree--

>my lovely

> > roomate doesn't .

>

>Thanks...you could be right....what is " stuck " anyway??

>

>You (you or I) shouldn't be stuck in negative inquiry for to long...

>Is it true??

>By the way...how long is " too " long my friend?? What is that time

>frame?

>

>But in fairness, do I know what you mean?...that Dwelling on, or in

>my own self-made hell is a choice and unnecessary. Yes?

>

>Perhaps, however, " stuckness " is a devine teaching tool that is a

>gift...

>

>I'm all for joy..believe you me....but I trust my path, and though I

>was not feeling very grateful in the throws of my illness last year,

>I relish the contrast of that time (and it's in the past, woohoo) to

>my current recovery, and man that feels great.

>

>And by the way...it is so very interesting how each of us perceive

>each others stories/comments/ideas through our own unique (and

>changing) filters. When I wrote my post about the illness and

>marriage, etc. I was writing it as a review, a record to share and

>to compare/contrast with the improvement that's taken place with the

>Work & EFT...and there was not all that great of an emotional charge

>on it. Perhaps you thought I was in the hell place. What was your

>filter saying?

>

>Right now I'm on a very intense exploratory phase, and loving it.

>

>with thanks and much appreciation,

>dancin'

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>Hi Eddie...thanks for your reply

>

>You wrote:

> > Your story about your " remarried life " phase sent a wave of

>depression

> > through my body. Yuk! What a life of struggle! Then I realized I

>had to

> > find something good in it in order to raise my own mood.

>

>It sounds like you had quite a reaction to my post. Any " stories "

>there?

>

>You have to raise your own mood...interesting. Is that true?

>

>I have had x years in traditional therapy trying to sort things

>out...interestingly with the Work, things are moving quite rapidly.

>I am feeling prompted to do this with energy...with passion.

>Already I have had both physical health and my relationship with my

>husband improve whereas there was a time, not too long ago that I

>felt hopeless about both. This is very good news.

>

>And I am in a big learning curve. It's fantastic.

>

>I'm sorry you had a 'yuk' reaction to my story...but not

>really...smile...I know you will take care of you and you can do the

>work on it if 'yuk' means anything for you.

>

>I'm happy to pass through it all...all the yukky places for...love I

>am.

>

>I did have, what many people might call a traumatic childhood. And

>I did repeat much of that trauma in my adult life. And, until

>recently I did not know of any better way to work through it. I

>lived a very victim existence....no boundaries, or very little. My

>healing discoveries have been a miracle to me...

>

>If I obsess I want to obsess on this until I don't. For now it's

>really shifting things.

>

>

>And I noticed you also said

>

>I remembered that

> > there are no mistakes in life--we attract to us what we need to

>grow into

> > our Higher Selves. Maybe you might want to forget about all the

>Yuk in your

> > life and start focusing on what you want in order to live the life

>your body

> > wants to live also.

>

>I truely will forget about the Yuk...when I do...totally. Until

>then focus is on what is...and if yuk is what is...I'm showing up

>for it....what I find is that if yuk is there I look at it....the

>rest of the time I'm very pro-active with positive energy (Carol

>Tuttle, EFT and study on other avenues of health and well-being.

>

>you wrote:

> >

> > I find 's process excellent for uncovering hidden irrational

>beliefs,

> > but I think people can get stuck in the negative inquiry for too

>long a

> > period of time. I'd rather move forward. You don't have to agree--

>my lovely

> > roomate doesn't .

>

>Thanks...you could be right....what is " stuck " anyway???

>

>You (you or I) shouldn't be stuck in negative inquiry for to long...

>Is it true??

>By the way...how long is " too " long my friend?? What is that time

>frame?

>

>But in fairness I think I know what you mean. Dwelling on, or in my

>own self-made hell. Yes?

>

>Perhaps, however, " stuckness " is a devine teaching tool that is a

>gift...

>

>I'm all for joy...but I trust my path, and though I was not feeling

>very grateful in the throws of my illness, I relish the contrast of

>that time (in the past, woohoo) to my current recovery and man it

>feels great.

>

>And by the way...it is so very interesting how each of us perceive

>each others stories/comments/ideas through our own unique (and

>changing) filters. When I wrote my post about the illness and

>marriage, etc. I was writing it as a review, a record to

>compare/contrast with the improvement that's taken place with the

>Work...and there was not all that great of an emotional charge on

>it. Perhaps you thought I was in the hell place. What was your

>filter saying?

