Re: While we are all here...food

[Guest guest]

Thanks BabaClay, This is all good advise, particularly distracting myself.

Most of my eating 'binges' are about feelings, not self control, or even liking

the food I eat. I can lose 10 pounds in a week, eating practically

nothing...and of course put on 10 just as easily. I'm staying within a 10-15

pound

'variable', lose/gain. I think what I'm searching for is that link to my

emotions that food satisfies. I actually like that too-full feeling, it's so

opposite of hungry in a weird way. Thanks, Carol

This is how I handle that problem:

I realize I food is emotionally satisfying; so I don't try to conquer

it. I try to cope. Like I go to the store and say to myself, " Next week I

can have pie, this week I'll have only fruit and maybe some peanut butter

honey sandwich if I get to needing sweets. If something is really

upsetting, I let myself eat for comfort. Just try to limit it

somewhat. I try to distract myself when possible, walks, email, bath,

books, movies. I find I can't stand to listen to TV broadcast news, except

BBC world, because it is too upsetting, so I get my news from the Internet,

so I'm not driven to the Fridge, vacuuming up the entire contents.

A few rules/guidelines. No permanent Nevers; nothing totally off

limits. Try and avoid stuffing myself, 'all you can eat buffets', while

amusing, must be limited to as infrequently as humanly possible. When

experiencing that completely stuffed sensation, I hold onto it, feeling how

somewhat unpleasant it feels, trying to save the memory, so as not to do it

the next day.

Doing this, I have lost about 15 lb since last summer. I figure it took

awhile to go on; it will take some time to come off.

Another thing, I try not to get to the point when I'm soooo very hungry,

'cause then I have even less control than usual. Eat oatmeal with banana

for breakfast most days.

The main principle is to be kind to myself, yet not completely giving in to

the compulsion. Give in some, draw back. Unlike drugs, alcohol, and sex,

we absolutely must have food, so we always got to make our peace with our

drives in that area.

Good luck and Best wishes,

1!1 BabaClay

[Guest guest]

Ahhhh... I know the feeling. I can go days without eating - or eat

all day. I really don't even pay attention to it that much. So I

might eat 6 meals - not thinking that I already ate - or not eat at

all without really thinking about it.

I just pretty much eat mindlessly....

So..if you don't neccessarily like the food you eat - it might be

much easier to find other self-soothing things to do.

I'm wondering though - if one part of it could be that food is just

SO easy (it's there anyway) and doesn't SEEM as selfish - because it

doesn't SEEM like it is self-soothing (it's just eating)... but to

REALLY self-soothe can seem SO selfish...

Sinfully and delightfully selfish as a matter of fact

Temptingly selfish!!!

Hey! It seems like the actual definition of selfish (without a nada

spin on it) would be " about the self " - or something like that. Is

that a bad thing?

Free

> Thanks BabaClay, This is all good advise, particularly distracting

myself.

> Most of my eating 'binges' are about feelings, not self control, or

even liking

> the food I eat. I can lose 10 pounds in a week, eating practically

> nothing...and of course put on 10 just as easily. I'm staying

within a 10-15 pound

> 'variable', lose/gain. I think what I'm searching for is that link

to my

> emotions that food satisfies. I actually like that too-full

feeling, it's so

> opposite of hungry in a weird way. Thanks, Carol

>

>

[Guest guest]

Not me. I want a freaking cigarrette and so I eat a thin mint girl

scout cookie- lol.

I so want a cigarette and it drives me nuts and so I've put on an

extra 35lbs over the past 15mos since I quit smoking. It's totally

an oral fixatin thing and add on to it that I use to work out when I

first quit and then got pregnant and doctor took me off my work out

routine b/c I was high risk (lost the first baby at 7weeks

gestation), I just gained so much weight during pregnancy and

haven't taken it off. I've realized a lot of the reasons why I smoke

and now eat are anger/control/addiction issues...a long hard battle

w/one step at a time. Add onto it now that my taste buds have come

back better than ever since I quit smoking and its a double edged

sword- lol.

Oh well. I'm being patient w/myself but I so don't want to buy

anymore clothes and get use to this size. It's depressing to me, but

again, I try not to think on it too much.

Kerrie

> Thanks BabaClay, This is all good advise, particularly distracting

myself.

> Most of my eating 'binges' are about feelings, not self control,

or even liking

> the food I eat. I can lose 10 pounds in a week, eating

practically

> nothing...and of course put on 10 just as easily. I'm staying

within a 10-15 pound

> 'variable', lose/gain. I think what I'm searching for is that

link to my

> emotions that food satisfies. I actually like that too-full

feeling, it's so

> opposite of hungry in a weird way. Thanks, Carol

>

>

>

>

> This is how I handle that problem:

>

> I realize I food is emotionally satisfying; so I don't try to

conquer

> it. I try to cope. Like I go to the store and say to

myself, " Next week I

> can have pie, this week I'll have only fruit and maybe some peanut

butter

> honey sandwich if I get to needing sweets. If something is

really

> upsetting, I let myself eat for comfort. Just try to limit it

> somewhat. I try to distract myself when possible, walks, email,

bath,

> books, movies. I find I can't stand to listen to TV broadcast

news, except

> BBC world, because it is too upsetting, so I get my news from the

Internet,

> so I'm not driven to the Fridge, vacuuming up the entire contents.

>

> A few rules/guidelines. No permanent Nevers; nothing totally off

> limits. Try and avoid stuffing myself, 'all you can eat buffets',

while

> amusing, must be limited to as infrequently as humanly possible.

When

> experiencing that completely stuffed sensation, I hold onto it,

feeling how

> somewhat unpleasant it feels, trying to save the memory, so as not

to do it

> the next day.

>

> Doing this, I have lost about 15 lb since last summer. I figure

it took

> awhile to go on; it will take some time to come off.

>

> Another thing, I try not to get to the point when I'm soooo very

hungry,

> 'cause then I have even less control than usual. Eat oatmeal with

banana

> for breakfast most days.

>

> The main principle is to be kind to myself, yet not completely

giving in to

> the compulsion. Give in some, draw back. Unlike drugs, alcohol,

and sex,

> we absolutely must have food, so we always got to make our peace

with our

> drives in that area.

>

> Good luck and Best wishes,

>

> 1!1 BabaClay

>

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