Re: I give up...... sensory issues, the upside of aspergers...

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I could really identify with this post.   My oldest (now 16) was

exactly the same way.      First I held him, then I put him in the

front pack, then, thankfully, he was big enough for a backpack.

The backpack was great--- I could get all sorts of things done while

I carried him in it.    He slept with me and was my constant

companion.   And my patient pediatrician got so many

calls about his non stop screaming--- I was convinced so many times

that something was horribly wrong.     When I was expecting #2, my

toddler's need to be held became a problem

and led to premature labor and bedrest.  Thankfully the second child

was the answer to all of our prayers--- the two were inseparable for

years.    

Flash forward to my now 6 1/2 year old.    Very similar to #1, in

many ways.   Has been joined at the hip with me for 6 years!   When

we go to church, he still spends the

time cuddled in my lap.   Kindergarten last year was very hard

because he just wanted to be with mom.    This is just how he is--- 

it's a fundamental need; not the result

of coddling.   I have to explain to my other children that he simply

has a special need.   In many ways he is fiercely independent, but

not in this area.

About the pain / hot and cold sense ---   my 16 year old will come

home from school mad because he wore a sweater in the morning and

was hot the rest of the day.

It never occurs to him to take it off.   Most of the time he solves

the problem by simply not wearing a sweater or sweatshirt, even if

it's cold.    When he was little,

I would worry about him at night because if he kicked the blanket

off, he didn't have that sense to pull it back over himself.   

Related to this, I guess--    when he eats, we have to remind him

constantly to wipe his face.    He can have food all over his face

and won't have a clue.  This happens on

a regular basis.

Having a child with Aspergers can be such a huge worry.   And then

there are times when you realize how special and blessed your child

is.... 

   

    "Mom , look----  I caught this egg right when the chicken laid

it!"  (it's still warm)

    

......   sent him to dispose of a dead baby possum behind the

garage.  He sat there for about half an hour and finally came to me

saying "that possum was beautiful, Mom."

----  at bed time, he disappeared for about 45 minutes.  finally

found him sitting in a laundry basket in the laundry room--- he had

gotten distracted while looking

for PJ,'s I guess.   "What the heck are you doing?"     "Oh, just

thinking about things.... formulas and stuff."      "I hope this is

how Einstein's mother felt!"

Cheers!

 

I missed that pouch after Ben started walking.  When

your kid sleeps regularly for 4 hours a day (2am-6am) and

needs to be either held, sitting on your lap, or within

5cm of you at all times when he is awake, you get a bit

inventive.  You can do most things while holding a child. 

Although it is probably no surprise we didn't have another

for 3 years, and then it came as a surprise to both of

us.  And I agree - they won't stop crying, and they won't

eat the food, no matter how long you wait.

 

That sounds like my .  I couldn't put

him down either.  I told my cousin that I wore the

front pouch thing to do my chores just so that he

was happy.  She said she's put him down and let

him scream......that is like the theory you hear

about food....."if they are hungry enough they'll

eat"  ummmm.....no, mine will keep screaming and

he'll starve too. 

 

From:

sara degeer

To:

autism-aspergers

Sent:

Tuesday, April 24, 2012 8:20 PM

Subject:

Re: I give up......

 

Yeah, I attached a picture of colton when

he fell into the table. And he just simply

looked at me like what the hell is that

table doing there? And walked off. Coltons

younger brother will be 3 months old

tomorrow and I literally can not put him

down fir even a second or hes screaming

his head off. Almost like hes in pain its

very strange and he has a milk allergy and

hes got acid reflux, so he has to sit up

all the time.

------------------------------

On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 7:44 PM EDT

Riley wrote:

>I think it may be a matter of not

being engaged with our own bodies. I know

if I get up in the morning and it is cold

and I dress warmly, if it comes out warm -

even if it gets over 30C - I probably

won't notice i need to remove any clothes.

I have also been known to dress for warm

weather and then need reminding (this is

why we have mothers and wives ) to put

something else on. I don't always notice

small things that cause pain. I am just

focused on other things. My son is much

the same. But when it comes to emotional

or mental discomfort - that is another

thing! My son cried almost constantly if

not being held for the first 10 months of

his life. But after that, if he fell over,

sometimes he cried, sometimes he didn't.