>

>Right now I'm on a very intense exploratory phase, and loving it.

>

>with thanks and appreciation,

>dancin'

> >

> >

> > >From: " dancin2you " <ut_artpro@h...>

> > >Reply-To: Loving-what-is

> > >To: Loving-what-is

> > >Subject: The Body-Mind Connection

> > >Date: Sun, 22 Feb 2004 18:29:44 -0000

> > >

> > >Hi friends,

> > >

> > >I would like to talk to anyone putting Inquiry together with other

> > >mental or physical processes. I am especially interested in

>anyone

> > >who works with EFT (emotional freedom technique by Craig). I

> > >do the work for breakfast and EFT when I'm in crisis. (I didn't

>see

> > >anything about EFT through a search of the posts and I was

>surprised)

> > >

> > >I was thinking about my life about 2 years ago when I was

>physically

> > >very ill and emotionally on the edge of what looked like nervous

> > >exhaustion. I honestly didn't think if I would make it. One year

> > >ago insomnia was on the top of the list and next to that I

>suffered

> > >with unexpected mysterious electric type jolts (radical) in my hip

> > >from time to time (dropped me to the floor) that $4000 of medical

> > >doctors and tests couldn't figure out. (I now suspect it was a

> > >hiatal hernia pressing the vagus nerve...but still don't really

> > >know, and it hasn't been a problem since last fall) Most nights I

> > >would lie awake or I'd wake up over and over and I would lay in

>bed

> > >twitching, unable to sleep and wondered if I was close to seizures

> > >or " something " . At one point I was down to 3 hours sleep a night.

> > >Meds were addictive and created their own nightmare.

> > >

> > >Besides that, there were mysterious arthritic attacks of pain in

>my

> > >neck and shoulders that would spread all over my body

>(debilitating),

> > >a feeling of chronic dehydration...and too many other physical

> > >issues to list here. My whole body seemed to be in crisis and I

> > >felt like I was falling apart.

> > >

> > >I suspected many possible problems, but it was all guessing. The

> > >doctors were sympathetic but... When all was said and done I was

> > >weary, panicked, and wracked with tension. I have a closet full of

> > >supplements and a bookcase full of health and alternative books I

> > >read, looking for relief.

> > >

> > >By the way....most of this began after I married (again) and

> > >yes...it's been terrifically stressful. (3 1/2 years now) I took

> > >care of my dying mother-in-law, managed construction on a house,

> > >taught school, chased what appeared to me to be a very emotionally

> > >unavailable and non-intimate husband and tried to deal with 10

>grown

> > >kids in the new marriage. (5 his, 5 mine). Yep I was a bit

>stressed.

> > >

> > >I quit dancing. I had moved from where I lived for many years,

> > >which included close proximity to my kids and my close friends, my

> > >choice of course. I stopped painting and .... got pretty danged

> > >depressed.

> > >

> > >My husband, bless his heart, was and is my teacher...I had some

>very

> > >significant " lessons " it appears. I sometimes thought about

>leaving

> > >but was too physically ill...and besides I figured I had created

> > >this situation and if I did not find the mind/body connection

>HERE I

> > >would just carry it into some future relationship. I would attract

> > >the same or bigger 'teacher'.

> > >

> > >I have known full well for a long time that physical ailments

>OFTEN

> > >represent mental/emotional pain, but insight therapy just didn't

> > >touch this so I was open and driven to find help.

> > >

> > >Then I ran on to EFT. I had a few really amazing things happen. I

> > >confess I was also working hard to change diet and inrease water

> > >consumption...(the sweets are still a problem but that's what I'm

> > >going to explore in Inquiry too).

> > >

> > >Then I attended one day of 's intensive here and went away

> > >thoroughly confused but convinced something was up with this

>Inquiry

> > >stuff. I listened to most of her CD's and tapes every day...it

>very

> > >slowly started to sink in...it's still doing that. I do the work

> > >for breakfast and more. I have such an amazing array of stories

> > >about suffering, self-worth, loss, abandonment, and consequence

> > >involved so much depression, stress and resulting

>anger....leading,

> > >it seems, to the many physical problems.

