Re: Why is it so hard for him to remember

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i have that same problem only its with my eldest daughter (my sons dad isn't in the picture) but she knows that he need time to transition into something else and cant just hop from one thing to another like she can. i have to keep reminding her that he isn't normal and has to have patience to deal with him. i made the mistake tonight by deciding i was going to take a walk and leave Andy with another adult in charge all the way up there i was panicking thinking about what was going to happen and no sooner than i got halfway back i got a call and sure enough the sitter had problems with him and he wound up having a meltdown. her son kept bothering mine after having been asked not to so my son smacked his harm to get him to leave him alone so my son got in trouble after he had his meltdown because the sitter didn't remember that he doesn't like to be touched I mean wth? its easy to remember she is told everyday. id like to know when people will start remembering.

Our daughter is 15 yrs old and has NEVER been able to transition well. Last night my husband politely told our daughter to go clean her room for 30 minutes before they went to the movies. He was surprised when she melted down. Seriously? When has that ever worked!? Then he gets mad and raises his voice at her because she she is crying. Huh? How does that help? Anyway, she was busy watching cartoons and couldn't just stop in the middle so she was frustrated that he was making her. Duh! Yes, I'd love it if we could just ask her to do something and she would do it but I'm not delusional, it will probably never happen. It's really easy to get her to clean her room. 1. State what has to be done. 2. Give a timeframe that it has to be done in. 3. State the consequences that will happen if it is not done. 4. Leave her alone to do it. It is SO easy why can't he remember?! " You need to clean your room by bedtime tonight. If it's not done then you will loose all electronics until it is done. " Simple. Easy. Effective. No arguments...just compliance. She finishes doing what she is doing and then cleans her room. Done peacefully.

 

I reminded him that she doesn't transition like that and yada yada yada. So now he feels like the south end of a north bound donkey. I wouldn't be so irritated but I had a massive migraine so I couldn't even leave the dark, (kind of) quiet bedroom.  I had to listen to it through the walls and couldn't do much about it.

 

Sorry, just had to vent a little!

 

 

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My now 26 yr. old used to have night terrors. One night when meltdown stopped, with my son in the room, my husband started to pack a suitcase and he told us he was leaving. It took my son a LONG time to recover from that night. My husband, of course, did not leave. He just doesn't get our son. Sometimes, I wish he would have left. From: Reifeiss

To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 12:13 AM Subject: Re: Why is it so hard for him to remember

i have that same problem only its with my eldest daughter (my sons dad isn't in the picture) but she knows that he need time to transition into something else and cant just hop from one thing to another like she can. i have to keep reminding her that he isn't normal and has to have patience to deal with him. i made the mistake tonight by deciding i was going to take a walk and leave Andy with another adult in charge all the way up there i was panicking thinking about what was going to happen and no sooner than i got halfway back i got a call and sure enough the sitter had problems with him and he wound up having a meltdown. her son kept bothering mine after having been asked not to so my son smacked his harm to get him to leave him alone so my son got in trouble after he had his meltdown because the sitter didn't remember that he doesn't like to be touched I mean wth? its easy to remember she is told everyday.

id like to know when people will start remembering.

Our daughter is 15 yrs old and has NEVER been able to transition well. Last night my husband politely told our daughter to go clean her room for 30 minutes before they went to the movies. He was surprised when she melted down. Seriously? When has that ever worked!? Then he gets mad and raises his voice at her because she she is crying. Huh? How does that help? Anyway, she was busy watching cartoons and couldn't just stop in the middle so she was frustrated that he was making her. Duh! Yes, I'd love it if we could just ask her to do something and she would do it but I'm not delusional, it will probably never happen. It's really easy to get her to clean her room. 1. State what has to be done. 2. Give a timeframe that it has to be done in. 3. State the consequences that will happen if it is not done. 4. Leave her alone to do it. It is SO easy why can't he remember?! "You need to clean your room by bedtime tonight. If it's not done then

you will loose all electronics until it is done." Simple. Easy. Effective. No arguments...just compliance. She finishes doing what she is doing and then cleans her room. Done peacefully.

I reminded him that she doesn't transition like that and yada yada yada. So now he feels like the south end of a north bound donkey. I wouldn't be so irritated but I had a massive migraine so I couldn't even leave the dark, (kind of) quiet bedroom. I had to listen to it through the walls and couldn't do much about it.