Usually not much at all - nothing like

from the distress of not being held. He

took years to learn to put out his hands

to break his fall, but even when he put

his teeth through his lips and there was

blood everywhere, it

was more a whimper than a cry. The only

time he really cried was if he couldn't

see me when it happened. Once I was there,

it was fine.

>

>Strange thing is, if I cut my nails

and there is even the slightest 'catch' on

anything it drives me mad. My wife has

often commented I fuss over my nails worse

than any woman. It's just that if they are

not smooth, then any contact with anything

is like fingernails screeching on a

blackboard. Did anyone else have a teacher

who did that to get attention? Not sure

how I survived a year without getting up

and hitting her hard. Maybe because I was

only 7 at the time

>

>

>

>On 25/04/2012 8:46 AM, Ristau

wrote:

>> �Just piggy-backing on what

said- my son with Asperger's has an

incredibly high tolerance for pain.� He's

now 10. If he cried (as a baby, toddler,

or even now) we knew it was very bad...

usually involving blood or worse.� It's

bizarre the level of pain he can handle!!�

>>

>>

>> On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 at 3:57 PM,

sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

wrote:

>>

>> �

>> [Attachment(s)

<#136e5ee3c4d375be_TopText> from

sara degeer

>> included below]

>> Yes he rocks all the time It took

the sores a couple months to

>> heal because he would keep

rocking. Colton has a very high pain

>> tolerance as well just the other

day he was sitting in my lap and

>> started throwing a fit and did

the limp noodle thing and slid out

>> of my lap and when his knees hit

the floor he kinda lunged forward

>> and hit his forehead on the

coffee table that is in the videos and

>> didn't even cry. Just looked at

me funny and walked away with a

>> lump sticking out of his head

about a 1/4 of an inch. It was huge

>> and he should've cried. Here is a

picture of it seconds after it

>> happened. He was more upset that

I was trying to hold him still to

>> take the pic.

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* and <alexandriairma@...

>>

>> *To:* "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

3:47 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> You mentioned the scars on his

back from rocking? When the scars

>> are sores does it stop him from

rocking? My daughter has what I

>> think is an incredibly high

tolerance for pain. When she has

>> skinned her knees and does this

weird sound thing but won't cry.

>> She does freak out at the sight

of blood even if it is not her

>> own. I think it is all part of

the sensory issues.�

>>

>> Ella did not speak until after

her second birthday, but she did a

>> lot of stuff early. When she

finally did speak she was very

>> articulate (well for a 26 -27

month old) if you or anyone wants to

>> look at her videos let me know, I

will give you the link.

>>

>> As for toys Ella has/has

the�opposite�of the Midas Touch, she

>> intentionally took apart or broke

most of her toys.�

>> �

>> */If guns kill people then

pencils cause misspelled words/*

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

>>

>> *To:* "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

1:35 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> No Colton doesn't talk. He

babbles like a little baby, but no real

>> words. He talks to himself almost

constantly. And the rocking is

>> all day and all night. He has

scars from rocking, on his back he

>> has like these lesion things from

rocking against hard surfaces

>> and it wont ever heal cause he

continues to do it so often. I have

>> been trying to get him to point

at stuff since before he was a

>> year old. And I wish he played

normal with his toys seeing as how

>> he has so many of them. I feel

like half the time we just waste

>> our money on toys because he

doesn't play with them instead he

>> just carries them around the

house in his hand and/or throws them

>> at people.�

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* Lori Yurtin <loriyurtin@...

>>

>> *To:* autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

2:06 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> One more thing. �He is darling!

�And, although in isolation,

>> rocking and spinning can be

perfectly normal...if he isn't

>> talking...isn't

pointing...doesn't play appropiately with

most

>> toys...doesn't reference....etc,

etc...he is on the spectrum.

>> �Please don't doubt yourself. �If

I waited, my son would never

>> have learned to talk...NEVER! �My

son also is "gifted" but has

>> classic autism. �And, he is

currently mainstreamed in 3rd grade.

>> �I may homeschool him next year,

though. �

>>

>>

>>

>> Please BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump

Street! It makes fun of those

>> with autism!

>> https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> From: sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

>>

>> Subject: I

give up......