> > >

> > >At this point my health is returning and I am so much

> > >happier....most of the time. I once enjoyed dancing, running,

>jet-

> > >skiing, hiking, and step-aerobics. I was not a serious athlete

>but

> > >I did a few 6-K races. That all collapsed....but hey, I slept 6

> > >hours last night (a record of recent years). I might start walking

> > >again when the snow melts. Things are definitely looking up,

> > >including in our marriage.

> > >

> > >Well..at this point...either I'm in remission of " something " or

> > >the 'mind' part of my mind-body connection really was the issue

>and

> > >has made some dramatic healing progress. I'm not out of the woods

> > >but truely funtioning so much better.

> > >

> > >The Work has been revelatory. I've just begun and now, even

>though

> > >I'm feeling better, I'm willing to be patient (in my marriage) and

> > >see what can happen.

> > >

> > >nomistake friends...

> > >dancin'

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

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[Guest guest]

Hi again Eddie and thanks for the clarifying words and also your

very personal story...very touching...what a testament to the power

of love when letting go of the old mindsets. I'm grateful you had

that incredibly precious time with your father at the end of his

life.

I'm so tired tonight my thoughts are getting very fuzzy. I just need

to get some sleep. I appreciate your thoughtful responses and wanted

to simply say thank you kind Eddie. I dare say love is alive and

well in your corner of the neighborhood.

dancin'

[Guest guest]

Dear Open eyes

You're terrific! I have really enjoyed reading your all of your

posts and this one especially so.....thank you for the peek into

your life. I was sort of laughing and crying at the same time as I

read it.

I am off to teach and would like to write much more, but suffice it

to say ....the fact that you are where you are after you've been

where you've been is one amazing journey...awesome.

By the way...I'm beginning to think we could all collaborate on a

new book.... " Loving what isn't " ....what do you think?

Thanks...truely

dancin'

> > >

> > > I find 's process excellent for uncovering hidden

irrational

> > beliefs,

> > > but I think people can get stuck in the negative inquiry for

too

> > long a

> > > period of time. I'd rather move forward. You don't have to

agree-

> -

> > my lovely

> > > roomate doesn't .

> >

> > Thanks...you could be right....what is " stuck " anyway???

> >

> > You (you or I) shouldn't be stuck in negative inquiry for to

long...

> > Is it true??

> > By the way...how long is " too " long my friend?? What is that

time

> > frame?

> >

> > But in fairness I think I know what you mean. Dwelling on, or

in

> my

> > own self-made hell. Yes?

> >

> > Perhaps, however, " stuckness " is a devine teaching tool that is

a

> > gift...

> >

> > I'm all for joy...but I trust my path, and though I was not

feeling

> > very grateful in the throws of my illness, I relish the contrast

of

> > that time (in the past, woohoo) to my current recovery and man

it

> > feels great.

> >

> > And by the way...it is so very interesting how each of us

perceive

> > each others stories/comments/ideas through our own unique (and

> > changing) filters. When I wrote my post about the illness and

> > marriage, etc. I was writing it as a review, a record to

> > compare/contrast with the improvement that's taken place with

the

> > Work...and there was not all that great of an emotional charge

on

> > it. Perhaps you thought I was in the hell place. What was your

> > filter saying?

> >

> > Right now I'm on a very intense exploratory phase, and loving it.

> >

> > with thanks and appreciation,

> > dancin'

> > >

> > >

> > > >From: " dancin2you " <ut_artpro@h...>

> > > >Reply-To: Loving-what-is

> > > >To: Loving-what-is

> > > >Subject: The Body-Mind Connection

> > > >Date: Sun, 22 Feb 2004 18:29:44 -0000

> > > >

> > > >Hi friends,

> > > >

> > > >I would like to talk to anyone putting Inquiry together with

> other

> > > >mental or physical processes. I am especially interested in

> > anyone

> > > >who works with EFT (emotional freedom technique by

Craig).

