Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 The thing about those grandparent rights is that they cut both ways. In our state, we have substantial grandparent rights...not something you want if your mother is BPD/NPD, wealthy and smart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 Yeah... my boyfriend actually came from a lower middle class family and is now making a life for himself and pulling up into the middle class on his own. I grew up in a upper middle class family. Although he quit school, he's got a business that he and his best friend (both not even old enough to drink alcohol legally, but they own a business)run, a cell phone store (nextel, t-mobile, etc) and he's making a life for himself, and possibly " us " in the future. Yeah, I never really, when I was in the middle of it realized how lucky I really am/was... and how many people really did " stick out their necks " for me. Infact, I've gotten to be very good friends with a detective down at our local police force... and he continues to give me updates on my family's craziness. Oh, but get this. I may be out, and " safe " but my little sister, she'll be 16 in May, who is " developmentally delayed " is still in that hell hole. Every day, I pray for her. Infact, more than once a day. I'm trying to write something to take to the Ohio Congress about getting siblings rights. Grandparents and siblings and aunts/uncles have NO RIGHTS... the goofiest thing I've ever heard. I don't really know how to help her either... she is a hostage in her own hell. Like the other day, my mom called to harass me, so I took advantage of the call and asked to speak to Rosie, my sister. When she got on the phone, I was like so how you doin', she was like " mom said I'm doing ok. " Mom said she's doing ok? Shouldn't SHE know if she's doing ok? Sheesh. BRAIN WASHING! Did your nada do that? Mine totally did but I'm so hardheaded and determined that she tried to shake me but I stood as strong as I could. She mows right over Rosie. I feel... so awful. Man, I promised myself I wouldn't cry when I wrote this, but I can't help it. Noboday can help her! I wish... I hope... I pray... that she gets help. Somehow. Anyhow. Here's another weird thing. My boyfriend's parents backed me a million percent. They are... the best parents I could ever imagine. I mean maybe they didnt have a lot of money... but they spent TIME with their kids... loved them, cherished their successes and supported them in their times of need. My nada and my dad did neither. OH! Did your nada ever act weird about money? My nada is an attorney who has dilusions about how much money we had. She bought a hot tub, a $525,000 house, expensive computer equiptment, a big screen tv, dvd-vcr combo, etc... She quit working after she had the bariatric stomach surgery... you know, the one where they make your stomach the size of an egg? Yeah, thats where she got the Rx drugs too. My dad always complained about not having enough money, which I guess we really didnt, but my nada was spending lavishly when our cable, internet, electric, phones, etc... would get shut off on a regular basis. Basically, I paid whatever bills I could to keep the house running, bought groceries on my 7.50 an hour lifeguarding job, and all while raising 2 kids who could punish me and did on a regular basis, and 1 who needed special attention 24/7. Oh, man. Is the money thing for a nada, something usual or just my situation? If you want to, tell me a little more about your situation... I'm eager to learn more about this (hence why I am a sociology major, and taking abnormal psychology along with deviance, etc). I'll be around, L. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 Good point. I think fortunately for me she's always been a dumb a$$ w/money. She's very smart though- very, very smart. Aren't all bps smart? I mean I kind of thought they'd have to be in order to juggle their jekyll and hyde existence, otherwise they'd just be ragaholics on everyone. Thanks for the tip though. K > The thing about those grandparent rights is that they cut both ways. In our > state, we have substantial grandparent rights...not something you want if your > mother is BPD/NPD, wealthy and smart. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 30, 2004 Report Share Posted March 30, 2004 Good point. I think fortunately for me she's always been a dumb a$$ w/money. She's very smart though- very, very smart. Aren't all bps smart? I mean I kind of thought they'd have to be in order to juggle their jekyll and hyde existence, otherwise they'd just be ragaholics on everyone. Thanks for the tip though. K > The thing about those grandparent rights is that they cut both ways. In our > state, we have substantial grandparent rights...not something you want if your > mother is BPD/NPD, wealthy and smart. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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