Sorry, just had to vent a little!

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

-- Loved and Lost Him to Iraq! CrazyMissKitty aka m>^..^<mSAHM to Tara 6/85 and Andy (Bear) 7/98 MUM MUM to JaidenDawn (JD) 6/07 Yahoo = crazymisskitty

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Yeah, like husbands even !

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: Why is it so hard for him to remember

 

i have that same problem only its with my eldest daughter (my sons dad isn't in

the picture) but she knows that he need time to transition into something else

and cant just hop from one thing to another like she can. i have to keep

reminding her that he isn't normal and has to have patience to deal with him. i

made the mistake tonight by deciding i was going to take a walk and leave Andy

with another adult in charge all the way up there i was panicking thinking about

what was going to happen and no sooner than i got halfway back i got a call and

sure enough the sitter had problems with him and he wound up having a meltdown.

her son kept bothering mine after having been asked not to so my son smacked his

harm to get him to leave him alone so my son got in trouble after he had his

meltdown because the sitter didn't remember that he doesn't like to be touched I

mean wth? its easy to remember she is told everyday. id like to know when people

will start remembering.

Our daughter is 15 yrs old and has NEVER been able to transition well. Last

night my husband politely told our daughter to go clean her room for 30

minutes before they went to the movies. He was surprised when she melted down.

Seriously? When has that ever worked!? Then he gets mad and raises his voice at

her because she she is crying. Huh? How does that help? Anyway, she was busy

watching cartoons and couldn't just stop in the middle so she was frustrated

that he was making her. Duh! Yes, I'd love it if we could just ask her to do

something and she would do it but I'm not delusional, it will probably never

happen. It's really easy to get her to clean her room. 1. State what has to be

done. 2. Give a timeframe that it has to be done in. 3. State the consequences

that will happen if it is not done. 4. Leave her alone to do it. It is SO easy

why can't he remember?! " You need to clean your room by bedtime tonight. If it's

not done then you will loose all electronics until it is done. " Simple. Easy.

Effective. No arguments...just compliance. She finishes doing what she is doing

and then cleans her room. Done peacefully.

 

I reminded him that she doesn't transition like that and yada yada yada. So

now he feels like the south end of a north bound donkey. I wouldn't be so

irritated but I had a massive migraine so I couldn't even leave the dark, (kind

of) quiet bedroom.  I had to listen to it through the walls and couldn't do

much about it.

 

Sorry, just had to vent a little!

 

 

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

--

Loved and Lost Him to Iraq! 

CrazyMissKitty aka m>^..^<m

SAHM to Tara 6/85 and Andy (Bear) 7/98

MUM MUM to JaidenDawn (JD) 6/07

Yahoo = crazymisskitty

MSN messenger = mama_r@...

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It's not just husbands.  That's all I have to say

 

Yeah, like husbands even !

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: Why is it so hard for him

to remember

 

i have that same problem only its with my eldest daughter

(my sons dad isn't in the picture) but she knows that he

need time to transition into something else and cant just

hop from one thing to another like she can. i have to keep

reminding her that he isn't normal and has to have

patience to deal with him. i made the mistake tonight by

deciding i was going to take a walk and leave Andy with

another adult in charge all the way up there i was

panicking thinking about what was going to happen and no

sooner than i got halfway back i got a call and sure

enough the sitter had problems with him and he wound up

having a meltdown. her son kept bothering mine after

having been asked not to so my son smacked his harm to get

him to leave him alone so my son got in trouble after he

had his meltdown because the sitter didn't remember that

he doesn't like to be touched I mean wth? its easy to

remember she is told everyday. id like to know when people

will start remembering.

On Wed, Apr 25, 2012 at 11:00 PM, Muehleisen Family

wrote:

Our daughter is 15 yrs old and has NEVER been able to

transition well. Last night my husband politely told our

daughter to go clean her room for 30 minutes before they

went to the movies. He was surprised when she melted down.

Seriously? When has that ever worked!? Then he gets mad

and raises his voice at her because she she is crying.

Huh? How does that help? Anyway, she was busy watching

cartoons and couldn't just stop in the middle so she was

frustrated that he was making her. Duh! Yes, I'd love it

if we could just ask her to do something and she would do

it but I'm not delusional, it will probably never happen.

