Guest guest Posted December 7, 2004 Report Share Posted December 7, 2004 little_ugh wrote: > I used to think we only had two rules at our house. 1. Be cheerful. > 2. Be present. From this board, I have realized we had many others. > The no-lie rule. The don't tell rule. The make no waves rule. I'm > sure they're others. (Has anyone managed to lump these into one big > easy-to-remember master rule?? Or maybe devise a mnemonic to make it > easier for me? ;-)) The more of this wrong-thinking I see, the more > it helps me get clear. Thanks! > Les Hi Les, A book that helped me along the recovery path was titled " Bradshaw On: The Family " by Bradshaw (1996). Chapter 2 of that book is titled " The Famiy as a Rule-Bound Social System " . And, on p 21, in the Summary, it states: " The key points covered in this chapter can be summed up using the letters from the word CRISIS " where these letters stand for: C ompulsive/Addictive Behavior Disorder R ules for Child Rearing I dealization of Parents and Family S hame I deological Totalism - Nazi Germany S ocial Systems I highly recommend this book to any KO. I learned what 'normal' was from reading it. There should be copies in your local library. - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2004 Report Share Posted December 7, 2004 Edith, Thanks. I'll get the book and read it. I could use a primer in " normal " . I'll order it from Amazon. Les I learned what 'normal' was from > reading it. There should be copies in your local library. > > - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2004 Report Share Posted December 7, 2004 Edith, Thanks. I'll get the book and read it. I could use a primer in " normal " . I'll order it from Amazon. Les I learned what 'normal' was from > reading it. There should be copies in your local library. > > - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2004 Report Share Posted December 7, 2004 Edith, Thanks. I'll get the book and read it. I could use a primer in " normal " . I'll order it from Amazon. Les I learned what 'normal' was from > reading it. There should be copies in your local library. > > - Edith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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