Re: Dear Di.....change of nickname?

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> Hi Kim-

>

> I think your message was meant for the persont hat signs her posts,

> D- I sign mine Di...

>

LOL, Di, we've got the same problem again as a few months ago! D is

the initial of my first name, and I don't feel comfortable enough to

use it... mainly because of my nada and stepfather. I very rarely use

my real name in newsgroups because of that.

Any ideas as to how we can get around this? I am finding myself oddly

reluctant to use a nickname on this group... this is all too personal

for me to hide behind a mask.

> But I liked the words you wrote, very supportive!

>

> I agree that D just needs to hang in there. D needs to know that

> other KO's have managed to get through the depression despite our

> Nada!

>

Thank you You and other KOs here are just marvellous. I am *so*

glad that i've found this nook of the net.

D

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" D is the initial of my first name "

**Mine too

" and I don't feel comfortable enough to use it... "

**Me neither

" Any ideas as to how we can get around this? I am finding myself

oddly reluctant to use a nickname on this group... this is all too

personal for me to hide behind a mask. "

**I think we should stick to what we have been using- just read

anything that has my " name " attached to it too

Di.

[Guest guest]

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> " D is the initial of my first name "

>

> **Mine too

>

> " and I don't feel comfortable enough to use it... "

>

> **Me neither

>

> " Any ideas as to how we can get around this? I am finding myself

> oddly reluctant to use a nickname on this group... this is all too

> personal for me to hide behind a mask. "

>

> **I think we should stick to what we have been using- just read

> anything that has my " name " attached to it too

>

> Di.

) How about if I sign off " Miss D " ? A friend at work calls me that

(even though I can't bear to put Miss on any official forms, it's

always Ms. )

D

[Guest guest]

Miss D is good...or Ms. D, whichever is more comfortable for you!

I had to laugh at the " feeling 40 " as I turned 40 this year. I still

love to do some fun, young things. In fact, I recently found myself

in a mosh pit at a concert. I was just trying to get close enough to

the front to take some good photos of my favorite singer...it was

crazy...but lots of fun. I was definately the oldest one up front,

lol. Got some great shots though and had a blast! Gotta plug my

friend- he's the lead singer of Alter Bridge (check them out at

http://www.alterbridge.com).

Music has always been a huge release thing for me and something that

Nada does not " get. " It irritates her that husband and I have an

enxtensive CD collection- " you can never have the time to listen to

all of those, what a waste of money. "

And to you younger gals: Don't be afraid to have children. If you

are aware of the abuse of your past, you can make a conscience

effort to raise a child differently than you were raised. It may

take a bit more, but it can be done. One thing I know as a

mother...I LOVE my son UNCONDITIONALLY. I can not bear to see him

hurting emotionally. My nada doesn't really know what unconditional

love is, or she would not have been so abusive.

Di.

[Guest guest]

Miss D is good...or Ms. D, whichever is more comfortable for you!

I had to laugh at the " feeling 40 " as I turned 40 this year. I still

love to do some fun, young things. In fact, I recently found myself

in a mosh pit at a concert. I was just trying to get close enough to

the front to take some good photos of my favorite singer...it was

crazy...but lots of fun. I was definately the oldest one up front,

lol. Got some great shots though and had a blast! Gotta plug my

friend- he's the lead singer of Alter Bridge (check them out at

http://www.alterbridge.com).

Music has always been a huge release thing for me and something that

Nada does not " get. " It irritates her that husband and I have an

enxtensive CD collection- " you can never have the time to listen to

all of those, what a waste of money. "

And to you younger gals: Don't be afraid to have children. If you

are aware of the abuse of your past, you can make a conscience

effort to raise a child differently than you were raised. It may

take a bit more, but it can be done. One thing I know as a

mother...I LOVE my son UNCONDITIONALLY. I can not bear to see him

hurting emotionally. My nada doesn't really know what unconditional

love is, or she would not have been so abusive.

Di.

[Guest guest]

Hi there, I'm a newbie, been lurking all day :-)

Just had to add my 2c worth ... Miss Di is right, don't be afraid to have

children. I only recently found out there was a " name " for what was wrong with

my nada, but when my two children were tiny I realised I had to deal with my

issues with my mum, so I went for counselling. It helped IMMENSELY and I have

broken the cycle!

I haven't had any contact with nada since before I had kids (they are 10 & 8),

in the last couple of years we have explained to them about why we don't see

her. They already have two grammas anyway - my mother-in-law, and my stepmum.

They decided they needed a name for this new unknown gramma so they decided to

call her " Grams " . This is absolutely hysterical because I know how much nada

would HATE it! Tee hee hee!

love Janet xxx

Janet Camilleri

Author " Clues to your Calling "

Editor " Footprints "

www.footprints.vze.com

Re: Dear Di.....change of nickname?

Miss D is good...or Ms. D, whichever is more comfortable for you!

