RE: The ride / long exegesis / sleeping material enclosed

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Hey Monkey Boy!

It's nice to hear from you. I've really missed your posts. I'm sorry

that you will be having another surgery and hope it will clear things up

for you. Please don't be a stranger. Your input has helped so many

people with their journey. I really miss another man's perspective ( no

offense to the women in the group).

Ed in Vegas

The ride / long exegesis / sleeping

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Dear Cindee Lee,

I have not posted in a long time, but your " ride " e-mail has prompted me

to

break my long self imposed silence.

I completely understand how it is to be in a similar situation for I,

too,

share most of your concerns. In my case, they are exacerbated by having

lost

less than 100 pounds in 17 months. (Well, technically, I have lost about

300

pounds, but I have this 30 pound gain over night, then it takes weeks to

loose that only to regain it.) Dr. K is considering a revision of my

revision when I have surgery again on 28 June. He seems to be quite

concerned about the lack of weight loss and other contributing factors

that

have caused my health problems.

I, too, have compulsive eating days, and, although I usually try to go

for

the healthy things, there are days that I do not do so. Monday, for

example,

having stepped on the scale for my weekly torture session, I had gained

19

pounds since I saw Doctor the previous week. I bought a bag of " bite

sized "

snickers and in an hour I had eaten the who bag. I believe that in our

case,

the compulsive eating is a way to combat the depression we have--some of

it

caused by the hormonal imbalance and shifting that weight loss brings

on. I

have come to believe that the compulsive eating is our way to find

something

comfortable--some part of the " new " us that is still there from the

pre-ds

days. Compulsive eating, and eating the things we would have eaten

before

the ds, is a way to placate our id.

Freud said that mentally we are three parts. The " id " which is the

primal

part of us. We are born with it and all it wants to do is eat, drink,

poop,

and be merry. As we grow older, we develop the " ego' which keeps the

" id " in

check--the ego tells us we've eaten enough so put that chocolate down,

NOW.

Then we develop the " superego " which is the guilt part that makes the

ego

work. Freud's opinion was that, occasionally, the id becomes dominant

and

incapable of being controlled by the ego, and then the superego kicks in

and

we feel like crap for what we've done. Compulsive behaviour is the lack

of

the ego and the superego to keep the id in its place.

My opinion is that, as we drop the fat, the hormones are running around

looking for a place to settle, and that is unsettling to us. So, the id

kicks in and says " I want comfort and I want the OLD comfort. " So, we

eat

compulsively and eat as we used to eat -- for comfort. This isn't always

bad

because it is the mind's way of coping with thing. But then, the

superego

kicks in and says, " you bad, bad, person, you can't control yourself. "

Did any of this make any sense at all?

Please know that most of us, if not all of us, share your concerns and

your

experiences. Trust me, you are NOT alone.

Jim

[Guest guest]

Because of Jim's last post I may have to change my moniker to " ID from

Vegas "

[Guest guest]

Because of Jim's last post I may have to change my moniker to " ID from

Vegas "

[Guest guest]

> Because of Jim's last post I may have to change my moniker to " ID

from

> Vegas "

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You are so funny, are you going to get to come to the pool party

in Aug???

Pat

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