Guest guest Posted December 22, 2004 Report Share Posted December 22, 2004 Background: Nada always comes to my house for xmas. This year I asked her to stay away. I wanted to create good holiday memories with my husband and son. I have had very limited phone contact and no visits with her in the past 6 months since her last huge rage. Problem: Nada sent 3 huge boxes of presents to my house. Tons for son and for me, and $ for husband to use to go skiiing. Now, I know that Nada only has my small family and my sister to buy gifts for. I know that she likes to shop. I know that every year she goes overboard for gifts, even when I have asked her not too. I am at the point in my life where I am decluttering constantly. I really don't want or need anything small. New furniture- sure. A trip away from the daily grind, sure. So, why do I feel bad about all of these gifts? I think it is because I am mad/sad/annoyed that Nada has not learned who the real me, what my real wants/needs are. Ahe is doing what makes HER feel good, instead off what I would actually wish for. Is this more FOG? Shouldn't I feel grateful that I have so many beautifully wrapped gifts under the tree? ICK. Plus it will make me feel inauthentic when I have to thank Nada for all of the lovely gifts. Thanks for reading. I feel better knowing that I have vented a bit. Di. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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