Re: hey liquid sunshine -- !

[Guest guest]

Hey I'm brain dead tonight and need to process a bit. You

are an amazing and *interesting* young woman...even taking action by

writing to the Ohio Congress -- good for you! Maybe you'll run for

public office someday. You see, you already know what it's taken

some of us half our lives to learn.

Ho man, sorry to hear about your little sister. I'll add my prayers

for her. It must be so hard...wanting to help her OUT, at the same

time knowing you have to take care of YOU, first. Everyone in this

group has/had a crazy nada like yours. With the money issues and all

sorts of nutty antics. It may be helpful for you (when you have some

time) to browse through the archives a bit. Lotta nada stories there.

Pay attention to Edith's posts. She's the moderator here, and a whole

lot more..... She'd probably advise adding developmental psych to

your curriculum.

Well I'm gonna chill with some RADIOHEAD and hit the sack.

talk soon, Chica.

liquid sunshine of the burned out mind <lol>

> Yeah... my boyfriend actually came from a lower middle class family

> and is now making a life for himself and pulling up into the middle

> class on his own. I grew up in a upper middle class family. Although

> he quit school, he's got a business that he and his best friend

> (both not even old enough to drink alcohol legally, but they own a

> business)run, a cell phone store (nextel, t-mobile, etc) and he's

> making a life for himself, and possibly " us " in the future. Yeah, I

> never really, when I was in the middle of it realized how lucky I

> really am/was... and how many people really did " stick out their

> necks " for me. Infact, I've gotten to be very good friends with a

> detective down at our local police force... and he continues to give

> me updates on my family's craziness. Oh, but get this. I may be out,

> and " safe " but my little sister, she'll be 16 in May, who

> is " developmentally delayed " is still in that hell hole. Every day,

> I pray for her. Infact, more than once a day. I'm trying to write

> something to take to the Ohio Congress about getting siblings

> rights. Grandparents and siblings and aunts/uncles have NO RIGHTS...

> the goofiest thing I've ever heard. I don't really know how to help

> her either... she is a hostage in her own hell. Like the other day,

> my mom called to harass me, so I took advantage of the call and

> asked to speak to Rosie, my sister. When she got on the phone, I was

> like so how you doin', she was like " mom said I'm doing ok. " Mom

> said she's doing ok? Shouldn't SHE know if she's doing ok? Sheesh.

> BRAIN WASHING! Did your nada do that? Mine totally did but I'm so

> hardheaded and determined that she tried to shake me but I stood as

> strong as I could. She mows right over Rosie. I feel... so awful.

> Man, I promised myself I wouldn't cry when I wrote this, but I can't

> help it. Noboday can help her! I wish... I hope... I pray... that

> she gets help. Somehow. Anyhow. Here's another weird thing. My

> boyfriend's parents backed me a million percent. They are... the

> best parents I could ever imagine. I mean maybe they didnt have a

> lot of money... but they spent TIME with their kids... loved them,

> cherished their successes and supported them in their times of need.

> My nada and my dad did neither. OH! Did your nada ever act weird

> about money? My nada is an attorney who has dilusions about how much

> money we had. She bought a hot tub, a $525,000 house, expensive

> computer equiptment, a big screen tv, dvd-vcr combo, etc... She quit

> working after she had the bariatric stomach surgery... you know, the

> one where they make your stomach the size of an egg? Yeah, thats

> where she got the Rx drugs too. My dad always complained about not

> having enough money, which I guess we really didnt, but my nada was

> spending lavishly when our cable, internet, electric, phones, etc...

> would get shut off on a regular basis. Basically, I paid whatever

> bills I could to keep the house running, bought groceries on my 7.50

> an hour lifeguarding job, and all while raising 2 kids who could

> punish me and did on a regular basis, and 1 who needed special

> attention 24/7. Oh, man. Is the money thing for a nada, something

> usual or just my situation? If you want to, tell me a little more

> about your situation... I'm eager to learn more about this (hence

> why I am a sociology major, and taking abnormal psychology along

> with deviance, etc).

> I'll be around,

> L.