Guest guest Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 Ahh, I can feel the pull of Nada and I am doing the best I can to stay away from the whirling spin of the black hole... I am thinking that this is the experience that many of you have with a high functioning Nada. She had a big (the biggest my husband had ever witnessed)rage in June at our house. Since then she has been oh so kind and " concerned " when we have had contact. But this time my eyes are wide open and I can see that it is all part of her scheme to earn back my trust and make me feel that I need her, so that then she can rip me down once again. I have been wise to this for several years, but never knew until recently that it had a name and that I was not crazy or a bad,bad person as Nada made me out to be. Funny how I believed her for so long when I had surrounded myself with people who though differently. I just have had a conversation with my sister who says that Nada is truely concerned and does love us. I can agree, but unfortunately the BP/NP just overrides whatever caring/love/compassion there is initially. I have decided that this is my " summer of self help. " I am learning about BPD and the narcissim disorder and I am taking steps to take care of my own medical needs in a healthy way. I have also learned that our son has ADD, so I am learning about how best to help him. I want to protect him from the hurtful things that Nada says and does to me. He is a very perceptual child and I know he doesn't like to see his mommy hurt by Grandma (Nada). Oh, those berries sound delicious. We were in Seattle last weekend and I picked up the largest raspberries and blueberries that I have ever seen at Pike Place Market. We had the blueberries in pancakes on our camping trip. Yummy! Gotta go and exercise. I beleive that is a 4 letter word in disquise! But I am determined to follow my doctor's orders! Take care all, and thanks so much for sharing on this site...it has helped me in so many ways to read your stories! D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2004 Report Share Posted July 22, 2004 Hi Kit: You're not butting in! We all read whatever posts we want and respond to them all. Yes, unfortunately it is VERY common! And you will be amazed as you continue to talk to people on this list how much the Nada's do that is almost identical! (And, of course, there are things some Nada's do that your Nada doesn't do.) Keep coming back -- this list has been a lifesaver for me. I hope it helps you. Barb In a message dated 7/22/04 11:54:51 AM Eastern Daylight Time, growingperson@... writes: > > Wow ! Pardon me for butting in, but your comments just blew me > away,Barb.Is this common ? I am new to all this. I used to think my > mother had a multiple personality disorder. Only it didn't quite add > up. She had all these different " personalities " . I was very > uncomfotable with the bright and breezy one : = what a lovely day it > is ! But I dreaded the one I called the witch too. Well, actually I > called her the witch from hell. She used to be preceeded by this > meanish woman who spoke in an english accent. I hated it when the > english one turned up because I knew who'd turn up next. My big task > re my mother was both to let go longing for the impossible (a loving, > nurturing mum) and to stop trusting the " person " who turned up > periodically seeming like such a nice mother. If I trusted her, my > trust would be used against me later. If I confided anyhing to the > nice mum, then whammo later. > > Kit > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2004 Report Share Posted July 22, 2004 Wow ! Pardon me for butting in, but your comments just blew me away,Barb.Is this common ? I am new to all this. I used to think my mother had a multiple personality disorder. Only it didn't quite add up. She had all these different " personalities " . I was very uncomfotable with the bright and breezy one : = what a lovely day it is ! But I dreaded the one I called the witch too. Well, actually I called her the witch from hell. She used to be preceeded by this meanish woman who spoke in an english accent. I hated it when the english one turned up because I knew who'd turn up next. My big task re my mother was both to let go longing for the impossible (a loving, nurturing mum) and to stop trusting the " person " who turned up periodically seeming like such a nice mother. If I trusted her, my trust would be used against me later. If I confided anyhing to the nice mum, then whammo later. Kit > Hi D.: > > your self-help summer sounds wonderful! And especially the exercise part. > > My Nada has done the same thing,...... the actress in her pops out and she's > like the ditzy (but nice) woman on " Golden Girls " (Betty White.) > But sure enough.... eventually ... when you least expect it.... out pops the > sicko witch who says the meanest, nutiest things and yells and screams and > betrays, betrays, betrays. > > Can you imagine if Betty White on the Golden Girls ripped out and behaved > like a Nada on T.V.? they would 100% have her commited to a mental institution. > > Thank goodness we all have each other -- and we can at least put our Nada's > in an invisible mental institution to be studied and detached from (if we can > figure out how to do that! -- in case you haven't read my previous post I'm > going to pray out loud when I'm around her because she's been in witch mode now > for a few years!) > > Please keep telling us about your self help -- it's a tremendous help for me > to read how other KO's are working on helping themselves and their children. > > Barb T. > > In a message dated 7/21/04 6:19:45 PM Eastern Daylight Time, > backchat@c... writes: > > > > Ahh, I can feel the pull of Nada and I am doing the best I can to > > stay away from the whirling spin of the black hole... > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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