>> To: "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012,

10:48 AM

>>

>> �

>> So for the last 7 weeks that

Coltons therapist has been coming

>> to see him he has only showed up

3 times. He is suppose to

>> come once a week for an hour.

When he cancels he texts me

>> minutes away from the appt. time.

Which I find ridiculous. So

>> I called yesterday to have Early

Steps try and get me a

>> different Therapist. And to have

Colton tested for ASD. And to

>> get him into a Gifted school.

They accept children that have

>> anything from developmental

delays to Severe Retardation. And

>> you can start at 18 months old.

Everything went good til

>> today. When The old Therapist

comes to my house and is like

>> well can you tell me why I'm not

on your case anymore? And I

>> calmly explained to him that I

need someone more reliable. He

>> mentioned that I should not seek

a dx and that I should wait a

>> few years if I am told to do so.

And then he goes on to talk

>> about how everyone at the office

is "talking" about "certain

>> parents" that only want their

child dx so they can receive

>> government benefits. And said

that they don't say names cause

>> they aren't allowed to but didn't

think any of it was about

>> me. I in no way shape or form

want anything from the

>> government only the right kind of

care for my child. I am

>> extremely hurt by what he said.

And Think that you know maybe

>> there isn't anything wrong with

him. Maybe he's just weird and

>> quirky. I can't stop thinking

about it. I don't know what to

>> do. I am really starting to

question if there is anything

>> wrong at all. :-/

>>

>>

>> P.S. This is my Son

>> Colton�http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

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I like that one about the opossum. Lol. Well Peyton has been doing pretty good the past few days he now will let me put him on the floor on his back to talk to him and he has started laughing, it's adorable btw. And after a while of playing ,singing and laughing I just get up and he will sit and watch sprout for about an hour then it's bottle time and nap. To: autism-aspergers

Sent: Thursday, May 3, 2012 4:54 AM Subject: Re: I give up...... sensory issues, the upside of aspergers...

I could really identify with this post. My oldest (now 16) was

exactly the same way. First I held him, then I put him in the

front pack, then, thankfully, he was big enough for a backpack.

The backpack was great--- I could get all sorts of things done while

I carried him in it. He slept with me and was my constant

companion. And my patient pediatrician got so many

calls about his non stop screaming--- I was convinced so many times

that something was horribly wrong. When I was expecting #2, my

toddler's need to be held became a problem

and led to premature labor and bedrest. Thankfully the second child

was the answer to all of our prayers--- the two were inseparable for

years.

Flash forward to my now 6 1/2 year old. Very similar to #1, in

many ways. Has been joined at the hip with me for 6 years! When

we go to church, he still spends the

time cuddled in my lap. Kindergarten last year was very hard

because he just wanted to be with mom. This is just how he is---

it's a fundamental need; not the result

of coddling. I have to explain to my other children that he simply

has a special need. In many ways he is fiercely independent, but

not in this area.

About the pain / hot and cold sense --- my 16 year old will come

home from school mad because he wore a sweater in the morning and

was hot the rest of the day.

It never occurs to him to take it off. Most of the time he solves

the problem by simply not wearing a sweater or sweatshirt, even if

it's cold. When he was little,

I would worry about him at night because if he kicked the blanket

off, he didn't have that sense to pull it back over himself.

Related to this, I guess-- when he eats, we have to remind him

constantly to wipe his face. He can have food all over his face

and won't have a clue. This happens on

a regular basis.

Having a child with Aspergers can be such a huge worry. And then

there are times when you realize how special and blessed your child

is....

"Mom , look---- I caught this egg right when the chicken laid

it!" (it's still warm)

...... sent him to dispose of a dead baby possum behind the

garage. He sat there for about half an hour and finally came to me

saying "that possum was beautiful, Mom."

---- at bed time, he disappeared for about 45 minutes. finally

found him sitting in a laundry basket in the laundry room--- he had

gotten distracted while looking

for PJ,'s I guess. "What the heck are you doing?" "Oh, just

thinking about things.... formulas and stuff." "I hope this is

how Einstein's mother felt!"

Cheers!

I missed that pouch after Ben started walking. When

your kid sleeps regularly for 4 hours a day (2am-6am) and

needs to be either held, sitting on your lap, or within

5cm of you at all times when he is awake, you get a bit

inventive. You can do most things while holding a child.

