Re: not a poor girl - defending oneself

[Guest guest]

> > Well this is something I am afraid to say to anyone in regards of

> > the fear of beeing BP myself. She has been afraid of me at times,

> > sometimes I seemed to have authority over her, or is this just

> > showing the fear they, according to SWOE, have when it comes to

us

> > Ko's?!

> >

With my nada I think its FOG. She plays the subservient, submissive,

gullible, afraid role and mines my brain. I don't think its

intentional, but I've learned that I'm in the most danger of selling

her my soul when she's playing the weak one. It plays right into my

KO/oldest parentified child/control thing. And my maybe I'm just a

mean person thing. Not good, she's got me for a three hours phone

call then.

Ivorysoap

[Guest guest]

Hi!

Could be about fear of abandonment, or something else. I don't know

either, now one else has been afraid of me, not even my kids so...

hard to say. Or it just has been the normal time of her life, 'cause

the times she was afraid of me, she would stop right there. No

manipulation, nothing.

I am talking about times when I was over eighteen, she had no right

to deside for me what I could or could not do anymore, or times when

I would be strong enough to tell her what would be tolerated or not

with my family. Then there were times it was just the opposite, so

hmmm... the struggle of survival, who is the strongest and stuff.

This sounds quite amusing to me, 'cause I don't have a competitive

bone in me, hih! I rather let someone else win before me.

Maybe she really is able to read the signs, like many of you have

said that when they are weakest, sick or something, they just jump

right in with the old manipulation, control and everything. When I am

getting weaker she uses her skills to make me even more weak to tie

me in the relationship?! No signs of weakness or your lost,

terrifying!!

BM

[Guest guest]

Hi!

Could be about fear of abandonment, or something else. I don't know

either, now one else has been afraid of me, not even my kids so...

hard to say. Or it just has been the normal time of her life, 'cause

the times she was afraid of me, she would stop right there. No

manipulation, nothing.

I am talking about times when I was over eighteen, she had no right

to deside for me what I could or could not do anymore, or times when

I would be strong enough to tell her what would be tolerated or not

with my family. Then there were times it was just the opposite, so

hmmm... the struggle of survival, who is the strongest and stuff.

This sounds quite amusing to me, 'cause I don't have a competitive

bone in me, hih! I rather let someone else win before me.

Maybe she really is able to read the signs, like many of you have

said that when they are weakest, sick or something, they just jump

right in with the old manipulation, control and everything. When I am

getting weaker she uses her skills to make me even more weak to tie

me in the relationship?! No signs of weakness or your lost,

terrifying!!

BM

[Guest guest]

Hi!

Could be about fear of abandonment, or something else. I don't know

either, now one else has been afraid of me, not even my kids so...

hard to say. Or it just has been the normal time of her life, 'cause

the times she was afraid of me, she would stop right there. No

manipulation, nothing.

I am talking about times when I was over eighteen, she had no right

to deside for me what I could or could not do anymore, or times when

I would be strong enough to tell her what would be tolerated or not

with my family. Then there were times it was just the opposite, so

hmmm... the struggle of survival, who is the strongest and stuff.

This sounds quite amusing to me, 'cause I don't have a competitive

bone in me, hih! I rather let someone else win before me.

Maybe she really is able to read the signs, like many of you have

said that when they are weakest, sick or something, they just jump

right in with the old manipulation, control and everything. When I am

getting weaker she uses her skills to make me even more weak to tie

me in the relationship?! No signs of weakness or your lost,

terrifying!!

BM

[Guest guest]

This reminds me of Harriet Braiker's book, " Who's Pulling Your

Strings? " My father called me last night and told me that he'd like

to see me call " every day " like I used to (?did not!)because nada

was broken hearted and stubborn about the whole thing. I'm going to

call tonight, but only to prove the point that I'm not 100%

responsible for making the initial contact. (Called on Monday, but

nada was in bed. I guess that I don't get credit for that call...)

I'm on a 2 - 3 week call cycle now, but it's funny how the phone

only works one-way for nada...

I should pull out the book and post the hard target highlights, just

to keep me fresh.

K

>

> Maybe she really is able to read the signs, like many of you have

> said that when they are weakest, sick or something, they just jump

> right in with the old manipulation, control and everything. When I

am

> getting weaker she uses her skills to make me even more weak to

tie

> me in the relationship?! No signs of weakness or your lost,

> terrifying!!

>

> BM