I had to laugh at the " feeling 40 " as I turned 40 this year. I still

love to do some fun, young things. In fact, I recently found myself

in a mosh pit at a concert. I was just trying to get close enough to

the front to take some good photos of my favorite singer...it was

crazy...but lots of fun. I was definately the oldest one up front,

lol. Got some great shots though and had a blast! Gotta plug my

friend- he's the lead singer of Alter Bridge (check them out at

http://www.alterbridge.com).

Music has always been a huge release thing for me and something that

Nada does not " get. " It irritates her that husband and I have an

enxtensive CD collection- " you can never have the time to listen to

all of those, what a waste of money. "

And to you younger gals: Don't be afraid to have children. If you

are aware of the abuse of your past, you can make a conscience

effort to raise a child differently than you were raised. It may

take a bit more, but it can be done. One thing I know as a

mother...I LOVE my son UNCONDITIONALLY. I can not bear to see him

hurting emotionally. My nada doesn't really know what unconditional

love is, or she would not have been so abusive.

Di.

Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner

" Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via

1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to:

http://www.BPDCentral.com

[Guest guest]

Hi there, I'm a newbie, been lurking all day :-)

Just had to add my 2c worth ... Miss Di is right, don't be afraid to have

children. I only recently found out there was a " name " for what was wrong with

my nada, but when my two children were tiny I realised I had to deal with my

issues with my mum, so I went for counselling. It helped IMMENSELY and I have

broken the cycle!

I haven't had any contact with nada since before I had kids (they are 10 & 8),

in the last couple of years we have explained to them about why we don't see

her. They already have two grammas anyway - my mother-in-law, and my stepmum.

They decided they needed a name for this new unknown gramma so they decided to

call her " Grams " . This is absolutely hysterical because I know how much nada

would HATE it! Tee hee hee!

love Janet xxx

Janet Camilleri

Author " Clues to your Calling "

Editor " Footprints "

www.footprints.vze.com

Re: Dear Di.....change of nickname?

Miss D is good...or Ms. D, whichever is more comfortable for you!

I had to laugh at the " feeling 40 " as I turned 40 this year. I still

love to do some fun, young things. In fact, I recently found myself

in a mosh pit at a concert. I was just trying to get close enough to

the front to take some good photos of my favorite singer...it was

crazy...but lots of fun. I was definately the oldest one up front,

lol. Got some great shots though and had a blast! Gotta plug my

friend- he's the lead singer of Alter Bridge (check them out at

http://www.alterbridge.com).

Music has always been a huge release thing for me and something that

Nada does not " get. " It irritates her that husband and I have an

enxtensive CD collection- " you can never have the time to listen to

all of those, what a waste of money. "

And to you younger gals: Don't be afraid to have children. If you

are aware of the abuse of your past, you can make a conscience

effort to raise a child differently than you were raised. It may

take a bit more, but it can be done. One thing I know as a

mother...I LOVE my son UNCONDITIONALLY. I can not bear to see him

hurting emotionally. My nada doesn't really know what unconditional

love is, or she would not have been so abusive.

Di.

Send questions and/or concerns to ModOasis-owner

" Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs, can be ordered via

1-888-35-SHELL () and for the table of contents, go to:

http://www.BPDCentral.com

[Guest guest]

>

> Miss D is good...or Ms. D, whichever is more comfortable for you!

I've decided to stick with Miss D... it has a less stunted " feel "

about it.

>

> I had to laugh at the " feeling 40 " as I turned 40 this year. I still

> love to do some fun, young things. In fact, I recently found myself

> in a mosh pit at a concert. I was just trying to get close enough to

> the front to take some good photos of my favorite singer...it was

> crazy...but lots of fun. I was definately the oldest one up front,

> lol. Got some great shots though and had a blast! Gotta plug my

> friend- he's the lead singer of Alter Bridge (check them out at

> http://www.alterbridge.com).

Thanks for the link, that band look really good! I've never been in

a mosh pit, never really liked crowds (and didn't have the money to go

to the big concerts when I was younger). Good on you, doing fun stuff

like that!

>

> Music has always been a huge release thing for me and something that

> Nada does not " get. " It irritates her that husband and I have an

> enxtensive CD collection- " you can never have the time to listen to

> all of those, what a waste of money. "

Heh. I suppose that if you don't listen to music much, you wouldn't

understand the " going through phases " . I've a massive music collection

too, and so does my partner. Listening to my (current) favourite CDs

or music that I listened to when I was going through one good patch or

another never fails to cheer me and change my moods.

>

> And to you younger gals: Don't be afraid to have children. If you

> are aware of the abuse of your past, you can make a conscience

> effort to raise a child differently than you were raised. It may

> take a bit more, but it can be done. One thing I know as a

> mother...I LOVE my son UNCONDITIONALLY. I can not bear to see him

> hurting emotionally. My nada doesn't really know what unconditional

> love is, or she would not have been so abusive.

Thanks for that, Di. I know that if i had a kid, i would treat it *so*

much better than my mother treated me, and would do my outmost to be a

good mum to him/her. there are still issues i have to deal with before

i can take on such a responsibility, though, and i really would have

to deal with my fear. I've other reasons for not wanting to have

children, apart from emotional, though.

*hugs*

Miss D