Although it is probably no surprise we didn't have another

for 3 years, and then it came as a surprise to both of

us. And I agree - they won't stop crying, and they won't

eat the food, no matter how long you wait.

That sounds like my . I couldn't put

him down either. I told my cousin that I wore the

front pouch thing to do my chores just so that he

was happy. She said she's put him down and let

him scream......that is like the theory you hear

about food....."if they are hungry enough they'll

eat" ummmm.....no, mine will keep screaming and

he'll starve too.

From:

sara degeer

To:

autism-aspergers

Sent:

Tuesday, April 24, 2012 8:20 PM

Subject:

Re: I give up......

Yeah, I attached a picture of colton when

he fell into the table. And he just simply

looked at me like what the hell is that

table doing there? And walked off. Coltons

younger brother will be 3 months old

tomorrow and I literally can not put him

down fir even a second or hes screaming

his head off. Almost like hes in pain its

very strange and he has a milk allergy and

hes got acid reflux, so he has to sit up

all the time.

------------------------------

On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 7:44 PM EDT

Riley wrote:

>I think it may be a matter of not

being engaged with our own bodies. I know

if I get up in the morning and it is cold

and I dress warmly, if it comes out warm -

even if it gets over 30C - I probably

won't notice i need to remove any clothes.

I have also been known to dress for warm

weather and then need reminding (this is

why we have mothers and wives ) to put

something else on. I don't always notice

small things that cause pain. I am just

focused on other things. My son is much

the same. But when it comes to emotional

or mental discomfort - that is another

thing! My son cried almost constantly if

not being held for the first 10 months of

his life. But after that, if he fell over,

sometimes he cried, sometimes he didn't.

Usually not much at all - nothing like

from the distress of not being held. He

took years to learn to put out his hands

to break his fall, but even when he put

his teeth through his lips and there was

blood everywhere, it

was more a whimper than a cry. The only

time he really cried was if he couldn't

see me when it happened. Once I was there,

it was fine.

>

>Strange thing is, if I cut my nails

and there is even the slightest 'catch' on

anything it drives me mad. My wife has

often commented I fuss over my nails worse

than any woman. It's just that if they are

not smooth, then any contact with anything

is like fingernails screeching on a

blackboard. Did anyone else have a teacher

who did that to get attention? Not sure

how I survived a year without getting up

and hitting her hard. Maybe because I was

only 7 at the time

>

>

>

>On 25/04/2012 8:46 AM, Ristau

wrote:

>> �Just piggy-backing on what

said- my son with Asperger's has an

incredibly high tolerance for pain.� He's

now 10. If he cried (as a baby, toddler,

or even now) we knew it was very bad...

usually involving blood or worse.� It's

bizarre the level of pain he can handle!!�

>>

>>

>> On Tue, Apr 24, 2012 at 3:57 PM,

sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

wrote:

>>

>> �

>> [Attachment(s)

<#136e5ee3c4d375be_TopText> from

sara degeer

>> included below]

>> Yes he rocks all the time It took

the sores a couple months to

>> heal because he would keep

rocking. Colton has a very high pain

>> tolerance as well just the other

day he was sitting in my lap and

>> started throwing a fit and did

the limp noodle thing and slid out

>> of my lap and when his knees hit

the floor he kinda lunged forward

>> and hit his forehead on the

coffee table that is in the videos and

>> didn't even cry. Just looked at

me funny and walked away with a

>> lump sticking out of his head

about a 1/4 of an inch. It was huge

>> and he should've cried. Here is a

picture of it seconds after it

>> happened. He was more upset that

I was trying to hold him still to

>> take the pic.

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* and <alexandriairma@...

>>

>> *To:* "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

3:47 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> You mentioned the scars on his

back from rocking? When the scars

>> are sores does it stop him from

rocking? My daughter has what I

>> think is an incredibly high

tolerance for pain. When she has

>> skinned her knees and does this

weird sound thing but won't cry.

>> She does freak out at the sight

of blood even if it is not her

>> own. I think it is all part of

the sensory issues.�

>>

>> Ella did not speak until after

her second birthday, but she did a

>> lot of stuff early. When she

finally did speak she was very

>> articulate (well for a 26 -27

month old) if you or anyone wants to

>> look at her videos let me know, I

will give you the link.

