Re: First therapy session made it worse!

[Guest guest]

Hi Jeanine,

You're welcome! And I don't think there's anything obvious about any

of this stuff. Having a BPD parent is so unbelievably confusing, it

takes a lot of time and effort to figure it all out. It's just nice

to be able to figure it all out here, in good company .

> >

> > > Guessing the need to be in control and the need to not let

fada

> be

> > > in a position of control is some sort of flea/defense

mechanism.

> >

> > I'd say when it comes to your fada, this is a defense mechanism,

> and

> > very possibly a healthy one.

> >

> > When it comes to other people who you have healthy relationships

> > with, it's a flea. We learn these things to protect ourselves

from

> > nada/fada, but they don't work well in healthy relationships.

> >

> > Interestingly enough, I can definitely relate to what you

> described

> > in my own relationship with my NPD dad. Unlike my nada, I do

talk

> to

> > NPD dad...but I don't trust him. As a general rule, money and

> things

> > come with way too many strings attached. It's definitely a

> > power/control thing.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi Jeanine,

You're welcome! And I don't think there's anything obvious about any

of this stuff. Having a BPD parent is so unbelievably confusing, it

takes a lot of time and effort to figure it all out. It's just nice

to be able to figure it all out here, in good company .

> >

> > > Guessing the need to be in control and the need to not let

fada

> be

> > > in a position of control is some sort of flea/defense

mechanism.

> >

> > I'd say when it comes to your fada, this is a defense mechanism,

> and

> > very possibly a healthy one.

> >

> > When it comes to other people who you have healthy relationships

> > with, it's a flea. We learn these things to protect ourselves

from

> > nada/fada, but they don't work well in healthy relationships.

> >

> > Interestingly enough, I can definitely relate to what you

> described

> > in my own relationship with my NPD dad. Unlike my nada, I do

talk

> to

> > NPD dad...but I don't trust him. As a general rule, money and

> things

> > come with way too many strings attached. It's definitely a

> > power/control thing.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hello JMJ,

Get a new therapist! I hear you! I am a KO, too.

No one else but KOs understand.

My therapist's practice is only KOs and that helps.

Love

Ymad

[Guest guest]

Hello JMJ,

Get a new therapist! I hear you! I am a KO, too.

No one else but KOs understand.

My therapist's practice is only KOs and that helps.

Love

Ymad