Re: A Funny,..sort of

[Guest guest]

wrote:

> To give you a little history, we are at the point where me and my

> parents are once again discussing the subject of my relationship

> problems and their fears.

Hi ,

Maybe I missed it along the way. Which one is your BP parent -- your

mother or your father?

- Edith

[Guest guest]

>

> > To give you a little history, we are at the point where me and

my

> > parents are once again discussing the subject of my relationship

> > problems and their fears.

>

> Hi ,

>

> Maybe I missed it along the way. Which one is your BP parent --

your mother or your father?

***Well,..I really dont know if or who. I started out here by

mistake but stayed because of my desire to know the REAL impact on

kids,..since I have some I dearly love and I think THEIR father is

most likely a BP. I hope to learn to see it from their perspective

and also know what I need to do for THEM through all this. It's not

like they can divorce their father, at least not yet, nor do I want

them to. I just wan ntthem to bewell equipted. I also MAY have one

either once or twice removed since we do have a family history of

various dysfunction. The family was in counseling years ago for my

step father's " dry alcoholism " . He had control and rage issues too.

My real father? somethingis obviously going on there too though I

couldnt say what exactly. This former part, with my step dad who I

consider my real father is past that part of our lives and on the

recovery side. We are close now too. I also realize that there may

be something I am missing about my upbringing that may have

contributed me to be drawn to my spouse in the first place (I think

BD but is not diagosed), something I recognized on a subconscious

level and therefore felt comfortable with.

So, I didnt really answer that for you did I? Lol. Sorry, I'm still

too new in the specifics of BPD to know exactly for sure and

hesitate to assume altogether,..but I am very familiar with control,

co-dependency, narcissism and the general dynamics of dysfunctional

families. I am also aware of the types of things it takes to regain

self esteem, power and autonomy that can get lost in relationships

with PD's in general. Rest assured in case Isound too cocky, I do

not assume to know so much as to know it all. Obviously I have

something to learn need reminded of if I have found myself in the

relationship that I now find myself. (insert crazy face) :0)

I hope I'm still welcome(?).

[Guest guest]

wrote:

> So, I didnt really answer that for you did I? Lol. Sorry, I'm still

> too new in the specifics of BPD to know exactly for sure and

> hesitate to assume altogether,..but I am very familiar with control,

> co-dependency, narcissism and the general dynamics of dysfunctional

> families. I am also aware of the types of things it takes to regain

> self esteem, power and autonomy that can get lost in relationships

> with PD's in general. Rest assured in case Isound too cocky, I do

> not assume to know so much as to know it all. Obviously I have

> something to learn need reminded of if I have found myself in the

> relationship that I now find myself. (insert crazy face) :0)

Hi ,

I'd recommend you read the readings that we KOs read - SWOE, SWOEW, SBP,

and UBM. Randi, the list-owner, co-wrote SWOE and SWOEW. And, we're all

guests here on her list. I had to ask because I was wondering about the

lack of your mentioning the effects of a BP parent on you personally.

Its obvious that you're well-read in general about dysfunctional stuff

and you write beautifully. Perhaps you'll see yourself in those readings?

- Edith

[Guest guest]

> I'd recommend you read the readings that we KOs read - SWOE,

SWOEW, SBP,and UBM. Randi, the list-owner, co-wrote SWOE and SWOEW.

And, we're all guests here on her list. I had to ask because I was

wondering about the lack of your mentioning the effects of a BP

parent on you personally. Its obvious that you're well-read in

general about dysfunctional stuff and you write beautifully. Perhaps

you'll see yourself in those readings?

***Thanks Edith. Perhaps I will see myself,...what's somewhat scarey

is WHERE I might see myself. Oy Vey! Still,..NOT knowing and the

possible implications of that is MUCH more scarey to me.

Wanna know another reason I'm here Edith? I love meeting and

experiencing people, all kinds of people. I also beleive we EACH

(everyone of us) hold a special power in healing for ourselves and

each other. One never knows where the next blessing will come from.

My own experience has been that it's usually from where you least

expect it. So my theory is, why limit one's possibilities/potential?

I got considerable blessings from even the most dysfunctional people

in my life,..once I was able to recognize them.

Ok enough of that. :0)

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