>>

>> As for toys Ella has/has

the�opposite�of the Midas Touch, she

>> intentionally took apart or broke

most of her toys.�

>> �

>> */If guns kill people then

pencils cause misspelled words/*

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

>>

>> *To:* "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

1:35 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> No Colton doesn't talk. He

babbles like a little baby, but no real

>> words. He talks to himself almost

constantly. And the rocking is

>> all day and all night. He has

scars from rocking, on his back he

>> has like these lesion things from

rocking against hard surfaces

>> and it wont ever heal cause he

continues to do it so often. I have

>> been trying to get him to point

at stuff since before he was a

>> year old. And I wish he played

normal with his toys seeing as how

>> he has so many of them. I feel

like half the time we just waste

>> our money on toys because he

doesn't play with them instead he

>> just carries them around the

house in his hand and/or throws them

>> at people.�

>>

>>

----------------------------------------------------------

>> *From:* Lori Yurtin <loriyurtin@...

>>

>> *To:* autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> *Sent:* Tuesday, April 24, 2012

2:06 PM

>> *Subject:* Re:

I give up......

>>

>> �

>> One more thing. �He is darling!

�And, although in isolation,

>> rocking and spinning can be

perfectly normal...if he isn't

>> talking...isn't

pointing...doesn't play appropiately with

most

>> toys...doesn't reference....etc,

etc...he is on the spectrum.

>> �Please don't doubt yourself. �If

I waited, my son would never

>> have learned to talk...NEVER! �My

son also is "gifted" but has

>> classic autism. �And, he is

currently mainstreamed in 3rd grade.

>> �I may homeschool him next year,

though. �

>>

>>

>>

>> Please BOYCOTT the movie 21 Jump

Street! It makes fun of those

>> with autism!

>> https://www.facebook.com/BoycottMovie21JumpStreetForAutism

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> From: sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

>>

>> Subject: I

give up......

>> To: "autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >"

>> <autism-aspergers

>> <mailto:autism-aspergers >

>> Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012,

10:48 AM

>>

>> �

>> So for the last 7 weeks that

Coltons therapist has been coming

>> to see him he has only showed up

3 times. He is suppose to

>> come once a week for an hour.

When he cancels he texts me

>> minutes away from the appt. time.

Which I find ridiculous. So

>> I called yesterday to have Early

Steps try and get me a

>> different Therapist. And to have

Colton tested for ASD. And to

>> get him into a Gifted school.

They accept children that have

>> anything from developmental

delays to Severe Retardation. And

>> you can start at 18 months old.

Everything went good til

>> today. When The old Therapist

comes to my house and is like

>> well can you tell me why I'm not

on your case anymore? And I

>> calmly explained to him that I

need someone more reliable. He

>> mentioned that I should not seek

a dx and that I should wait a

>> few years if I am told to do so.

And then he goes on to talk

>> about how everyone at the office

is "talking" about "certain

>> parents" that only want their

child dx so they can receive

>> government benefits. And said

that they don't say names cause

>> they aren't allowed to but didn't

think any of it was about

>> me. I in no way shape or form

want anything from the

>> government only the right kind of

care for my child. I am

>> extremely hurt by what he said.

And Think that you know maybe

>> there isn't anything wrong with

him. Maybe he's just weird and

>> quirky. I can't stop thinking

about it. I don't know what to

>> do. I am really starting to

question if there is anything

>> wrong at all. :-/

>>

>>

>> P.S. This is my Son

>> Colton�http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>> No virus found in this message.

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[Guest guest]

I love your stories " " Mom , look---- I caught this egg right when the

chicken laid

> it! " (it's still warm)

>

> ..... sent him to dispose of a dead baby possum behind the garage. He

> sat there for about half an hour and finally came to me saying " that

> possum was beautiful, Mom. "

>

> ---- at bed time, he disappeared for about 45 minutes. finally found

> him sitting in a laundry basket in the laundry room--- he had gotten

> distracted while looking

> for PJ,'s I guess. " What the heck are you doing? " " Oh, just

> thinking about things.... formulas and stuff. " " I hope this is how

> Einstein's mother felt! " "

In one of my classes last year, a mother that had a son with Asperger's shared a

story...She said her son came home from school and said, " The coyotes scared

me. " She asked him where he had seen or heard coyotes and had trouble finding

the connection between the coyotes and his getting off the bus from school.

