Guest guest Posted August 17, 2004 Report Share Posted August 17, 2004 That sort of revelation is how I earned my moniker angrydeeto. I am angry, it is truly my anger. I am no longer her vessel, slave, or scapegoat. Being angry is my right and it doesn't make me like her. It is okay to get mad sometimes! I find it frustrating that anger was a tool used against me, so I feared it for a long time. Anger has been a tool of transformation for me. My anger alerts me to danger and the need for change. I don't like being angry, but I do like the things I learn from anger when I am open to it without shame. >> This is kind of a lightbulb moment, because it's like getting to > know a part of the " real me " . And I'm so relieved to discover this > part of me. I'm not afraid of my anger, and that means I can express > it and still be responsible for it. I don't have to deny my own > anger, because I know it now, I can tell the difference between what > is mine and what she gave me. I'd always try to hold it in because I > was so afraid of it, but in reality I was trying to contain HER > anger, her black rage, which is exactly what she wants me to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 17, 2004 Report Share Posted August 17, 2004 I like the way you put it, " anger without shame " . Like you, I was afraid of anger, but we were also taught to be ashamed of it, that nada's anger was the only anger allowed. I could never quite stamp it down in myself, so it became a mixture of anger, fear, and shame. No wonder I've had such a hard time with it! > That sort of revelation is how I earned my moniker angrydeeto. I am > angry, it is truly my anger. I am no longer her vessel, slave, or > scapegoat. Being angry is my right and it doesn't make me like her. > It is okay to get mad sometimes! I find it frustrating that anger was > a tool used against me, so I feared it for a long time. Anger has > been a tool of transformation for me. My anger alerts me to danger > and the need for change. I don't like being angry, but I do like the > things I learn from anger when I am open to it without shame. > > > >> This is kind of a lightbulb moment, because it's like getting to > > know a part of the " real me " . And I'm so relieved to discover this > > part of me. I'm not afraid of my anger, and that means I can > express > > it and still be responsible for it. I don't have to deny my own > > anger, because I know it now, I can tell the difference between > what > > is mine and what she gave me. I'd always try to hold it in because > I > > was so afraid of it, but in reality I was trying to contain HER > > anger, her black rage, which is exactly what she wants me to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2008 Report Share Posted July 10, 2008 Hi , At my house this kind of behavior is always GI pain — could be reflux/esophagitis, gastritis, small bowel inflammation, colitis, could be anywhere. How are the poops? Has your little guy been scoped. Hope this helps. Take care, > > Anybody have a defiant angry type kid? This is my little guy lately, > mean, angry, head banging the walls like crazy to get a reaction out of > us, complaining, just mad and anxiety ridden about everything. Non > verbal too so this is all the more frustrating. Is there an anger > management supplement? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2008 Report Share Posted July 10, 2008 Hi , At my house this kind of behavior is always GI pain — could be reflux/esophagitis, gastritis, small bowel inflammation, colitis, could be anywhere. How are the poops? Has your little guy been scoped. Hope this helps. Take care, > > Anybody have a defiant angry type kid? This is my little guy lately, > mean, angry, head banging the walls like crazy to get a reaction out of > us, complaining, just mad and anxiety ridden about everything. Non > verbal too so this is all the more frustrating. Is there an anger > management supplement? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 10, 2008 Report Share Posted July 10, 2008 Hi , At my house this kind of behavior is always GI pain — could be reflux/esophagitis, gastritis, small bowel inflammation, colitis, could be anywhere. How are the poops? Has your little guy been scoped. Hope this helps. Take care, > > Anybody have a defiant angry type kid? This is my little guy lately, > mean, angry, head banging the walls like crazy to get a reaction out of > us, complaining, just mad and anxiety ridden about everything. Non > verbal too so this is all the more frustrating. Is there an anger > management supplement? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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