It's really easy to get her to clean her room. 1. State

what has to be done. 2. Give a timeframe that it has to be

done in. 3. State the consequences that will happen if it

is not done. 4. Leave her alone to do it. It is SO easy

why can't he remember?! "You need to clean your room by

bedtime tonight. If it's not done then you will loose all

electronics until it is done." Simple. Easy. Effective. No

arguments...just compliance. She finishes doing what she

is doing and then cleans her room. Done peacefully.

 

I reminded him that she doesn't transition like that and

yada yada yada. So now he feels like the south end of a

north bound donkey. I wouldn't be so irritated but I had a

massive migraine so I couldn't even leave the dark, (kind

of) quiet bedroom.  I had to listen to it through the

walls and couldn't do much about it.

 

Sorry, just had to vent a little!

 

 

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for

you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

--

Loved and Lost Him to Iraq! 

CrazyMissKitty aka m>^..^<m

SAHM to Tara 6/85 and Andy (Bear) 7/98

MUM MUM to JaidenDawn (JD) 6/07

Yahoo = crazymisskitty

MSN messenger = mama_r@...

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Yes, sorry, not just husbands. You understand I was speaking from my own personal experience. No offense! To: autism-aspergers Sent: Thursday, April 26, 2012 7:36 AM Subject: Re: Why is it so hard for him to remember

It's not just husbands. That's all I have to say

Yeah, like husbands even !

--- Original Message ---

Sent: April 26, 2012 4/26/12

To: autism-aspergers

Subject: Re: Why is it so hard for him

to remember

i have that same problem only its with my eldest daughter

(my sons dad isn't in the picture) but she knows that he

need time to transition into something else and cant just

hop from one thing to another like she can. i have to keep

reminding her that he isn't normal and has to have

patience to deal with him. i made the mistake tonight by

deciding i was going to take a walk and leave Andy with

another adult in charge all the way up there i was

panicking thinking about what was going to happen and no

sooner than i got halfway back i got a call and sure

enough the sitter had problems with him and he wound up

having a meltdown. her son kept bothering mine after

having been asked not to so my son smacked his harm to get

him to leave him alone so my son got in trouble after he

had his meltdown because the sitter didn't remember that

he doesn't like to be touched I mean wth? its easy to

remember she is told everyday. id like to know when people

will start remembering.

On Wed, Apr 25, 2012 at 11:00 PM, Muehleisen Family

wrote:

Our daughter is 15 yrs old and has NEVER been able to

transition well. Last night my husband politely told our

daughter to go clean her room for 30 minutes before they

went to the movies. He was surprised when she melted down.

Seriously? When has that ever worked!? Then he gets mad

and raises his voice at her because she she is crying.

Huh? How does that help? Anyway, she was busy watching

cartoons and couldn't just stop in the middle so she was

frustrated that he was making her. Duh! Yes, I'd love it

if we could just ask her to do something and she would do

it but I'm not delusional, it will probably never happen.

It's really easy to get her to clean her room. 1. State

what has to be done. 2. Give a timeframe that it has to be

done in. 3. State the consequences that will happen if it

is not done. 4. Leave her alone to do it. It is SO easy

why can't he remember?! "You need to clean your room by

bedtime tonight. If it's not done then you will loose all

electronics until it is done." Simple. Easy. Effective. No

arguments...just compliance. She finishes doing what she

is doing and then cleans her room. Done peacefully.

I reminded him that she doesn't transition like that and

yada yada yada. So now he feels like the south end of a

north bound donkey. I wouldn't be so irritated but I had a

massive migraine so I couldn't even leave the dark, (kind

of) quiet bedroom. I had to listen to it through the

walls and couldn't do much about it.

Sorry, just had to vent a little!

  Only two defining forces have ever offered to die for

you;

Jesus Christ and the American Soldier.

One died for your soul; the other for your freedom.

--

Loved and Lost Him to Iraq!

CrazyMissKitty aka m>^..^<m

SAHM to Tara 6/85 and Andy (Bear) 7/98

MUM MUM to JaidenDawn (JD) 6/07

Yahoo = crazymisskitty

MSN messenger = mama_r@...

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