Finally the story came out that he was recalling the night before when he had

taken the trash outside. He heard coyotes off in the distance. He had forgotten

that she had no idea what he had been thinking. Apparently he did that often...

****************************

> >> >>

> >> >>

> >> >> From: sara degeer <bradleysmommy1@...

> >> <mailto:bradleysmommy1%40yahoo.com>

> >> >> <mailto:bradleysmommy1@... <mailto:bradleysmommy1%40yahoo.com>>

> >> >> Subject: I give up......

> >> >> To: " autism-aspergers

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> >> >> <mailto:autism-aspergers

> >> <mailto:autism-aspergers%40yahoogroups.com>> "

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> >> >> <mailto:autism-aspergers

> >> <mailto:autism-aspergers%40yahoogroups.com>>

> >> >> Date: Tuesday, April 24, 2012, 10:48 AM

> >> >>

> >> >> �

> >> >> So for the last 7 weeks that Coltons therapist has been coming

> >> >> to see him he has only showed up 3 times. He is suppose to

> >> >> come once a week for an hour. When he cancels he texts me

> >> >> minutes away from the appt. time. Which I find ridiculous. So

> >> >> I called yesterday to have Early Steps try and get me a

> >> >> different Therapist. And to have Colton tested for ASD. And to

> >> >> get him into a Gifted school. They accept children that have

> >> >> anything from developmental delays to Severe Retardation. And

> >> >> you can start at 18 months old. Everything went good til

> >> >> today. When The old Therapist comes to my house and is like

> >> >> well can you tell me why I'm not on your case anymore? And I

> >> >> calmly explained to him that I need someone more reliable. He

> >> >> mentioned that I should not seek a dx and that I should wait a

> >> >> few years if I am told to do so. And then he goes on to talk

> >> >> about how everyone at the office is " talking " about " certain

> >> >> parents " that only want their child dx so they can receive

> >> >> government benefits. And said that they don't say names cause

> >> >> they aren't allowed to but didn't think any of it was about

> >> >> me. I in no way shape or form want anything from the

> >> >> government only the right kind of care for my child. I am

> >> >> extremely hurt by what he said. And Think that you know maybe

> >> >> there isn't anything wrong with him. Maybe he's just weird and

> >> >> quirky. I can't stop thinking about it. I don't know what to

> >> >> do. I am really starting to question if there is anything

> >> >> wrong at all. :-/

> >> >>

> >> >>

> >> >> P.S. This is my Son

> >> >> Colton�http://www.youtube.com/user/bradleysmommy1?feature=mhee

> >> >>

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[Guest guest]

I still do that.  It is all very clear in my mind how what I am

saying is connected to what I am thinking, or what I said before -

or two weeks ago.  It may have something to do with theory of mind. 

 

In one of my classes last year, a mother that had a son

with Asperger's shared a story...She said her son came

home from school and said, "The coyotes scared me." She

asked him where he had seen or heard coyotes and had

trouble finding the connection between the coyotes and his

getting off the bus from school. Finally the story came

out that he was recalling the night before when he had

taken the trash outside. He heard coyotes off in the

distance. He had forgotten that she had no idea what he

had been thinking. Apparently he did that often...

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[Guest guest]

Our daughter did that often as well and sometimes even at 25 years old, she

still verbally processes long after the fact. It's just how kids with aspergers

are wired. Rhoda

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>I still do that. It is all very clear in my mind how what I am saying is

connected to what I am thinking, or what I said before - or two weeks ago. It

may have something to do with theory of mind.

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>> In one of my classes last year, a mother that had a son with Asperger's

shared a story...She said her son came home from school and said, " The coyotes

scared me. " She asked him where he had seen or heard coyotes and had trouble

finding the connection between the coyotes and his getting off the bus from

school. Finally the story came out that he was recalling the night before when

he had taken the trash outside. He heard coyotes off in the distance. He had

forgotten that she had no idea what he had been thinking. Apparently he did that

often...

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