Guest guest Posted December 28, 2004 Report Share Posted December 28, 2004 My nada has now started the ole calling over and over and over again when I do not answer the phone. I suppose she knows it's agitating. I finally answered and she asks if I was not home or just not answering. I told her I was not answering as I was working and told her to stop calling over and over. She said my daughter could answer. I said she is not allowed to answer the phone unless I order her to. Even weirder, nada would deny it, but she had one of my daughter's very sort of kinda friends call and guess what? The 15-year-old girl rang my phone over and over and over and over. It drove me bananas so I left the house. The kid left a message saying she wanted my daughter to call her back. Then she rang the phone a million times in a row AGAIN !! Then she finally left a second message saying she wanted my daughter to call her back and so to please answer the phone. Hello!! That's what she said. I know my nada put this kid up to it. I know kids are kind of innocent but this girl should know manners enough not to order other people to answer their phone. It's myhouse and my phone and I will answer it if I darn want to! Well, guess what? My daughter does not like this girl that much any way. She actually likes this girl's sister. My nada told my daughter yesterday that she was going to have this girl's mom call me so that I can go to this lady's house and set things straight and be friends again. What had happened was my nada had told me things saying it was coming from this lady. I got a little upset with this lady and askedher to please stop talking about family with my nada etc etc. I got upset. Ends up some of the things nada just plain made up and told me this lady said it. Why? To make me look like I am paranoid!! When I finally completely stopped communicating with this lady after hearing what nada says this lady says, I guess nada's fun ended. Now nada wants me to get around to talkin with this lady probably so the idget can tell me how nice and wonderful my nada is and how could I think such things like I do and I should not be so angry , blah blah This lady adores my nada. Guess what? I ain't goin' near that lady or talking with her. Sorry nada !! IT's also not past my nada to come to my house if I do not answer or to try to call my neighbor. Neighbor has not said she has tried to call but if neighbor ever tells me that I will tell neighbor to block that phone number. My nada called up to a retreat my daughter went to in another state posing as me. Now if that don't get all ! I wonder what the heck she told those people! Theresa > > > Nada has returned from my brother's home for her Christmas visit. > She called the house and when I did not answer, she called oldest son > to see if I was " ok " . Like I am on the curb run over by a mac > truck. She called back this pm (I did not know she had called very > early this am) and I picked up the phone to chat. > > So she is " training me " that if I do not call her back asap (even if > I am unware of her calls) she will call members of my family that > live nearby to " check " on me. > > It would be funny, if it was not so manupliative/ Oh well, that is > nada. take care, mg > > > Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner > " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to: > http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 Hi Theresa! Di is so right about this!!! I had the same experience of harrasment from Christmas -03 to march -04 by nada with my brothers and father. We told her that the police would be involved if she didn't stop - I started to jump everytime my phone rang and got real anxious over the phone ringing wheather it was her or not. I could not answer to important phone calls because of the trauma. Her excuse was that she has a right to call when ever she wants and say what ever she wants and people should not take it so seriously - on the contrary - take it seriously, so seriously that she will get the picture. This is one of the things that are regulated by the law all over the world, so you are able to really show her that she has not got the right to do what ever she wants. There are other things that are more difficult to prove than phone harrashment. Take care, BM > > Okay Theresa, > What you are describing is harassment. Bullying, plain and simple. > You need to change your phone number immendiately and then make it > unlisted so that Nada can't see the number on her end. The phone is > a tool for your convienience, not the convienience of others. > Here is some info on phone harrasment. It is a crime. > Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 29, 2004 Report Share Posted December 29, 2004 Hi again Theresa! I did not chance my phone number, did not have to after I told my nada that I am calling the police next time she calls. And then there is the fact that I have only got a cellular now, the kind where you can choose what numbers even give a signal. So I was able to not even notice when she called, and to choose the calls I would take. So she gave up... and then there is that that I don't care what she tells people. The ones that matter to me, don't believe anything she says anymore. Nadas just go overboard with stuff sometimes, maybe when the boundaries become real to them - my nada did anyway, even the relatives that did not know about her condition sent Christmas cards to us and have called to say how sorry they are about what we have gone true in our lives with her. There even was a stranger who told her to leave her kids alone - that was told to me by my granny - and she has. Thank God! Just telling this hoping that something will happen that will ease your situation soon... BM > o.k. guys - if I make my phone number unlisted that means I cannot > give it to any of the homeschoolers because someone would give it to > nada. Even then I still think nada would be able to find my phone > number somehow. She likes to call people pretending she is me. > > She called that school up there my daughter went to pretending she was > me. She would do the same thing otherwise. She has even pretended > she was her husband on some phone calls. She told me about that. > > What do I do about this kid if she keeps using nada's techniques? I > am guessing the kid's mother does not know about it. It's another one > of nada's games for me to contact this mother so that I can look > paranoid again !! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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