Re: Jeff

[Guest guest]

Jeff,

I'm really sorry to hear what happened with your friend! Hopefully

she will come around and realize that you only meant it in a caring

way *crossing my fingers that that's how you put it to her at the

time* and not as an insult.

Women tend to be extremely sensitive about their weight, and ANY

perceived slight can really be blown out of proportion. I know you

are hurt right now, but maybe in a few days you could try to talk to

her and tell her that you were just excited about the program and

that you didn't mean to imply that she was a bigfatcow by

recommending it. OR, on the other hand if she is really heavy, I

guess at this point it wouldn't hurt anything to tell her you are

concerned for her health and that was your motivation.

Honestly, no one is going to do it until they are ready (to cross the

abyss, in Bill -speak). However, I have had some people

complain about being out of shape and then were insulted when I

suggested BFL as a solution. They just wanted to complain, not

actually DO anything about it. LOL

Hope everything works out okay, and if it doesn't then maybe that is

someone that you are better off without. I know that sounds harsh,

but I have BTDT and I am 100% better off without that person in my

life.

*hugs*

Jen B.

> Yesterday I lost a friendship with a woman friend after

recommending

> BFL to her. She thought I was insulting her or implying she was

> fat. (She's wigged out on me before but we've reconciled, and she

> did warn me she was " in a bitchy mood. " I can't figure her out and

> don't want to right now, but I'm aching inside.) Gotta be careful

> who you share the secret with I guess.

>

> Jeff

[Guest guest]

Jen -

No, I was mostly talking about myself and how I experience BFL. At

one point I recommended it to her and said something like it's great

for your body. She was p.o'd about a couple of other things too, but

what can ya do? I think she owes me an apology - I didn't say

anything mean or judgmental to her but she did to me. What sets

people off who you me they're " in a bitchy mood? "

Definitely - and thank you for the advice - I am NEVER again going

NEAR the weight issue with ANYone - male or female - unless they

directly ask my opinion, without being solicited or steered. It will

be hard though, because I'm really excited about how simple nutrition

really is, and how much I've learned from BFL and this group. Who

would think, back in the day, that I would know a glycemic index from

a geiger counter?

A blond moment - or in my case - balding brunet moment - BTDT?

Jeff

> > Yesterday I lost a friendship with a woman friend after

> recommending

> > BFL to her. She thought I was insulting her or implying she was

> > fat. (She's wigged out on me before but we've reconciled, and

she

> > did warn me she was " in a bitchy mood. " I can't figure her out

and

> > don't want to right now, but I'm aching inside.) Gotta be

careful

> > who you share the secret with I guess.

> >

> > Jeff