> I

> > > >do the work for breakfast and EFT when I'm in crisis. (I

didn't

> > see

> > > >anything about EFT through a search of the posts and I was

> > surprised)

> > > >

> > > >I was thinking about my life about 2 years ago when I was

> > physically

> > > >very ill and emotionally on the edge of what looked like

nervous

> > > >exhaustion. I honestly didn't think if I would make it. One

year

> > > >ago insomnia was on the top of the list and next to that I

> > suffered

> > > >with unexpected mysterious electric type jolts (radical) in

my

> hip

> > > >from time to time (dropped me to the floor) that $4000 of

medical

> > > >doctors and tests couldn't figure out. (I now suspect it was a

> > > >hiatal hernia pressing the vagus nerve...but still don't

really

> > > >know, and it hasn't been a problem since last fall) Most

nights I

> > > >would lie awake or I'd wake up over and over and I would lay

in

> > bed

> > > >twitching, unable to sleep and wondered if I was close to

> seizures

> > > >or " something " . At one point I was down to 3 hours sleep a

> night.

> > > >Meds were addictive and created their own nightmare.

> > > >

> > > >Besides that, there were mysterious arthritic attacks of pain

in

> > my

> > > >neck and shoulders that would spread all over my body

> > (debilitating),

> > > >a feeling of chronic dehydration...and too many other physical

> > > >issues to list here. My whole body seemed to be in crisis

and I

> > > >felt like I was falling apart.

> > > >

> > > >I suspected many possible problems, but it was all guessing.

The

> > > >doctors were sympathetic but... When all was said and done I

was

> > > >weary, panicked, and wracked with tension. I have a closet

full

> of

> > > >supplements and a bookcase full of health and alternative

books I

> > > >read, looking for relief.

> > > >

> > > >By the way....most of this began after I married (again) and

> > > >yes...it's been terrifically stressful. (3 1/2 years now) I

took

> > > >care of my dying mother-in-law, managed construction on a

house,

> > > >taught school, chased what appeared to me to be a very

> emotionally

> > > >unavailable and non-intimate husband and tried to deal with

10

> > grown

> > > >kids in the new marriage. (5 his, 5 mine). Yep I was a bit

> > stressed.

> > > >

> > > >I quit dancing. I had moved from where I lived for many

years,

> > > >which included close proximity to my kids and my close

friends,

> my

> > > >choice of course. I stopped painting and .... got pretty

danged

> > > >depressed.

> > > >

> > > >My husband, bless his heart, was and is my teacher...I had

some

> > very

> > > >significant " lessons " it appears. I sometimes thought about

> > leaving

> > > >but was too physically ill...and besides I figured I had

created

> > > >this situation and if I did not find the mind/body connection

> > HERE I

> > > >would just carry it into some future relationship. I would

> attract

> > > >the same or bigger 'teacher'.

> > > >

> > > >I have known full well for a long time that physical ailments

> > OFTEN

> > > >represent mental/emotional pain, but insight therapy just

didn't

> > > >touch this so I was open and driven to find help.

> > > >

> > > >Then I ran on to EFT. I had a few really amazing things

happen.

> I

> > > >confess I was also working hard to change diet and inrease

water

> > > >consumption...(the sweets are still a problem but that's what

I'm

> > > >going to explore in Inquiry too).

> > > >

> > > >Then I attended one day of 's intensive here and went

away

> > > >thoroughly confused but convinced something was up with this

> > Inquiry

> > > >stuff. I listened to most of her CD's and tapes every

day...it

> > very

> > > >slowly started to sink in...it's still doing that. I do the

work

> > > >for breakfast and more. I have such an amazing array of

stories

> > > >about suffering, self-worth, loss, abandonment, and

consequence

> > > >involved so much depression, stress and resulting

> > anger....leading,

> > > >it seems, to the many physical problems.

> > > >

> > > >At this point my health is returning and I am so much

> > > >happier....most of the time. I once enjoyed dancing,

running,

> > jet-

> > > >skiing, hiking, and step-aerobics. I was not a serious

athlete

> > but

> > > >I did a few 6-K races. That all collapsed....but hey, I

slept 6

> > > >hours last night (a record of recent years). I might start

> walking

> > > >again when the snow melts. Things are definitely looking up,

> > > >including in our marriage.

> > > >

> > > >Well..at this point...either I'm in remission of " something "

or

> > > >the 'mind' part of my mind-body connection really was the

issue

> > and

> > > >has made some dramatic healing progress. I'm not out of the

woods

> > > >but truely funtioning so much better.

> > > >

> > > >The Work has been revelatory. I've just begun and now, even

> > though

> > > >I'm feeling better, I'm willing to be patient (in my

marriage)

> and

> > > >see what can happen.

> > > >

> > > >nomistake friends...

> > > >dancin'

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

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