Guest guest Posted July 20, 2004 Report Share Posted July 20, 2004 In a message dated 7/20/2004 1:01:22 PM Eastern Daylight Time, danc19fr@... writes: >Sometimes I feel so hopeless. I have been trying so long to work on >the REAL issue and I don't feel any closer than I was 40 years ago. >Shrinks take money and say there is progress, but there isn't. >Maybe I can never be happy with what I am because the REAL issue is >that I am no damn good, just like Nada said. >- Dan I can understand those feelings.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2004 Report Share Posted July 20, 2004 Dan, I am sure that you are a wonderful person & it would be a shame to listen to someone who told you that you were " no damn good " . She was probably talking about herself when she made that statement. I see you as a very sensitive & caring person who is also responsible. You try to face your problems head on & you get so disappointed when you see no end in sight. I think this is a natural & normal thing that all humans do (the frustration when no progress is seen to be made). Don't be so hard on yourself. I too have a hard time grasping the fact that I may be the type of person that could & should be loved by anyone or anything. I may never feel as if I am worth it, I just don't know. But I am sure trying. Has your wife ever told you just how much she loves the idea of you having both legs? You know I have been thinking of the advantages of having 2 legs. There is one area that having both legs is a plus & that is during that personal time with your spouse. Could you perhaps concentrate on the benefits of having 2 legs? Think of things that you can do with 2 legs which would stop being fun or couldn't be done with only one of them. It might help some. There is also one other thing that you could try to do if that doesn't work. You could force your attention onto something else everytime those thoughts hit your brain. That's what I did with something that bothered me very much and it helped me really well. Debbie Re: OT BIID > << Generally the type of person he is/was(?) can never be happy with > what or who they are. >> > > << ..but if the REAL issue isnt cleared up , youll be still > miserable. Then what? >> > > Sometimes I feel so hopeless. I have been trying so long to work on > the REAL issue and I don't feel any closer than I was 40 years ago. > Shrinks take money and say there is progress, but there isn't. > Maybe I can never be happy with what I am because the REAL issue is > that I am no damn good, just like Nada said. > > - Dan > > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2004 Report Share Posted July 20, 2004 Dan, I have to agree with Sylvia. Its a damx shame & disgrace what kinds of emotional problems the BPS in our lives cause to happen to us. I believe that this is connected to BP. Hell, I pretty much believe that there are many many problems that are caused by BP parents than meets the eye or thoughts. Debbie Re: OT BIID > Dan, > > I know it gets pretty bad when we start to agree with our nadas! I > feel pretty bad for you right now. > > I had some extra time over lunch, and I looked up BIID. I only had > time to read one of the links. Of course, I would not have even know > about this disorder if it weren't for reading your posts. > > >From what I read, and from what you have tried to explain on your > posts, this is not a disorder that responds to what we understand as > traditional courses of treatment. And psychiatry doesn't seem to > have a clue as to how to manage this. (Please excuse my > generalizations - due to my lack of knowledge.) > > What I really want to say is, I think it is very helpful to you to be > able to post about this. I truly don't know if it is an OT subject > or not. The human mind is very, very complicated. And for as much as > we know about its functioning, there is still so much to learn. I > hope you will continue to post on this board about your issues (OT or > not), and I hope that we can give you some of the support that you > need. > > My very best to you, > > Sylvia > > > > > > > << Generally the type of person he is/was(?) can never be happy > with > > what or who they are. >> > > > > << ..but if the REAL issue isnt cleared up , youll be still > > miserable. Then what? >> > > > > Sometimes I feel so hopeless. I have been trying so long to work > on > > the REAL issue and I don't feel any closer than I was 40 years > ago. > > Shrinks take money and say there is progress, but there isn't. > > Maybe I can never be happy with what I am because the REAL issue is > > that I am no damn good, just like Nada said. > > > > - Dan > > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2004 Report Share Posted July 21, 2004 > Thanks for the ideas, Debbie, but I am still not in a very good place. > > - Dan *** I understand Dan. Just tread softly & keep all of you whole until we talk again. Debbie > > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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